Yintoni eqhelekileyo kunye ne-Healthy-and What's Not
Ukuba unomntwana osemtsha, unokwenza okanye unokungaqondi ukuba unomzimba wesithombeni. Emva koko, lo msebenzi oqhelekileyo ukwandiswa kwemvelo kwengqondo yomntwana wakhe. Kodwa kunjalo, unokuba uzibuze ukuba ixesha lakho umntwana usele ngasemva komnyango ovaliweyo wokuhlambela wakhe okanye ekuhambeni kwemvula emininzi impilo. Ngaba kunokwenzeka ukugcoba ngokugqithiseleyo, umzekelo, okanye umntwana angabangela ubuhlungu bendoda?
Nazi ezinye iimpendulo eziqinisekisayo malunga nokuselula kunye nokuphinga.
Intsha kunye nokuHlola ngoSondo
Usuyazi kakade oku, kodwa ukucaca: Ukuhlaziya isisu kukuvuselela i-genitalia ukwenzela ukuzonwabisa ngocansi. Kwaye kuyinto eqhelekileyo kunye evamile phakathi kwabaselula. Uphando olwenziwa ngo-2011 olupapashwe kwi- Archives of Pediatric Adolescent Medicine lubonise ukuba abantwana abaphakathi kwe-14 no-17 babenokuba baninzi ukukhwabanisa kunokuba bathathe inxaxheba kwisondo somnye nomnye umntu.
Njengoko abatsha bafumana ubuntwaba, baya kuba nolwazi ngakumbi malunga namaziko abo athuthukayo. I-hormones yesini ebonisa ukuqala kokushushula nayo ingenza umntwana osemtsha ukuba ahlolisise umzimba wakhe nendlela osebenza ngayo.
Xa uthetha ngesondo kunye nentombazana yakho, ungadana nokuzala i-masturbation. Nangona akavumi ukuvuma ukuba uyakwenza (kwaye ngokuqinisekileyo akamceli okanye amcinezele ukuba akuxelele) kunokunceda ukuba azi ukuba kuyinto evamile ukuhlola umzimba wakhe, ukuba akuyihlazo umsebenzi, kwaye ukuba kufanelekile ngokude ukwenziwa ngasese.
Nangona kunokuhamba ngaphandle kokuthetha, kuyinto enceda umntwana wakho ukuba afunde ukuba ukukhwabanisa ngumsebenzi wabucala.
Nini ukukhathazeka
Kukho imiba embalwa ekhutshweyo ngokuphathelele ukugcoba. Ngamanye amaxesha indawo ekhuthazwayo ingaba nzima, ngoko i-lubricant ingayinceda loo nto. Ukuze ungamhlazisi wakho umntwana, cinga ukushiya ibhotile ye-lube kwikhabhinethi yentsapho apho unokuyibona ngaphandle kokuba ichazwe.
Kunokwenzeka ukuba ukuba into isetyenziselwa ukuhlaziya i-masturbation ukuba kunokukho umonakalo kwesikhumba esincinci sesini somzimba. Ukongezelela, into inokubanjelwa ngexesha lokuvuselela isisu okanye isilwanyana. Lezi ziqhelo ezinqabileyo, kodwa xa umntwana wakho evumela ukuba unentlungu okanye ayikhathazekanga kwisini sokulala, nokuba uthe ucinga ukuba uyazilimaza xa ehlawula i-masturbating, yenza ilungu lokuba adibane nezingane, kungekho mibuzo ebuzwayo.
Ukugcoba ngokobugqwetha esidlangalaleni okanye ukugqithisa ngokugqithisileyo iingxaki. Abaselula abane-FASD (i-Fetal Alcohol Spectrum Disorder) ngamanye amaxesha bazithintela ngokwesini okanye benze ezinye izinto ezingalunganga ngenxa yentleba. Abantwana abaye baxhatshazwa ngokwesondo ngokuphandle ngokugqithisa. Ukuba ubona enye yalezi ziphatha, khuluma nomntwana wakho.
Ukuphonyula ngumsebenzi oqhelekileyo kunye nempilo ngokude nje xa kwenziwa ngasese kwaye awuphazamisi ubomi bemihla ngemihla. Inxalenye ebalulekileyo yokuphuhliswa ngokwesondo kwaye ayikho inkxalabo. Kuphela malunga neengxelo zabafazi abadala malunga nalo buxoki-ngoko yinto enye encinane ukuba uxhalabele.
> Imithombo:
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