Ukuba ulungele ukuzisa umntwana omtsha kwintsapho yakho kwaye sele unomntwana osemncinci , unokuba uzibuza ukuba umncinane wakho uza kuthatha njani utshintsho.
Yonke intsapho iyahlukileyo kwaye yonke into encinane iya kubamba iyakwamukela umntwana omtsha ngokwahlukileyo, kodwa ukuqinisekisa ukuba wonke umntu ulungele njengoko kunjalo, nasi izicebiso ezithile zokutshintshela kwintsapho kunye nomntwana omncinci kunye nosana.
Thetha nomntwana wakho
Kungabonakala kucacile, kodwa enye yezona ndawo ezilula ukuqala ukulungiselela indlela intsapho yakho eya kutshintsha ngayo ukuthetha nje nomntwana wakho. Mbuze kuye oko bacinga ukuba kwenzeke ukuze bafumane apho iingcinga zabo zikhona. Ukuba ukhulelwe, umzekelo, umntwana wakho usenokuba neengcamango zokuba unesisu esiswini sakho. Ukuba uyamkela, unokufumana imibuzo malunga nokuba umntwana uvelaphi.
Yenza umsebenzi wokudlala
Ukuphosa umntwana wakho onedodoli okanye umdlalo ofanayo unokuba yindlela enkulu yokuzisa umxholo wokunyamekela umntwana. Ziqhelise indlela yokutshintsha i-diapers okanye i-tip-toe kufuphi ne-playpen okanye isikrebhu okanye indlela yokunyamezela umntwana. Unokwazi ukunika umntwana wakho isethi yokufumana umntwana ukuze ancede unokunyamekela umntwana xa efika. Amantombazana amthandayo ayenomsebenzi okhethekileyo "wemisebenzi" ukunceda umama xa kwakukho umntwana omtsha ebhodini. Ngaba kunokunceda uncedo olulandelwayo ukutshintshisa ezo ziphelo, kunjalo?
Yenza nayiphi na iinguqu zezinto eziphambi kwexesha
Ukuba uzakufuna ukwenza nayiphi na inguqu yomzimba, njengokuguqula umntwana osuka kwisibhedlele ukuya kwibhedlele ukuze wenze umntwana osandul 'utsha, unokucinga ukuba wenze utshintsho ngaphambi kokuba umntwana eze. Ukuba umntanakho uyakubona uzama ukuthatha isikhalazo sakhe, unokumkhathaza umntwana.
Ukwenza utshintsho ngaphambi kwexesha kwaye ubhiyozele into yokuba umntwana wakho omncinci "inkunzi enkulu" ngoku ofumana izinto ezintsha kunokunceda ukwenza olo tshintsho lube lula.
Makwenzeke ngokuqhelekileyo
Ukunyaniseka, kwintsapho yethu, asizange sihambe ngaphesheya ukuze silungiselele umntwana wethu wobomi kunye nosana olutsha. Kwiminyaka emi-2 ubudala, abantwana abasenakuqonda yonke into malunga nosana olutsha kunye neendlela ezininzi, kunengqiqo ukuvumela ukuba utshintsho luveze ngokwenyama. Sathetha malunga nosana kwaye senza into enkulu malunga nomkhonto wendlu endlwini kamkhulu wakhe xa umntwana weza, kodwa ngaphandle koko, asizange sizame ukugxininisa ukuba ubomi bethu bunokutshintsha kangakanani. Siphatha umntwana omtsha njengengxenye eqhelekileyo yentsapho kunye nabantwana bethu abaselula bahamba kunye neenguqu ngaphandle kwemibandela. Izingane ziyakwazi ukuthabatha ezininzi kwiimvakalelo zethu kunye noxinzelelo , ngoko kunokuba luncedo ukuthatha amanyathelo okugcina iingxoxo malunga nokukhanya komntwana kwaye kulungile.
Nika Isipho Sobomi
Ezinye iintsapho ziye zafumanisa ukuba kunceda ukuba umntwana omtsha "izipho" wakhe umzalwana okanye udade omkhulu ngesipho esikhethekileyo. Ngoko ngelixa umntwana omtsha ehamba ngokugqithiseleyo ngononophelo oluninzi lwabadala, udade omkhulu okanye umzalwana unokufumana ingqwalasela eyongezelelweyo kwisipho esithile esivela kuye.
Kwintsapho yethu, umntwana wethu wesine "wanikela" abazalwana bakhe abadala isipho esikhethekileyo abasebenzisa kunye kunye nabantwana bam abadala basakhuluma ngeli xesha. Ibhonasi ibonisa ukuba isipho yinto enokukunceda ukufumana umntwana omncinci ngelixa abazali babantwana bamba ukuphumla okufunekayo kakhulu. Ezinye iziphakamiso zezipho zabantwana abancinci zingabandakanya usuku olukhethekileyo, umdlalo wokudlala, incwadi entsha yokubala imibala, kunye neekrayoni, okanye nekhamera encinane engayisebenzisayo ukuba idlale "i-photographer."
Musa ukuMisela
Ukuba umntwana wakho ongabonakali unomdla kumntwana omtsha, ungawuxinzezeli. Umntwana wakho unokufuna ixesha lokulungisa kwaye ulungiselele ukugcina umntwana usekude ngoku.
Ngeke kuthathe ixesha elide ngaphambi kokuba umntwana wakho akhule kwaye baya kudlala-kwaye mhlawumbi bafikelele kwi-squabbles-ndawonye.