Ukuziva Umntwana Wakho Uhamba Ngomntwana Owesibini Okhulelwe

Ukukhulelwa kwakho okwesibini kwenza yonke into ihluke, equka xa uqala ukuva ukuba usana lwakho luhamba. Ukuva ukuba umntwana wakho uhamba okokuqala ngexesha lokukhulelwa kuthiwa ukuvuselela. Nangona umama wokuqala angenakuziva ukuba umntwana ushukunywe kude emva kweeveki ezingama-18 ukuya ku-22, njengomama onolwazi, unokubona ukuba uvakalelwa umntwana wakho kungekudala.

Unokuthi uqaphele ukukhawuleza ekukhupheni okwesibini kuphela ngokukhawuleza, umzekelo malunga neeveki ezi-16 ukuya kwe-18.

Okanye unokwazi ukubona ngokukhawuleza, njengokuqala kwekota yokuqala. Usana lwakho luhamba ukusuka ekukhulelwe kwangaphambili. Nangona ngokuqhelekileyo umntwana uncinci kangangokuba kunzima ukuziva.

Ngubani Ovelela Ukunyuka Kwaso Umntwana?

Kwiimeko apho umama aziva umntwana usencinane ndivame ukuva izinto ezimbalwa:

Xa Ufanele Uxhalabele NgeMitshato Yomntwana Wakho

Kusenokuba isisemgangathweni ukuba ungacingi ukuba umntwana wakho ashukunywe emva koko ekukhuleleni, nokuba ekhulelwe kwakho okwesibini okanye ngaphezulu. Thetha ugqirha okanye umbeleki malunga naluphi na uxhalaba onalo lwakho nosana oluhambayo. Kukho izizathu zokuthi ungaziva usana kwaye ungenayo inkxalabo, nangona naliphi na ixesha ucinga ukuba ufanele uvale umntwana, kuyinto eqhelekileyo ukukhathazeka. Le yilapho umnxeba ugqirha okanye umbelethisi kubalulekile.

Unokuba uvakalelwa ngunyana malunga nexesha elifanayo kunye nosana lwakho lokugqibela okanye mhlawumbi kamva ukuba kukho na oku kulandelayo:

Ugqirha okanye umbelethisi uya kuhamba nayo yonke into nawe ngendlela efanayo yokuqashwa kwamanyathelo okuqala. Oko kwathiwa, ukuba nomntwana wesibini (okanye ngaphezulu) ngokuqhelekileyo kuyahluke kakhulu kwiyokuqala. Oku kaninzi amaxesha omama amangaliswa ngumama wesibini ngenxa yokuba bacinga ukuba bayazi ukuba bangalindela ntoni. Ngoko unganqikazi ukuthetha neengcali zakho ngcebiso. Zisetyenziselwa oomama okanye okwesibini ixesha loomama ngokunjalo nangokuqala koomama. Omnye uthe wathi: Ekukhulelweni kwakho kokuqala, ukhathazekile ngenxa yokuba awukwazi ukuba ulindele ntoni. Ukukhulelwa kwakho okwesibini, ukhathazekile ngenxa yokuba wenza kwaye ayisebenzi ngaloo ndlela.