Umbuzo othi xa uza kuziva ukuba umntwana ushukunyiswa ngokukhawuleza uthatyathelwe ngolu hlobo ngokuthi "Uyakuthi nini na omnye umntu ukuba abe nokunyamekela umntwana?" Nangona kuthatha umama malunga neveki ezingama-24 ukuqala ukuziva ukunyuka komntwana , kuya kuthatha ixesha elide ngaphambi kokuba omnye umntu abe nokuva ukuba umntwana ukhawule ngaphandle. Uya kufuneka ube neveki ezimbalwa ngaphambi kokuba uxoxe ngamava kunye neqabane lakho, intsapho okanye ngabahlobo.
Ngethuba elithile phakathi kweveki 28 ukuya ku-32 zokukhulelwa abanye abakuzungezile bangaqala ukuziva ukufuduka umntwana xa bebeka izandla zabo kwisisu sakho ngexesha elifanelekileyo nakwiindawo ezifanelekileyo. Nangona usenokuba uzive uhamba ngeveki ezimbalwa, umntwana kufuneka abe mkhulu ngakumbi ngaphambi kokuba abe nokuvalelwa ngaphandle.
Nangona kunjalo, intshukumo ingaba yintsholongwane kwaye kunokubonakala ngathi umntwana wakho uyakuphepha ukuvalelwa ngumntu ngaphandle kwakho. Basenokufuneka babe nesineke baze balinde uze uqhubeke nokukhulelwa.
Yintoni Ethintela Abanye Ukuba Bavelele Iintsana Zakho Ukuhamba
Kukho izinto ezingenza kube lula ukuba abanye banokuziva ukuba umntwana wakho uhamba. Ezi ziquka:
- Ukugqithisa okongezelelweyo: Ukuba ukhuluphele okanye uthwala ubunzima obusondeleyo esiswini sakho, kunokuthatha ixesha elide ukuva umntwana ngenxa yokuba ukunyuka kufuneka kube namandla kwaye kukhulu kunokuba kuvezwe ngaphandle. Oku akuthethi ukuba akunakwenzeka, kungekudala nje ngaphambili.
- I-placenta yangaphakathi: Ukuba i-placenta yakho ifumaneka phambi kwentsholongwane yakho, ukunyakaza kwentombazana yakho kuyakufuneka ibe yomelele kwaye ibe namandla ukuze ivezwe nge-placenta. Oku kuya kukwenza kamva ukuba uzive ukuba umntwana wakho uhamba okokuqala, ungabikho abanye.
- Isikhundla sentsana: Ezinye izikhundla umntwana wakho azithatha ukuthetha ukukhaba kunye nokunyakaza kulula ngakumbi kunabanye. Oku akuyona into embi kumntwana wakho, kunzima ukuchazela intsingiselo efanelekileyo, kodwa izalamane eziqhubekayo, ngokwenene, zifuna ukuziva ukutsala umntwana.
Ukuvumela Abanye Bavelele Ukuba Bantwana Bakho Bahamba
Unokuvuyela ukwabelana nokukhaba umntwana wakho kunye nomyeni wakho, iqabane, izalamane kunye nabahlobo. Kodwa abanye abantu banqwenela ukuva. Basenokungafuni ukuchukumisa umzimba wakho ngendlela esondeleyo yokuziva ukuba umntwana uhamba. Bangaba nokuphazamiseka abakwazi ukuchaza, nangona bexhasa ukukhulelwa kwakho.
Ukuba umyeni wakho okanye umlingane uhlala efuna ukuva ukuba umntwana wakho ukhawule, le nto ingamkeleka, ubuncinci kubucala lakho. Kodwa kwabanye, okanye kuluntu, unokufuna ukubeka imithetho ethile. Uya kufuneka unqume ukuba uzimisele kangakanani ukuzama ukubenza bazive besisu sakho. Ungabatshela ukuba kuvunyelwe xa kuvelelwe.
Kalula nje ngokuba uthe ewe kubo baziva ukuba umntwana ushukunywe kanye, akuthethi ukuba ubanikeze ukudlula konke ukufikelela. Unobunini obuphelele phezu komzimba wakho kwaye uthetha ngubani ekuthintela nini kwaye kuphi.