Amaxesha amaninzi ukufa kootatomkhulu ngumntwana wokuqala wokuxubha kunye nokufa. Ukujongana nokulahlekelwa kunokuba nzima, kodwa ngexesha elifanayo, umntwana angakhula ekuvuthweni nasekuqondeni ngale mava.
Indlela yokunceda abantwana abanokufa komkhulu
Wonke umntwana ojongene nokufa udinga inkxaso yabantu abadala. Abazali, inene, banendima ephambili, kodwa ootatomkhulu unokuncedisa umntwana ukuba aqonde ukufa komnye wakhe ootatomkhulu.
Abazukulwana besikolo basesikolweni nabasesikolweni baya kufuna uncedo oluninzi, kwaye iziphakamiso ezilandelayo zinokukunceda:
- Phendula imibuzo yomntwana, kodwa gcina iimpendulo zakho zifutshane kwaye zilula.
- Musa ukucinga ukuba kufuneka unikeze zonke iimpendulo.
- Vumela umntwana ukuba abe nosizi , kodwa uqonde ukuba kwabanye abantwana, intlungu ngokwenene iya kulibaziseka.
- Mamela oko umntwana athethayo nokuthi uthetha njani.
- Musa ukudibanisa abaselula ngokusebenzisa iifommisms zokufa ezifana nokuphumla okanye ukulala.
- Qinisekisa umntwana ukuba ukufa akusona uhlobo lwesigwebo kodwa luyingxenye yobomi.
- Qinisekisa ukuba umntwana akave ephosakele.
- Yiba nomonde kwaye uhambisane nezimpendulo xa umntwana ebuza imibuzo efanayo ngokuphindaphindiweyo.
- Ncedisa umntwana ukuba aqonde ukuba umntu ofileyo 'akayi kubuya.'
- Qaphela ukuba unxulumana nokufa nokugula ngenxa yokuba umntwana unokwesaba kakhulu ngezifo zakhe.
- Qaphela ukuba umntu ufile ngenxa yokuba wayemdala. Umntwana usenokuba noyiko lokulahlekelwa abanye abantu "abadala". Xa kunokwenzeka, bonisa umfanekiso omhle wokuguga kumzukulwana wakho.
Amangcwaba kunye nezinye iiNkonzo
Iingcamango zikwahlula ukuba ngaba abantwana abancinci kufanele bafike emngcwabeni. Abantwana kufuneka babe kunye neentsapho zabo ngexesha losizi, kodwa umngcwabo unokuba lukhulu kubafundi abancinci. Ngamanye amaxesha ukuya kwixesha lokuvuswa okanye ukuhanjelwa kungaba yindawo eyamkelekileyo yokuya emngcwabeni.
Ukuba umntwana uya kubakho inkonzo, hamba oko kuza kwenzeka ukwenzela ukuba uya kulungiswa. Ukuba umntwana uya kuhambela ukutyelela okanye inkonzo ngekhekhe evulekile, makumvumele umntwana ukuba anqume ukuba ufuna ukujonga umzimba. Ukuba kunjalo, cwangcisa ukuba ibe yinkampani ekhulile. Lungiselela umntwana ngokubonakala komzimba, esithi ngenxa yokuba umzimba awusekho ukusebenza, awufaneki ngendlela efanayo.
Ukuvumela umntwana ukuba abeke umfanekiso okanye ileta kwi-casket unokuthuthuzela. Lungiselela umntwana ngenxa yokuba abanye abantu abakhonzayo baya kulila, kodwa abanye banokuhleka nokuthetha, kwaye yindlela yabo yokukhumbula umfi.
Ukufa kunye neNkolo
Enye inkinga enokuba yinto ekhohlakeleyo emva kokufa yinkolo, ingakumbi kwiintsapho zonqulo okanye iintsapho ezixutywa ngamakholwa kunye nabangakholwayo. Ukuba umntwana ukhuliswe kwikhaya lonqulo, abazali baya kubeka ukufa kwiimeko zonqulo. Ootatomkhulu akufanele baphikise imibono yabo; leyo yinxalenye yokuhlonipha imida. Abazali abakhethiweyo ukuba bangafaki ukufa kuloo mongo mhlawumbi abayifuni ukuba abanye benze njalo. Ngaphandle koko, ukuzisa iingcamango ezintsha malunga noThixo nangemva kokufa kwesoxesha elibi kakhulu kunokudideka kunokududuza.
Kwimeko zombini, ukuba umntwana ucela imibuzo enzima, kulungile ukutsho nje ukuba awunayo yonke impendulo.
Uloyiko Olunye Ufa Lokufa
Abantwana abajongene nokufa komntu omnye bahlala becinga ukuba baya kulahlekelwa abanye abantu abathandayo. Ngokukodwa ukuba ungoko-nkulu uncedisa umntwana ukuba asebenze ngokufa komnye ootatomkhulu, umntwana angalindela ukuba uya kulahleka nawe. Ukuthetha into elula njengokuthi, "Ndikulindele ukuba apha ixesha elide" sisisombululo esihle.
Ukuqhubeka Inkqubo Yokubuhlungu
Abanye abantwana bafumana induduzo kwiintsuku emva kokufa ngokujonga okanye ukuphatha imifanekiso yomntu othandekayo.
I-toy ekhethekileyo okanye i-memento ehambelana nomfi ingathuthuzela. Utitshala womntwana okanye abanonophelo mabaxelelwe ngokufa. Umntwana ohamba kwinkqubo yosizi unokuxhalabisa kwaye unamathele okanye athukuthele kwaye avukele. Unakho ukukhalaza ngezibonakaliso zomzimba ezifana nentloko okanye i-stomachache okanye unenkathazo yokugxila esikolweni. Ezi zinguqu zendlela yokuziphatha ziya kuhamba kwimiba yeeveki. Ukuba ayenjalo, umntwana unokufuna ukuthetha nomcebisi.
Kubalulekile ukuba ungavumeli ukuba i-tab iphakame malunga nesihloko somntu ofileyo. Ungesabi ukukhankanya igama lomntu kunye nokwabelana ngememori ethile. Lo mkhuba ugcizelela umgaqo wokuba ukufa kuyingxenye yendalo yokuphila kunokuba ibe yinto engavamile kwaye iyantyisayo. Kwakhona, ukukhankanya igama lomntu oshonile kunika ukuvula umzukulwana wakho ukuthetha ngokufa , okunokuphilisa.
Njengoko ixesha lihamba, gxininisa ekunikezeni umzukulu wakho ngendawo engenazo uxinzelelo. Umdlalo osebenzayo, umdlalo ohlekisayo kunye nokuxhoma kunye nabazala bawo unokunceda. Uthando olungenalo ngumbono luhle kakhulu kunabo bonke.