Ukususela kumzuzu wakho umntwana usayina isivumelwano sakhe sokubhalisa kwaye wenza isifungo, uyazi ukuba umhla uya kuvela. Njengoko sisondela, iinkumbulo zamadolo ezikhuni kunye nobisi imifuno idlala ngqondweni yakho, kukubuza ukuba yintoni eyadlula iminyaka. Njengoko uxhalaba lwakho lukhula, kunjalo uluhlu lwakho lwemibuzo. Unqwenela iimpendulo, uphendukela ekuhambeni komntwana wakho ngokusuka kumbandela wokuxazulula ingxaki.
Yiba neentliziyo, hayi wedwa. Ukufumana iimvakalelo ezininzi ngeli xesha liqhelekile. Ukuzikhukhumeza, ukuxhalaba, kunye nokwesaba kwezinto ezingaziwa zivakalelwa ngabazali benkonzo yamava. Ukuqonda okumele ulindele xa umntwana wakho eshiya kwikampu ye-boot, uya kuthemba, ukunciphisa abanye uloyiko lwakho kwaye unciphise uxhalabo lwakho.
UNxibelelwano oluNcinane
Enye yemibuzo yokuqala yokunqumla ingqondo yomzali kukuba, "Ngaba ndiyakwazi ukuthetha nomntwana wam ngexesha loqeqesho oluyisiseko?" Isigqibo malunga nokunxibelelana sisisondele ngokupheleleyo kubaqeqeshi be-drill okanye ngabaqeqeshi boqeqesho. Kwiimeko ezininzi, ukuva kumntwana wakho ubuncinane kanye ngokulinganayo. Ukuba uxolo lwengqondo olongezelelweyo, mntwana wakho athathe ikhadi lefowuni.
Utshintsho lwemodi
Musa ukumangaliswa xa ufumanisa ukutshintsha kwemizwa kumntwana wakho xa babhala okanye batshayela. Ngokomzekelo, ukunyuka kwakho, umntwana ovuyayo-onenhlanhla unokuvakala ebuhlungu, egxininisekile, okanye othobekileyo kunokuba eqhelekileyo.
Izibhengezo zokuhlala ekhaya ziqhelekileyo phakathi kwamalungu enkonzo ahamba ngokuqeqesha oluyisiseko, ingakumbi ukuba eli lixesha lokuqala bebekho ekhaya.
Ukusabela komntu wendalo kumntu oxinezelekileyo kukunyuka kwaye ulondoloze usuku. Emva kwakho konke, oku kuye kwaba yi-modus operandi yakho ukususela kumzuzu wokuqala ukumbamba kwiingalo zakho.
Ngelishwa, oku akuyona inketho-ubuncinane kungekhona kwimizimba.
Into enokwenzayo inikeza indlebe enesihawu; ukubonisa inkxaso kunye nekratshi; kwaye uqinisekise umntwana wakho ukuba uqeqesho oluyisiseko aluyi kuhlala ngonaphakade. Kungekudala, umntwana wakho uya kugqitywa kwaye aqalise uqeqesho lwaso oluphambili oluyinqanaba lokugqibela lokuqeqeshwa kwaye apho baqinisekiswa khona kwi-MOS yabo (okhethekileyo umsebenzi wezempi - umsebenzi abaya kuba nawo). Ngokuqhelekileyo, ukutsho nje inkolelo yakho kumntwana wakho, kunye nezikhumbuzo ezintle zexesha elizayo, liya kugxininisa ingqalelo kwindawo eya kuyo endaweni yokuhamba.
Ukuthumela iincwadi
Khumbula uvuyo ofumanayo xa umntu ethatha ixesha lokubhalela aze akuthumelele ileta esikhundleni sokutshutshisa i-imeyile ngokukhawuleza? Abaqeshwa kwiziko loqeqesho aluyiyo eyahlukileyo. Iileta ezivela ekhaya ziyakwamkelwa kwaye ziyanconywa. Ngeentlobo ezongeziweyo, abazali abaninzi baquka i-assortment yezinto. Iinqununu eziqhelekileyo zizitampu, imali, amakhadi efowuni, ukunyathela ipapasho kunye neefoto.
Ngesinye isihlandlo, abazali bafumana umqeqeshi wokuqeqesha okanye umqeqeshi wokuqeqesha umyalelo ukuba umntwana enze izinto ezongezelelweyo okanye imisebenzi yokufumana iimeyile. Xa bebona isenzo njengesohlwayo, abazali bayabuza ukuba kufuneka bayeke ukuthumela iileta.
Xa ebuzwa, uninzi lwabaqeqeshi abayisiseko bavuma ukuba iileta zifanelekile umsebenzi owenziweyo. Ngaphandle kokuba umntwana wakho athi ngenye indlela, gcina ezo ncwadi ziza.
Ukuthumela amaPhakheji okuNakekela
Imigaqo nemimiselo malunga nokufumana iiphakheji zokunyamekela ngexesha leenkampu ze-boot zihluke kunokuba zithunyelwe ngeposi. Isizathu sokumisela kuxhomekeke kwisebe lenkonzo nokufakela. I-Army, umzekelo, inezikhokelo eziqinileyo ezilawula izinto eziphathekayo.
Abasebenzi bakwazi ukuba banako kwaye abanako ukufumana. Ukuba umntwana wakho ucela into ethile, qhubeka kwaye uyithumele.
Ukutyelela
Abazali abaninzi bayazibuza ukuba baya kufumana ithuba lokubona umntwana wabo ngexesha loqeqesho oluyisiseko.
Kwakhona, impendulo ixhomekeka kakhulu kwiSebe leenkonzo kunye nokufakela. Nangona kunjalo, ukuba uqeqesho olusisiseko lomntwana luwela ngexesha leholide enkulu, njengeKrismesi, banokufumana ukupasa kweso sifutshane ekhaya.
Iziqalo ezintsha
Umntwana wakho wenza ukhetho lokujoyina umkhosi kwaye akhonze ilizwe lawo. Ewe, oku kungasiphelo sesigxina kwiintetho zakho zemihla ngemihla okanye ukuva bebemema ebusuku, "Hayi, kukuphi isidlo sakusihlwa?"
Njengomntwana wakho, uya kulufumana ubunzima kwaye unqobe imingeni. Zithuthuzela ukwazi zonke iziphelo ezikhokelela kwiziqalo ezintsha. Njengoko unyana wakho okanye intombi yakho ibandakanyeka kule nguqulelo enkulu yobomi, indima yakho ishintshile kwaye yanda. Ngoku ungumzali we-US servicemember.
Ukuhlaziywa nguArmin Brott