Ndinomntwana kwintsapho yam esondeleyo ekhuphisana kakhulu. Kwaye akahlali edlala imidlalo emihle. Uhlala ephazimulisa xa ephumelela kwaye uzama ukusola omnye umntu xa elahleka, okanye utshintshe imithetho kwiminithi yokugqibela ukuze angakwazi ukulahlekelwa. Ngelixa ukhuphiswano lubulungile, kunjalo nebala lokudlala. Oku kubangela ukuba umbuzo omdala ubudala obawo (ubuncinane uyenzela kum) - ngaba sivumela umntwana wethu ukuba athole ukhuphiswano okanye ngaba sidlala ukuze siphumelele, sinethemba lokuba baya kuba nokukhuphisana ngokubheka kwethu?
Izikolo ezintathu zokucinga
Iingcali zabazali zibonakala ziwela kwiindlela ezintathu ezahlukileyo kumbuzo wokuba sifanele siphumelele umntwana ngokufanelekileyo.
- Ewe-vumela umntwana ukuba anqobe ukuze akwazi ukuzithemba
- Hayi - gcina inqanaba lesigaba sokudlala kuba uvumela umntwana ukuba anqobe xa ekhuphisana nabanye
- Ngamanye amaxesha - ukubeka umlinganiselo phakathi kokuphumelela kweso sihlandlo kunye nezifundo ezinokuvela ekulahlekelweni.
Ewe "inkampu" uvakalelwa kukuba kukho iingcinezelo ezaneleyo kwihlabathi ngengqondo yomntwana yokuzixabisa ukuba abazali abafanelekanga ukudala iimvakalelo zokungafaneleki. "Abaninzi abaphumeleleyo," bathi, "baya kuba ngcono ngabo. Oku kuya kubomeleza ngokuchasene nabanye abantu ekuhambeni kwexesha ngenxa yokuba baya kuba neengqiqo eziqinileyo zokuzimela. "
Andiyi kungena kwiqela elithi "Ewe" kuba ndicinga ukuba kudala ingqiqo yecandelo lokhuseleko kwaye ivelise iimvakalelo zokufumana ilungelo emva koko xa befumanisa indlela abangenalwazi ngayo kwizinto ezithile.
Ukuba bahlala bephumelele umdlalo xa bedlala nomzali, abaziveki bekhuthazwa ukuba basebenze kanzima kwaye bahlaziye izakhono zabo kumdlalo olandelayo okanye ukhuphiswano.
I-"Hayi" inkampu ibonakala iyakholelwa ukuba kufuneka sibe sobwenene kunye nabantwana bethu kwaye sibalungiselele ukunyaniseka kwezinto zobomi "bokudla inja-inja".
Ukuba siyazibandakanya, zigqiba, ngoko ziya kuba zilungele ubomi kwaye zidideke kakhulu xa zihluleka okanye zilahlekelwe ngokufanelekileyo, ukhuphiswano. Ukuba ababuthathaka okanye abanganeleyo, ukungaphumeleli kwintcintiswano kuya kubakhuthaza ukuba babe namandla, banamakhono amaninzi kwaye banokuqina. A
Kodwa oko kubonakala ngathi leli qela lingakuhoyili lixesha lokudangala. Ukuba umntwana ulahlekelwa ngokuphindaphindiweyo kumncintiswano nomzali okanye umntakwabo omdala, unokuyeka okanye ahambe kwenye into apho banethuba elingcono lokuphumelela. Umntwana olahlekelwa zihlandlo ezili-10 kwi-10 kwi-free cast throwing strioting inokukhuthazwa ixesha elithile ukuze aphucule, kodwa xa kuba ngumtya we-20 okanye 30 ukulahlekelwa, unokukwazi ukuyeka ukuzama.
Ndivame ukuwela kwicala "ngamanye amaxesha" iqela labazali abazama ukulinganisa amava okukhuphisana ukuze abantwana bafunde ukulahlekelwa ngububele kodwa kananjalo banokuthi "banandiphayisa." Xa umntwana enamava kwaye evakalelwa kukuba ngamanye amaxesha angaphumelela phezulu, baya kuqhubeka bezama kwaye bahlale bekhuthazwa ukuphucula.
Ukugcina iNkundla yokuLinga iNqanaba elingakumbi
Ingcamango yokuvumela umntwana ukuba aphumelele - "ukuphonsa umdlalo" - awukho oothixo abaninzi.
Sibona umsebenzi wethu ngokufundisa abantwana ukuba bahlangabezane neengxaki kwaye bahlale befuna ukukhula. Oku kufuna ukuba sigcine isigaba senkundla kwaye "vumela umdlali ongcono kakhulu ukuwina."
Ndiyavumelana naloo ndlela, kodwa kukho iinqunto esinokuzenza ukuze kugcinwe inkundla njengendlela enokwenzeka ngayo ngelixa sinika amathuba okunqoba abantwana bethu.
Sebenzisa ama tees ahlukeneyo. Kwibala legalufa, kukho amaxesha amathathu wee tees ekuqaleni kwendawo. Iingqungquthela zobuncintiswano zide kakhulu kwaye zijoliswe kubadlali begalufu abanolwazi abanomgangatho ophezulu. Iingqungquthela eziphakathi, okanye iimhlophe ezimhlophe, zenzelwe i-golfers ezifanelekileyo kwaye kukho enye iisethi zee tee (iifom ebomvu) kufuphi nomngxuma wegolfu omtsha okanye mhlawumbi abasetyhini abangenamandla okushaya ibhola kude kube kude.
Singawasebenzisa le "para tegm ehlukeneyo" xa sidlala imidlalo kunye nabantwana bethu. Singabanika intloko emfutshane ukuqala emncintiswaneni, okanye bavumele ukuba badulele iibhasiki ngebhaksi engaphantsi kommiselo 10 'ubude - ubuncinane kwithuba elithile. Esi sicwangciso esihle sokwenza intambo yokudlala phakathi kwezakhono zabantwana besikhokelo kunye nezakhono eziphakamileyo zamanqanaba omzali okanye umntakwabo omdala.
Bambisana nabazali. Sifumene indlela ephumelele kakhulu kwimidlalo ngaphandle kokuba "ukuvumela umntwana ukuba anqobe" kukudlala imidlalo amaninzi kumaqela. Sidibana nomntwana omncinane ngomzali omnye kunye nomntwana omdala kunye nomnye umzali okanye umntakwabo omdala. Xa bedlala kumaqela, umntwana omncinane unethuba elingcono lokuwina. Isitshixo siqikelela amanqanaba ekhono amaqela ukuze wonke umntu anelungelo elilinganayo lokuwina umdlalo.
Umzekelo omhle wezemidlalo. Njengesisondlo sam, ukuba ukuphumelela kuba yinto yonke, ngoko kukho ukuthambekela kokuba sisisindo esibi . Ngoko, njengomzali, xa usinqoba, yibani nomusa kwaye uncedise. Xa ulahleka, yibani nomusa kunye novuyo. Vumela abantwana bazi ukuba ukugcoba kwenza abanye bazive bebi. Ukuba ubonisa imidlalo emihle kumncintiswano, abantwana bakho baya kufunda ukubaluleka kokuwina nokulahlekelwa kwiklasi kunye nentlonipho.