Ukufumana umntanki kunokuba ngumngeni kubazali abaninzi, kodwa ukhululekile kunye nokuqiniseka ukuba lowo ukhe ukhetha ukugcina abantwana bakho bekhuselekile kwaye banolonwabo kunokungabi nantoni. Nazi ezinye iimpawu zokulumkisa ukuba uqeshe umntwana onobubele kwaye ufuna ukufumana omnye umntu.
Ayingenzi Incoko noMzali
Akuninzi kakhulu ukulindela umgcini wokubingelelisa abazali, ukumncumo kunye nokubandakanya entetho encinci.
Ufanele ukubuza malunga nezingane, unqwenela ixesha elifanelekileyo, kwaye uthetha ixesha elide ukwenzela ukuba uzive ukhululekile. Yiba nexhala xa i-sitter engenzi okufanayo kunye nabantwana; ekhupha ukukhupha okukhulu okungabonakalisa ukungabikho koqhagamshelwano olunzulu kuyo yonke indawo.
Ayibonakali kuKhathalelo okanye kugxila kwiiNgcebiso ezibonelelwe
I-sitter enhle kufuneka uqaphele imiyalelo oyinikezelayo kwaye uvume ukuqonda ngokupheleleyo. Ukuba uxelela i-sitter ukuba abantwana kufuneka bahlambe baze balele embhedeni ngexesha elithile, kwaye "uya kulungile, nantoni na" okanye ayibonakali ukuba uyayithobela nayiphi na into oyithethayo, kufuneka ukhathazeke malunga naluphi na olulandelayo olwenzekayo. Abazali banokukunceda ukuphepha oku ngokunika imiyalelo ebhaliweyo; Nangona kunjalo, i-sitter yekhwalithi iya kuthatha amanqaku okanye iyakwazi ukuphinda ibuye ibuyele ingcaciso.
Ifika emva kwexesha okanye ayiyi kuhlaziywa rhoqo
Uxinzelelo lwentsapho okanye okungeke kwenzeke, ngokuqinisekileyo lunokuthi kwenzeke, kodwa ukukhwabanisa ngokukhawuleza okanye ukuyeka ukukhusela abantwana kunokudala ubunzima obukhulu kubazali nokutshabalalisa izicwangciso ezicwangcisiweyo.
Ukuba i-sitter yakho ayikhathaleli ngokwaneleyo ngomsebenzi ukufika ngexesha kwaye uvalele izicwangciso zakho, uze ufumane umntu oya kuthi! Kuyafana no-sitter oxelela abazali njengoko bekulungele ukuphazamisa umnyango ukuba bafanele babe ekhaya ngexesha elikhethiweyo elihlukile kwizinto ezivunyelwene ngazo.
Abantwana Bakhala Ngomntu Oshiya Ngomnye Naye (okanye Yena)
Akuqhelekanga ukuba abantwana bangafuni ukuhlukana nomama okanye ubaba. Kodwa ukuba inkwenkwe iba yinto ephazamisayo ngenxa yokushiywa ngendawo ethile, abazali kufuneka babe neengcamango zesibini malunga nokusebenzisa loo mntu. Akunakuba ngaphezu kokuxhalabisa okanye ukutshatyalaliswa kwengane ngokuthi "hayi" kwaye uyibambelele kwi-sitter, okanye ithetha enye into. Ukuba abazali bafumanisa ukuba ngumntu kuphela ngokubhekiselele ekubeni ne-sitter ngokuqhelekileyo, jonga kwenye indawo into ebalulekileyo yomntwana wakho.
Izingane zibonisa ukuguquka kokuziphatha ngoxa uVukani okanye utshintshe kwi-Pattern pattern
Ukuba umntwana oqhelekileyo ophumayo kunye nozimeleyo ngokukhawuleza uqala ukunyanzeliswa aze ahlasele okanye aqale ukuvuka ubusuku bonke ngokuphazamiseka okanye ezinye izinto zokulala, kwaye utshintsho lunokubakho ixesha lokuhlala kunye ne-sitter, ngoko ke abazali kufuneka baxhalabele. Ukuziphatha kwezingane kunokutshintsha, kwanaxakeka, kodwa ezi ziimpawu ezilumkiso ezingafanelekanga. Abazali bamele baphendule ngokukhawuleza nangokukhawuleza, kwaye banqume ukuba ngaba uphando olongezelelweyo lufanelekile.
Abantwana babonakala beba neengozi eziqhelekileyo
Ukunqunyulwa okanye ukutshatyalaliswa okanye ezimbini kubonakala ngokuqhelekileyo kunye nezingane ezinempilo kwaye zikhuthele kwaye akufanele zibonise isizathu sokuba i-alarm kunye nabazali.
Sekunjalo, umntwana onobulungisa uya kukhawuleza ukunikezela ngengcaciso (okokuthi uhambo oluya epakini lwenze ukuba kuqhutywe isilayidi). Kodwa izingozi eziqhelekileyo ezibangelwa ukulimala ngaphaya koko kungabonakalisa ukungabi nongamela okanye ukugqithisa, ukusetyenziswa kakubi ngokomzimba. Iingozi kufuneka zisebenze njengeeflegi ezingabonisa ingxaki, ngakumbi ukuba zibonakala zininzi.
Ukumema omnye umntu ngaphandle (ngaphandle kwemvume yakho)
Ngezinye iinkhathi ii-Sitters zifumana ukuzithemba kweentsapho, kwaye ngoko ixesha livakalelwa "unelungelo" lokumema umhlobo okanye uhlawule ngokuhlwa. Nangona abazali ngamanye amaxesha banika le nto ukukunceda ukukhupha iingxaki zokuhlala ekhaya kuphela kunye nezingane, akuphelelwe umgca wokuba u-sitter uthathe le nyathelo ilungile.
Kungenzeka ukuba, abantwana bakho baya kufumana ingqwalaselo encinci kunye nokusebenzisana ukuba i-sitter yakho inomnye umntu apho. Kwaye, ngaphandle kokubuza kuqala? Esi sizathu esihle sokuphelisa.
Ibonakala i-Lethargic, iphelile
Uqeshe umntwana ukuba ubukele abantwana bakho ngelixa ufumana ixesha elihle (okanye ubuncinci bexesha elingenamntwana), ngoko ke ubuncinci beengxaki zakho kufuneka ukuba ngaba abantwana bakho bayamkelwa kwaye banomdla okhuselekileyo ekungabikho kwakho. Umgcini ofika obonakala ephelelwe amandla okanye ngaphandle kwamandla akayi kunika ukunakekelwa komgangatho. Abazali kufuneka bakhathazeke ngokungabikho kwongamela okanye u-sitter ozalela izitya ngokubhekiselele kwiTV kwaye unike umyalelo wokungaphazamiseki.
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