Ubuntu boBuntu ngokuqhelekileyo bukhohlisiwe ngenxa yokuthotywa
Uninzi lwabazali bafuna umntwana wabo ukuba aphumle kwaye angakhathazeki kwaye uya kulukhuphaza xa umntwana engenanto. Nangona unyana okanye intombi ibonakala ilungelelaniswe kakuhle, ukuba uyathula kwaye ukhetha ukuchitha ixesha yodwa unokuqhubela abanye abazali kwiimeko zokuxinzezeleka.
Umbuzo kutheni? Inyaniso elula kukuba abanye abantwana bazalwa ngokwemvelo.
Yimpawu yokuba abantu abaninzi babonakala bengakhululekile, beyichaphazela njengento engafanelekanga yinto umntu abonwa ngayo njengentlalo-ntlalontle, exhalabileyo, okanye ekhukhumele.
Xa bejongana neengxaki zabo, ngabazali baya kubakhokelela umntwana onokuqala ukuba asebenzisane nabanye ngendlela engokwemvelo okanye engazinzileyo. Ukuba isiphumo asikho sikhulu, kusebenza kuphela ukuqinisekisa kumzali ukuba into ephosakeleyo xa, eneneni, into eyona nto inokuthi ifakwe ngumlindelo womzali.
Ukuqonda i-Introversion
I-Introversion yinkalo yobuntu apho umntu engabonakali okanye enomdla kwiimeko zentlalo ekhuthazayo. Ngelixa abanye abantu bakholelwa ukuba kukhethwa okanye isimo sengqondo, ukungeniswa kwangoku kuyisiseko apho umntwana wakho ebona ihlabathi ngokucacileyo.
Nangona abanye abantwana bephucula uluntu kwaye banokwakheka emoyeni ngamaqela asebenzisanayo, ama-introverts akwazi ukuphendula.
Ukuba i-introvert, ukugcina ngokukhawuleza kunye ne-clatter yentsebenziswano yentlalo ayinakuphazamiseka kuphela kodwa igaxa. Ukongezelela, ukungaphumeleli ukufikelela kwimilinganiselo yabanye kunokuncedisa ukuzithemba nokuzithemba ukuba umntwana unakho kakade.
Impazamo eyenziwa ngabantu abaninzi ekucingeni ukuba ukungeniswa kwinto efana neyodwa okanye ihlazo okanye ukuba i-introvert iyimvelo.
Enyanisweni, enye yeempawu zobungqina bokuba yi-intversion yinkcazelo yokuba neentlonelo kwiintetho zoluntu kunye neentsingiselo. Ama-Introverts axhamla ngakumbi kwaye axhulumene ngokuxhomekeke kunxulumene nabanye abalingana nabo. Ukwahlukana kuphela kukuba bathambekele ukwenza njalo ngaphakathi kobudlelwano obusondeleyo kwaye abanako ukuthobela iimfuno zeqela elinamandla.
Oku akusikhombisi ukuba zonke izethulo ziyafana okanye ezinye azifunanga ukuba zininzi. Ngokuqaphela kakuhle indlela abanye abasebenzisana ngayo, umntwana oza kuqala uya kuthatha amanyathelo okuhambisa ngaphandle kwendawo yakhe yokuthuthuzela, ngokuqhelekileyo kwisikolo esiphakathi okanye esikolweni esiphakeme.
Akunjalo ngaso sonke isikhathi, nangona kunjalo, kwaye ezinye izethulo zixhamla ngakumbi ukuba zihlale zincinci zentlalontle kunye nezinto eziqinileyo zobomi babo bonke ubomi.
Ukuphila Ngomntwana Ongenayo
Njengomzali , isipho esikhulu kunazo zonke onokusinika kumntwana onokungeniswa nguye ukwamkelwa. Nangona ufuna ukukhuthaza umzithokozo, umsebenzi wokuzilolonga, kunye nokusebenzisana okunempilo, kubaluleke kakhulu ukufumanisa apho umntwana wakho efumana ukukhula komoya okukhulu kwaye ufumana ukukhushulwa okukhulu kweengqondo.
Ukuba unika umntwana wakho igumbi lokwenza ukhetho-kubandakanywa nokuba nini na ukwandisa ii-horizons zentlalo-uya kuziva engekho ngaphantsi kokugwetyelwa kwakho okanye nayiphi na into engayilindele.
Kwakhona kubalulekile ukuba ubone izibonelelo kunye nezipho zokuhlala nomntwana oza kuqala:
- Umntwana onokungenayo angabonakali intshiseko engabonakaliyo yezinye iintsapho, kodwa ukuzithintela kwabo kuvame ukubavumela ukuba benze ukhetho olunzulu nolwazi olufanelekileyo.
- Abantwana bama-Introverted bavumi ukunyanzeliswa ngcinezelo yontanga kwaye bavame ukugwema ngabo bangenokubachaphazela.
- Njengokuba abaninzi abantwana abazethulayo bakhetha ukusebenzisana kunye nosapho okanye abahlobo abasondeleyo, banokuthi banokubuyela kuwe ukuze bafumane inkxaso xa kufuneka.
- Nangona uluntu ludinga ukuvuza abantu ngenxa yokunyaniseka kwabo kunye nokuzithemba, izethulo zivame ukugxininisa ngakumbi kwaye zingenakwenzeka ukuba zichithwe ngendlela, imidiya yoluntu, okanye uluvo oluphakamileyo kwigumbi.
Ekugqibeleni, zibuze ukuba umntwana wakho onokuqala uyonwabile kwaye ulungiswe kakuhle. Ukuba impendulo ngu "ewe," zama ukubuyela emva kwaye uvumele ukuhamba naziphi na uxhalaba okanye izinto ezilindelekileyo.
Ekugqibeleni, ukungeniswa kwinto engekho into efanayo nokukhathazeka kweentlalo okanye ukukhubazeka komntu. Kuyinto nje yinto yokuba ngubani umntwana wakho kunye nomntu wobuntu olwabelwana ngazo ezinye iincwadana ezenziwe ngokutsha kwiimbali ezivela ku-Abraham Lincoln no-Albert Einstein kuBill Gates kunye noJK Rowling.
> Umthombo:
> Condon, M. kunye noRuth-Saad, uL. "Ukuphendula kubafundi abangenayo kunye neentloni: Izikhokelo ezihamba phambili zootitshala nabacebisi." Vula J Nurs. 2013; 3;: 503-15. INGXELO: 10.4236 / ojn.2013.37069 P.