Hands off the belly belly!
Isisu sisendaweni yonke. Kungakhathaliseki ukuba uya kuphi le mihla ubona abafazi abakhulelweyo kunye nesisu esithandayo . Eneneni into eyoyimangalisa kungekudala kwixesha elidlulileyo. Nangona kutshanje nje kwiminyaka engama-50 edlulileyo abafazi babecinga ukuba ukukhulelwa kwabenza ukuba banamathele ngokwaneleyo ukuba bahlale ekhaya ngokuphindaphindiweyo kunokuba kunjalo, kunye nokubuyiselwa ekuzalweni komntwana kwashiya isibhinqa esibhedlele iiveki emva kokuzalwa okuqhelekileyo.
Namhlanje, abafazi bayaziqhayisa ngokuzi ukuba ukukhulelwa yinto enye yemvelo yobomi babo kwaye baqhubeka bephila.
Ngaloo mbonakalo kawonkewonke yabasetyhini abakhulelweyo bavela ngombono woluntu kuzo zonke izinto ebomini babo ukusuka kwindlela abagqoka ngayo, okokudlayo okanye ukusela kunye nendlela ababelethi babo bekhula ngayo. Enye yezona zinto zivame ukuva izikhalazo ezivela kwabasetyhini abakhulelweyo iingcebiso ezingafunekiyo kubantu abangaziwayo kwaye kubonakala ngathi banesidingo sokuba abantu abangaziwayo bathinte izibilini zabo.
Abanye besetyhini banomuva omfutshane wokumbathisa isalathisi eentendeni zabo ezithi "Hamba isisu!" akukho nto banako ukuyenza loo nto ingachukumiswanga okanye ingcebiso. Nazi ezinye iindlela ongakhetha kuzo kwamanye amava omama ekujonganeni nombono woluntu wokukhulelwa:
Belly Touching
"Ndihlala nje ngamehlo ezandleni eza kuza kum kwaye ngokukhawuleza ndiguqula isisu sami okanye ukunakekelwa kwabo," kusho uAmanda, umama wesine.
U-Sally, umama wokuba ngowokuqala, uthi "Ukuhlaziya isisu sabo kuye kwabangalisa abantu abambalwa emsebenzini ukuba bayeke le ntsikisayo."
"Ndizama ukubheka njengoko bazama ukwabelana ngamava," unikeza uLaura, elindele umntwana wakhe wesibini. "Abazami ukuba bathetha, bandivuyela nje."
"'Buyela!'" Uyamamangaza omnye umama. "Uya kumangaliswa kukuba ukukhwaza oku kunokwenza abantu bahambe."
Iseluleko esingathandekiyo
"Ndidla ngokumomotheka kwaye ndigubungela xa bethetha, nokuba ndiphulaphule okanye hayi," uGail ubonisa.
"Ngokuqhelekileyo ukugcina ukuba bangakuxeleli ukuba kutheni bachanekile kwaye uyiphutha. Yindlela elula kakhulu yokuphuma!"
"Ukuba bathetha into endiyazi ukuba ayilunganga ndidla ukubaxelela ukuba ugqirha uthe akuyena mna," kuchaza uSally. "Ngamanye amaxesha kubakhokelela kwizifundo ezithile abazifundileyo."
ULeeza, umama wabathathu uthi, "Ngenye indlebe nakwezinye."
U-Angelia uthi ngezinye izikhathi ukuphulaphula akuyona into embi, "Ndafunda izinto ezintle kakhulu kwabanye oomama ekulawuleni imihla ngemihla ngunyana. Into endiyichukumisayo yimiba yamandulo."
Kungakhathaliseki ukuba ukhetha njani ukuphatha izandla kunye namazwi ngexesha lakho lokulindela, khumbula ukuba xa uqala ukubonisa, uzakufuna isicwangciso.