Ukukhulelwa kungaba ngumsebenzi onzima, ngakumbi kwi-trimester yokuqala. Ukukhulelwa kokuqala kuyaziwa ukukhupha okugqithiseleyo malunga nantoni na. Phakathi kokudinwa nokugula kwasekuseni , kuncinci kakhulu ukushiya omnye umntwana. Nangona kunjalo, baninzi oomama bakwazi ukukwenza yonke imihla. Iyintoni imfihlo yabo?
Uyakhumbula ukukhulelwa kwakho kokuqala? Mhlawumbi walala apha xa unako.
Mhlawumbi uvumela izinto zidibanise kuba iqabane lakho lingazinakekela. Oku akunjalo xa encinci yakho ijikeleze. Kufuneka ube sezinzwaneni zakho kwaye unako ukunyamekela kuye kunokuba unqabile. Lo ngumngeni wokukhulelwa okulandelayo.
Nazi ezinye izicwangciso zokunyamekela umntwana omncinci xa ukukhulelwa kwakho kukufumana okusemandleni akho:
Cwangcisa ngoko
Ukuba uyazi ukuba ngaloo ntsasa ixesha lakho elibi kunokuba uzive uhamba njani, cwangcisa ukwenza okungakumbi xa ubusuku. Ukuba unesifo sokulala, oku kunokuba luncedo ngakumbi ukucwangcisa ukwenza izinto xa uvukile kwaye mhlawumbi abanye abantu abangekho. Ukushiya ishedyuli yakho ukuhlangabezana nendlela ozivakalelwa ngayo ukuba uhamba ngokugqithiseleyo okufuna ukuba utshintsho oluthile luyingcipheko.
Nciphise iMigangatho Yakho
Khumbula ukuba uxakekile. Uyakhula enye umntwana; awuyivila. Unemvakalelo ngokwenyama into ekhusela okanye yenza kube nzima kuwe ukufeza yonke imisebenzi ekhoyo.
Slack kancane. Ukuba kuthatha iiveki ezimbini ukuba ujikeleze ukutshintshela amaphepha okanye ukuba uvumela ukuba impahla ihlambuluke, ihlabathi aliyi kuhlukana.
Hlaziya ukucinga kwakho
Ngoku, asinakuthetha ngokuzikhiya kwigumbi lakho kwaye uvumela umntwana wakho ukuba awulewule apha. Kodwa ukuba ngaphambili uye wacinga ukuba umntwana wakho omdala akufanele abukele umabonwakude, mhlawumbi ngoku yisikhathi sokuvumela ithelevishini iluncedo.
Omnye umama endiyazi ukuba uya kutshintsha uluhlu lwevidiyo zomculo wengane, kodwa wabukela umabonwakude. Xa wayeva ukuxhalabheka kwezaziso ezaza wabukela umabonwakude ngelixa egijimela kwindawo yokuhlambela. Omnye umama wafungela ngokuphumla isiqingatha seyure phambi komboniso onobubele umntwana kunye nomntwana wakhe osempeni. Yintoni ongayenza ngento efana nale, ayiyi kuguqula ngokupheleleyo indlela ocinga ngayo okanye uzive ngayo? Ngaba unayo ibhakethi yamathoyizi ayethandwa kakhulu kodwa oko kuphela kwaphuma xa umntwana wakho encinane efuna ikhefu? Kuthiwani ngeDVD enokuhlala nayo?
Sebenzisa iiNcedo zakho
Mhlawumbi ixesha lokunciphisa izindinganiso zokugcina indlu okanye ufumane uncedo. Umlingani wakho uphendule ngokucacileyo ukuba umntu akuncede. Ukuncedisa imisebenzi eyongezelelweyo, kuquka ukuhlamba nokupheka kunokunceda kakhulu. Nangona ngamanye amaxesha kusetyenziswe iishedyuli okanye nje indlela ubomi busebenza ngayo, oku akuyona inketho enkulu kuyo nayiphi na isizathu. Abahlobo kunye nosapho bakho nabo bangaba yindawo yokuya kunceda, ngokukodwa kunye neminye imisebenzi emikhulu.
Ukuba unako ukwazi, fumana uncedo. Oku kunokuthetha ukuba unomhlobo ovuma ukukunceda ngononophelo lwabantwana ukuba ube ne-nap in. Okanye unokuba unqume ukuba ngoku kuya kuba yinto elungileyo kwenkqubo yosuku lomama.
Ezinye iintsapho zifumanisa ukuba ukuqasha intsha kummandla ukuza emva kwesikolo kunceda. Abanye basebenzisa ulutsha ngokunyamekela abantwana ngenkathi balala okanye bafumana imisebenzi ethile, ngelixa abanye basebenzisa le ntombazana ukwenza imisebenzi. Kukho kwakhona ukuqesha inkonzo yenkosikazi, nangona kungokungena kwaye wenze ukuphakama okunzima - umgangatho wokutshiza kunye neyendlu yangasese ukuhlamba kanye ngenyanga. Oku kunokugcina indlu ilawulwe kwaye ingabikho kwingozi yempilo yoluntu de ube uzive ungcono. Kufuneka ujonge kwakhona i-postpartum doula.
Cinga Ngaphandle kwebhokisi ekuziphatheni
Ukuba nomntwana xa ukhulelwe kukuhle ithuba lokusebenzisa izakhono zakho zobugcisa.
Uya kufuneka ufunde ukulinganisela ukunyamekela umntwana wakho xa uzinakekela wena kunye nosana. Ngamanye amaxesha isifundo esinzima kubazali ukuba bafunde. Ungakulibala ukuba ukunyamekela kwakho kubaluleke kakhulu, ngokukodwa xa ukhulelwa. Xa unako, yenza ixesha lokwenza into enhle kuwe, njenge-massage, okanye nje ihora elilimele linye kwivenkile yekhofi. Yenza ubuchule xa kuvela ekubeni nomusa kuwe. Ukuba uhlahlo lwabiwo-mali luqinile, jonga ukuba unokubeka eceleni iidola ezintlanu ngeveki ukufumana incwadi entsha okanye umculo, okanye into enokukuvuyisa kwaye ikunike ikhefu.
Ukukhulelwa kukuphela kweeveki ezingama-40, kodwa ngamanye amaxesha kunokuziva ngathi kuninzi ixesha elide. Khumbula, uya kuba neentsuku ezilungileyo kunye neentsuku ezimbi. Cela uncedo xa ufuna kwaye uqhubeke uzinakekela.