Kukho izizathu ezininzi zokuba abantwana abasenokuba bazilimaza ngenjongo.
Kuhlala kunzima ukubona umntanakho ukhuselekise, kodwa kukhanye ngakumbi xa edidekile okanye enomsindo ukuba uqala ukuzibetha. Oku akuyona into eqhelekileyo kubantwana-ngokuqhelekileyo, umntwana oza kumbetha omnye umntu xa ecaphukile kunokuzilimaza ngokwakhe-oko kunokusongela ukuba ubone.
Nangona kunjalo, oko akuthethi ukuba ngumkhwa wokuxhalabisa kakhulu.
Nika ingqwalasela ngokukhawuleza xa kwenzeka kwaye nendlela le meko iqhubela ngayo ukufumanisa ukuba ufuna ukufumana izikhokelo kumntwana wezilwanyana.
Njengoko umntwana wakho akhula, uya kuyeka ukuziphatha okulimazayo. Gcina iliso ngaphandle komkhwa wokubuyela, nangona kunjalo.
I-KidsHealth poll yabuza abantwana abadala malunga neengcinezelo zabo kunye nento abayenzayo xa becaphukile. Phantse iipesenti ezingama-25 zaphendule ukuba xa zithukuthele, zithatha zona ngokwazo ngokubetha, ukubetha, okanye ukubetha iintloko zabo kwinto ethile.
Kutheni Umntwana Wakho Ohamba Ngayo Uzibamba?
Njengoko umntwana wakho ekhula ukusuka kusana kumntwana omncinci, uya kuqala ukuhlola indawo engqongileyo kunye nokuthetha ngokufunayo kunye neemfuno zakhe. Nangona kunjalo, ubuchule bakhe abuyi kuhambelana nomnqweno wakhe wokwenza zombini ezo zinto.
Ukungakwazi kwakhe ukutshicilela iimfuno zakhe okanye iimfuno kunye nomzabalazo wakhe wokusingqongileyo kwimpumelelo ibe yindlela yokwenza umsindo.
Ukuba ukukhungatheka kwakhe kukuphakamileyo, unokuzibetha njengendlela yokubonisa ukukhungatheka kwakhe.
Ukuba ubona oku kwenzekayo, qaphela ukuba kukho naziphi na iziphumo ezibangele ukukrakra. Mhlawumbi uthe u-cha kwizinto afuna ukuzenza. Okanye, mhlawumbi, ukhathele kakhulu okanye ulambile.
Ukuba uqaphela iphethini okanye i-trigger ekhokelela kumntwana wakho omncinci, uya kukwazi ukukhusela iingxaki ngaphambi kokuba aqale.
Xa ubona imeko malunga nokuba yenzeke, ungenelele phambi kokuba amaqhawe aqale ukuhamba.
Indlela Yokujongana Nokuzilimaza Ngethuba Ngethuba le-Tantrum
Ukuba awukwazi ukukhusela umntwana wakho ukuba angazibetha, kukho iindlela ezifanelekileyo zokusingatha umsindo . Nazi izinto ezininzi ongazama ukuzenza ukuze ugcine umntwana wakho ephephile:
- Yenza indawo ephephile kumntwana wakho . Ukuba umntwana wakho ufumanisa iindlela ezininzi zokuzilimaza-njengokubetha intloko yakhe eludongeni-mhambise okanye izinto ezingekho.
- Ukubonelela ngoncedo . Thatha umntwana wakho ezandleni zakho uze umthinte ukuba azibethe ngokubamba iingalo zakhe. Olu thu thuzelo lunokwanela ukunqabisa umntwana wakho phantsi kwaye ummise ekuzikhuseleni. Oku kudala indawo ephephile, nothando kumntwana wakho ukunciphisa intlungu okanye ukukhungatheka ukuba uvakalelwa.
- Thetha ngamagama athuthuzayo. Tshela umntwana wakho ukuba ukhuselekile kwaye ukhona ukumthuthuzela. Ungamnika enye into ukuba ibambe, kwakhona, njengebhedi ye-teddy yokucoca okanye inkomishi ye-sippy ezele amanzi ukusela.
Unokulingwa ukuba uzame ukuqiqa kunye nomntwana wakho okanye ukuthetha naye ngale ndlela, kodwa ngoku ayikho ixesha. Kubaluleke kakhulu ukuzinzisa umntwana kwaye uqinisekise ukuba akabi.
Xa umzuzwana sele udlulile, unokuqala ukusebenza ekufundiseni abantwana bakho abanobuchule bokubonisa ukukhungatheka kwakhe.
Unokuqala ngokumfundisa indlela yokufumanisa kunye nokuthetha ngokuvakalelwa ngayo ngokuthi, "Ndiyabona ukuba uzive ukhululekile."
Xa eyazi ukuba uyayiqonda ingxaki yakhe okanye ingqumbo, mhlawumbi akanakukubonisa ukuba uyabuhlungu njani ngokuzibetha. Ukufundisa ukuvakalelwa amagama kubeka isiteji ukuze umntwana wakho aqale ukufunda izakhono zokulawula ubumnyama kwiminyaka yakhe yokufunda.
Umntwana Wakho Ohamba Ngamana Unokuba Ngobunzima
Ukuba umntwana wakho oqala ngokukhawuleza uzibethe, unokuba nentlungu yomzimba. Umntwana osemncinci ozibethela kwicala lentloko unokufumana intsholongwane yindlebe.
Iintsana ezinokuthi zitshintshe zikwazi ukuzibetha ngokwabo ngamanye amaxesha ukujamelana nentlungu kwizinsini zabo.
Ukubetha kungabakhohlisa.
Qaphela ukuba umqondiso wakho umntwana unokuba kubuhlungu. Nika ingqalelo apho uzibetha khona. Unokuba uzama ukuthetha apho ibuhlungu khona.
Ngokuxhomekeke kwimvelaphi yentlungu, unokukwazi ukuphatha umntwana wakho ekhaya. Ukuba awuqinisekanga oko kubangela intlungu, noko ke, uhambo lokuya kwinqanaba labantwana lungaba luhlelekile.
Ukuxhalabisa
Ukuba umntwana uyazibetha ngokuqhelekileyo kwaye akaxhunyiwe kwintlungu okanye kubuhlungu obukhulu, le mkhuba ingaba yinkxalabo.
Ukuzilimaza kunokudibana ne-autism. Ukongeza kokuzibetha, abantwana abane-autism banokutshiza, baxine, okanye bazilume okanye badibanise iintloko zabo.
Abantwana abanokukhubazeka okuphuhliswayo banokufumana ukulimala ukuzithoba. Ukubhankanya ikhanda , umzekelo, unikezela ukuvuselela i-vestibular.
Kwakhona kufuneka kube yimbangela yokukhathazeka ukuba umntwana wakho ubangela umonakalo ngokwenyama. Ukuba uzibhokoxa kakhulu ngokushiya imivimbo okanye amanqaku okanye ubangela ezinye izingozi kuye, jonga udokotela wezingane.
Ukuba umntwana wakho usemdala kakhulu, ukukhungatheka ngokugqithiseleyo ngokungazikwazi ukuzityhila kungabangela ukubambezeleka kokuthetha . Ngoko ke, udokotela wezilwanyana unokufuna ukubonelela ukuthunyelwa kwintetho yeengcali zokuhlola.
Ukuba ucinga ukuba ukuziphatha kuyimpawu yenkxalabo enkulu, bhala phantsi xa uqaphela ukuba kwenzeke kwaye uyiswe kumgqirha wengane yakho ukucela icebiso. Ugqirha unokuncomela ukuhlola okongeziweyo ukuqinisekisa ukuba kwenzekani.
Xa ungathandabuzeki, kulungile ukuba umntwana wakho ahlolwe ngumntwana wezilwanyana ukuba aphumelele nayiphi na imeko yezokwelapha okanye ukulibaziseka kokuphuhliswa. Ukuthetha nodokotela malunga nokuziphatha komntwana wakho kunokukunika uxolo kwengqondo, izicwangciso zokusebenzisa xa umntwana wakho ezithinteleyo, okanye ukuthunyelwa kwicandelo lokuphonononga nokunyanga.
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