Ngaba uzive ukhululekile kuyo yonke imisebenzi yakho? Nantsi indlela yokuxinezeleka
Ewe, ukutshiswa komdlalo wezemidlalo yinkinga yehlabathi yokuqala. Kulilungelo lokukwazi ukufumana umnqweno womntwana wokubandakanyeka ngokwenene kumsebenzi. Kodwa ukwazi ukuba akunakukwenza ubunzima bakho buncinci njengomzali, imihla ngemihla. Ngoko masiqaphele ukuba le nto inenhlanhla-ukuba neyodwa ingxaki, kodwa ingxaki nangona kunjalo.
Uphi Umbhobho Wokutshisa Umzali Ovela Kuyo?
Abazali bezemidlalo banokuziva becoceke kwiindlela ezininzi, njengabo bonke abazali.
Unembopheleleko kwintsapho yakho, umsebenzi wakho kunye nekhaya lakho. Yenza njalo iqabane lakho kunye nezingane zakho. Kwaye ngamanye amaxesha aphikisana, njengokuba xa abantwana babini banomdla obalulekileyo ngosuku olufanayo. Yiyo iresiphi yoxinzelelo. Ngoko uvakalelwa njengento yonke kusemahlombe akho, ukusuka kwimenyu yokutya kuze kube yenzeke kwisigqeba esikhulu seqela lokuxhaswa ngemali emsebenzini wesikolo-ukuhlola kunye nokuthutha. (O, ukuqhuba!)
Kukho iiyure ezingama-24 kuphela ngosuku, kwaye sinokuzizalisa ngokulula ngemisebenzi enxulumene neyodwa yeendima zethu (umzali, umntwana, umqeshwa, umgcini wezindlu, i-team yevolontiya yezemidlalo). Kodwa oko akuzinzileyo, kunjalo. Ukuba uziva uphelelwe amandla okanye ungashukunyiswa, okanye ukuba awukuhle kakhulu kuyo nayiphi na imisebenzi yakho, unokutshisa. Ngoko unokuhlangabezana njani nale ndlela-inomsebenzi onzima kakhulu?
Iindlela ezili-6 zezemidlalo Abazali banokutsha
Akukho mnandi kwintsapho xa umama noyise bexakekile.
Ngoko yabona ukuba ezinye zezicwangciso zinganceda ukunciphisa uxinzelelo-ubuncinci ngokwaneleyo ukufikelela ekupheleni kwexesha okanye unyaka wesikolo, xa unokuthatha umoya okhulu.
Bhenka ngokwakho. Yep, hlala okuthile. Ngaba uhlale uhlala kwimisebenzi yomntwana okanye kwizifundo (mhlawumbi ufuna enye into okanye ahlupheke)?
Ukuba unesidingo sokuphuka, zinike imvume yokuqhekeza ezinye zezi zenzo. Umlingane wakho, ugogo nomkhulu, okanye elinye iqela lomzali lingakunceda. Okufanayo kuya kwiimidlalo kunye nokuhamba ngeeveki zokuhamba. Ukulahla ityala uze uthathe ixesha elide. Umntwana wakho akayi kukhunjulwa ukuba ulahlekelwe ngumcimbi (eqinisweni, ukuba uyithumela kunye nonina wakhe ozithandayo okanye usapho lomhlobo, mhlawumbi uyayithanda). Uya kukhumbuza ukuba uhlala unamaqela kwaye unomsindo ngenxa yokuba utshisiwe.
Ukuba unendima enkulu yokuvolontiya kwimidlalo yomntwana wakho, awukwazi ukushiya wonk 'umntu exhonywe ngokukhupha phakathi kwexesha. Kodwa unako ukudlulisela eminye imisebenzi yakho kwabanye kwiqela. Cela uncedo; ungacingi ukuba akukho mntu unokunika! Kwaye unokubeka igama ngeli xesha elizayo, kuya kufuneka ufune ukubuyela emva kokuzibophezela kwakho.
Fumana indlebe enovelwano. Ingaba ungumlingane wakho, umhlobo, isihlobo, okanye umgulane, kunceda ukuba umntu onokuthetha naye ngendlela ovakalelwa ngayo. Iphuzu alikho ukuba bakuncede uqikelele izisombululo (ngaphandle kokuba oko kuya kunceda kuwe), kodwa ukuba uphulaphule, ngaphandle kokugweba, ukukhala kwakho malunga nendlela ovakalelwa ngayo.
Ngamanye amaxesha ukuphuma ngaphandle kukho konke okufuneka uziva ungcono, nangona akukho nto itshintshe kwishedyuli okanye uxanduva lwakho.
Qhubeka kunye nesimo sakho. Njengoko umdlali wakho kufuneka adle ngokufanelekileyo, ahlale emgangathweni, kwaye ufumane ukuphumla okwaneleyo, kunjalo nawe. Emva kwakho konke, usebenza ngokusemgangathweni ukuhamba ngeveki! Ngoko landela umkhokelo ngamnye. Khangela iindlela zokuzibandakanya kwimisebenzi yomzimba (njengokuthatha uhambo ngexesha lomntwana wakho). Nangona kuphazamisekile ukuyeka ixesha lokuphumla ngenxa yokulala, kuyafaneleka. Unokubukela iTV ngexesha le-off-season. Nokutya ukutya okunempilo kwintsapho yonke.
Zinqumle ukulahla xa ushaya i-drive-thru kwangoko, kodwa uyazi ukuba ukugxila ekutya okunesondlo kukunceda uzive ungcono, kunye nokubeka umzekelo omhle kubantwana bakho.
Ukunciphisa ezinye iingcinezelo ebomini bakho. Ukuba izinto zezemidlalo zezingane zakho zibangela uxinzelelo oluninzi, kwaye awukwazi ukwenza okuninzi ukucima abo (ubuncinane ngoku ngoku), khangela ukuba kukho nezinye izinto ezixinzelelekayo ongazenzayo. Mhlawumbi ungafumana inkonzo yokucoca okanye intshontsho, kwangoko kanye kanye kwithuba elithile, ukuthatha imisebenzi yokulungisa ekhaya kwiplati yakho. Mhlawumbi kukho iprojekthi emsebenzini onokuyibuyisela kwakhona okanye ukukhawuleza okanye ukushiya. Mhlawumbi unokwenza ulungelelanise uxanduva lwezentlalo oluza kuzenza kube lula: Ukuguqula isidlo sesidlo okanye isidlo seeholide kwi-potluck, umzekelo. Mhlawumbi unako ukuphuma, okanye ukuhla, imisebenzi yokuzithandela yesikolo ngoku. Zithenge ixesha elincinane-ufumane ngokwaneleyo ukuba uchithe ngokwakho uhlawulelo.
Ibond kunye neqela lakho. Njengomdlali, umntwana wakho kufuneka akhuphe uxhulumano oluqinileyo kunye neqela lakhe . Wena, nawe, uya kuziva ungcono kwaye ungatshitshiswa xa unxibelelwano oluhle loluntu. Oku kunokuthetha ukwandisa ubudlelwane bakho nabanye abazali bezemidlalo (okwenza kube lula kuwe ukuncedana omnye). Okanye kunokuthetha ukuba uqiniseke ukuba unamaziko asekuhlaleni ahlukeneyo kwimidlalo yabazali bomhlaba. (Kusekho ngaphandle!)
Khangela okulungileyo. Esikhundleni sokuphupha malunga nokuba le nto iya kuphelelwa nini , qaphela into ophuma ngayo kubazali njengamanje. Ukuyinqwenela ukuba ikhona iresiphi yokuzisola kunye nentukuthelo. Awunanto ukuzonwabisa ngezinto ezithandekayo kunye nomdlalo ongadingekile, kodwa unokuzama ukuwukhathalela kwaye ugxile kwizinto ezilungileyo.