Ukudlala imihla ngenye yezinto ezinye iimama zivakalelwa kakhulu. Unokuhlangabezana nabamama abakhuluma "ngesidingo" somdlalo wokudlala okanye izixhobo zomdlalo wokudlala ogqibeleleyo. Kwesinye isiphelo sembala, ngokuqinisekileyo, uya kudibana nabazali abahlekisayo oko babona njengokunyanzeliswa kwentlalo kunye nokuhlaziya umdlalo ngokulawula oomama kunye noodade.
Konke ukuhlalutya kukwenene, kodwa.
Ababi. Akunjalo ngokwenene. Yonke idethi yokudlala - okanye ubuncinane kufuneka ibe - iyimnandi. Ziyolise izingane kwaye zihlekise abazali bazo.
Ukuba ucinga malunga nokuzama usuku lokudlala kodwa ungaqinisekanga ukuba luquka ntoni okanye nokuba ungayilungisa njani, ungakhathazeki. Esi sikhokelo siya kunceda uqalise.
Ngaba Umntwana Wami Ulungele Umhla Wokudlala?
Ukuze umntwana wakho aneminyaka engama-3 ubudala , ininzi yakhe yokudlala kunye nabanye abantwana iya kusetyenziswa ngokudlala ngokufanayo . Unokucinga ukuba oku kuthetha ukuba akafuni ukudlala nabanye abantwana, kodwa abancinci bayakuthanda ukuhlalisana, nokuba ngaba benza okuhlukileyo kunabantwana abadala. Inyaniso kukuba, abantwana banoma yimuphi unyaka banokufumana into ethile kumdlalo wokudlala, nokuba abantwana abancinci bafumaneka ekuboneni ubuso obutsha, bechukumisa amathoyizi amasha, kwaye baqhelisele "abangaziwayo."
Kwabancinci, ngokukodwa abo bangabinakekeli okanye abo abangenabantwana babo, usuku lokudlala lunokunikela elinye lamathuba okuqala ukugcina oontanga ixesha elide.
Ngokukhawuleza, uya kubona ukuba abantwana abancinane bafunda njani. Omnye umntwana angabonisa umntanakho indlela yokusebenzisa ithoyilo eyahlukileyo okanye angakhuthaza umntwana wakho ukuba asebenze ngokukhawuleza, agxume phezulu, aze amemezele. Ukuxelana komnye ngenye yezindlela ezibalulekileyo abafundi abaselula abazifundileyo.
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Ukuba uceba ukumema umlingane wakho kumntwana wakho, unokufuna ukugcina izinto ezimbalwa engqondweni ukuze uqinisekise ukuba izinto zihamba kakuhle, okanye ubuncinci njengento enxulumene nabantwana abancinci abanokulindela ukuya.
- Yiba yinto ecacileyo kodwa iguquke xa uhambisa isimemo. Ufuna ukuba nomhla ocacileyo (ngokuchasene "ufike ixesha elithile") kunye nexesha lemihla ("malunga ne-11") kodwa qwalasela ukuba amama akakwazi ukulawula amaxesha amaninzi okanye ukutshatyalaliswa kweminithi yokugqibela. Xa wena kunye nomnye umzali uyavumelana malunga nokuba nini kwaye kuphi, qiniseka ukutshintshiselana ngolwazi loqhagamshelwano ukuze akwazi ukubiza ukuba uyaphuma okanye ungathumela umyalezo ukuba umntwana wakho ugula kwaye kufuneka ukhansele.
- Jongana nombango wabantwana bakowenu. Ukuba abanye abantwana bakho baya kuba beenxa zonke, vumela umama wengane ukuba azi ukuba. Ukuba isivakashi sakho sinomzalwana kunye noodade, kufuneka ucace ukuba ngaba bayamenywa okanye bengabamenywanga. Oku kunokuthetha nje ukuthi, "Amanye a bantwana awamkelekanga!" okanye kubuza, "Ngaba ucinga ukuba unokufumana i-sitter yakho intombi ukuze abantwana banokudlala?"
- Cacisa ukuba unalindele ukuba umama ahlale okanye angahlali. Ukuba ulungile kunye nomntwana osemncinci ukuba anqunywe kwiiyure ezimbalwa, makumxelele umama ukuba, kodwa naye makahlonele xa efuna ukuhlala. Kungabonakala kulungile ukuba sikwazi ukunikezana ngokuphumula ngokucwangcisa ukuhlalwa kwexesha lokudlala, kodwa ukuba yedwa kwimeko enokubangela ukukhathazeka kunokuba abantwana bancinci. Ngaphezu koko, kuya kufuneka usebenze utshintsho lwe-diaper okanye ixesha lokutya (kunye neengozi), oku kuthetha ukuba uqhelanise nomnye umhlobo wesiqhelo kwaye usondele kuzo zonke izinto i-poop nepeepee.
- Vumela iindwendwe zakho ukuba zihlobo luni lokuhlaziya luya kuthi lufumaneke (okanye lungafumaneki). Ubumnandi bemidlalo yokudlala kufuneka ukuba yi-vibe; oko kuthetha ukuba akufanele uzive unesidingo sokondla isidlo sasemini okanye uchithe enye iminithi elongezelelweyo ekhitshini. Enyanisweni, mhlawumbi kungcono ukuba ugweme ixesha lomhla oza kufuna isidlo esipheleleyo ukususela ekubeni abantwana basenokuba ngabaqhayisa ngokutya , zombini oko badlayo nalapho bakudla khona. Kodwa kulungile ukucwangcisa ukuba ubuncinane i- snack yeentonga kunye nesiphuzo kunye neminkies elula kumama. Khumbula ukuxubusha ukutya kokutya okwaziwayo ngaphambi komhla wokudlala.
- Yicoca kwaye uyishiye. Unayo inkampani, ngoko mhlawumbi ufuna ukulungiswa ... kodwa unoluhlobo lwenkampani oluya kutshabalalisa umyalelo wekhaya emva kwemizuzu emva kokungena endlwini. Ngoko ke, isincomo esiqhelekileyo kukuba wenze indlu yakho ihlambuluke (cinga ukuba indlu yokugezela isuliwe phantsi) kodwa ukhululekile (cinga ukuba ufikeleleke kumathoyizi kwaye ulungele ukukhishwa). Musa ukuchitha iyure okanye ezimbini zomdlalo wokudlala uzama ukulungisa umonakalo ezi zinto zakha. Yintoni ukuphazamiseka kuwe yinkqubo yokuhlola nokufunda kubo. Shiya i-clutter ibe yimizuzu embalwa yokugqibela xa uya kukhuthaza wonke umntu ukuba ahlambuluke.
- Ukunikezela ngeendlela ezahlukeneyo zokudlala. Ukuba kukho into ebalulekileyo oyaziyo ukuba umntwana wakho ongeke afune ukwabelana naye, phakamisa kunye kwaye ugweme ukukrakra. Ngaphandle koko, vumela abantwana ukuba bazame kunye nazo zonke izinto kwibhokisi lebhokisi okanye kwindawo yokudlala.
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Kuthe kuthiwani ukuba nguwe owamenywa kwisidlali? Imithetho emininzi iyasebenza: umzekelo
- Qinisekisa ixesha kodwa ucebise umsikazi ukuba uguquguquke kwiimeko zokukhawuleza okanye ukuphazamiseka.
- Cacisa ukuba ngaba bantakwabo bayamenywa okanye baya kuba khona
- Buza into ongayenza ngayo. Kwaye ukuba uthetha nto, cinga ukuzisa umsizi wekhofi entsha yekofi kwithengi yekhofi yendawo. Oku, uqobo, uhlala endibathandayo kumndwendwe.
- Musa ukukhangela umsikazi ukuba ujonge. Enyanisweni, unokumxelela ukuba ahambe nge shishini lakhe ukuba uyayithanda kwaye uya kugcina iliso kwiintshana zexeshana.
- Sigwebo. AmaMama ayazi xa omnye umama ekhupha igumbi lokuhlala ekhumbisayo okanye ehlola izitya zokutya. Vumela konke okuya, kwaye ucinge nje malunga nokuba ngaba abantwana bakho abanalo ixesha elifanelekileyo.
- Musa ukugqithisa ukwamkela. Ihora lide lide ngokwaneleyo kwidethi yokudlala encinane. Unokuba ufuna ukuwolulela kwimiba emibini xa abantwana bexesha elihle kwaye akukho mntu ufuna i-nap, kodwa ekupheleni kwolu lucalulo, mhlawumbi unomntwana odeleyo kwaye onqabileyo oya kuvuyela ukufumana ikhaya kwiindawo ezakhe.
Indlela yokusingatha i-Meltdowns ne-Bad behavior
Ukwabelana kungaba ngumgaqo wasemzini kwabancinci. Nabo abo kunye nabantwana bakowenu abanakukwazi ukuqonda indima lo mdlali omtsha odlala naye ngohlobo lwezinto. Lindela ubuninzi bokubamba kunye nezinyembezi ezimbalwa. Xa kwenzeka, musa ukugxeka umntwana wakho, kwaye ukuba ungumdlali odlala naye, wenza omnye umama azi ukuba ulindele into enjalo kulo nyaka kunye nesigaba sophuhliso . Kunokuba uqeqe abantwana abancinci, ungathatha imizuzu embalwa ukubonisa indlela efanele yokuziphatha. Ukubonisa ngokucacileyo indlela owabelana ngayo umdlalo kunye nomdlali odlala naye. Okanye unike umntwana wakho ngenyameko ukuze abonise enye encinane indlela 'esenza ngayo.'
Ekugqibeleni, gcinani engqondweni ukuba lo ngumhla wokudlala. Ukuba kunokunyaniseka okanye akukho mnandi, awuyi kuphinda uyenze kwakhona. Ukuba kukho nto wena kunye nomntwana wakho onandiphayo, nangona kunjalo, phuma ikhalenda uze usethe umhla omtsha ukudibana kunye neepals.