Kuhlala kunzima ukufumana amagama ukuthuthuzela umntu osizileyo, mhlawumbi nangakumbi xa kubandakanya ukulahleka kokukhulelwa , umntwana okanye umntwana. Ngokudabukisayo, ndiye ndahlala ekuhambeni kunye nabahlobo njengoko bebuhlungu ngenxa yokulahlekelwa ngumntwana wabo. Ngokuqinisekileyo akuyona into elula ukuyenza, kodwa abahlobo abafanelekileyo bayafuneka ukuba abazali bathembele.
Akukho "Epheleleyo" Into Yokuthi
Qiniseka ukuba uyaqonda ukuba akukho nto "epheleleyo" ukuthetha. Kuncinci, ukuba kukho nantoni na, kunokuthiwa ukunciphisa intlungu okanye ubuhlungu babazali. Mhlawumbi into engcono kakhulu enokwenziwa kukuba kukuvuma ukulahlekelwa kwabo kunye nokuqinisekisa iimvakalelo zabo.
Emva kokuba uzikhulule ekunyanzelekeni kokutsho nje-into-yekunene, unokufumanisa kulula ukuba ufike kuye. Inxalenye enkulu yokuxhaswa ngabazali abalilayo kungekhona ngokuba nawo onke amazwi alungileyo, kodwa ukuphulaphula, ukuvuma ukulahlekelwa kunye nentlungu, nokufumana iindlela zokunceda iimfuno zabo kwiinyanga ezilandela ukulahleka.
Ukuqala Ingxoxo Nabantwana Ababuhlungu
Oko kuthetha, musa ukuphepha ingxoxo malunga nokulahleka kwabo, nokuba. Ngesinye isikhathi ndaye ndaqonda ukuba ndiyesaba ukuthetha igama lomntwana ngenxa yokwesaba "ukukhumbuza" intlungu yabo. Emva koko ndakhubeka kule ngqungquthela kwintetho evela ku-Elizabeth Edwards yanika ngo-2007.
Wathi, "Ukuba uyayazi umntu olahlekelwe ngumntwana okanye ulahlekelwe ngumntu obaluleke kakhulu kubo, kwaye uloyike ukubalula ngenxa yokuba ucinga ukuba unokubenza ube buhlungu ngokubakhumbuza ukuba bafile, abazange balibale Wafa, awukhumbuzi kubo. Oko uwakhumbuzayo kukuba ukhumbule ukuba bahlala, kwaye oko kuyisipho esihle kakhulu. "
Njengoko usebenzisana nexesha elingaphezu kwexesha lomzali, unokukwazi ukufumana imvelaphi kubo ukuba yeyiphi imida abayidingayo xa bethetha malunga nosana lwabo olulahlekileyo. Nangona kunjalo, ungaqalani ngokuphepha ingxoxo. Cinga ngolu hlobo lokuba njengoko uvuma ukulahlekelwa kwabo awuyi kukhulula intlungu yabo, kodwa kungenzeka ukuba uya kubaxhasa ekusebenzeni kwabo usizi.
Iziphakamiso zezinto zokuthetha
- Mamela intlungu yabo kwaye uqiniseke ukuba uya kuthanda ukuphulaphula okanye ukuthetha malunga nantoni na ekufuneka bayibelane ngayo.
- Ukunikela ukwenza umnxeba egameni lentsapho.
- Batshele indlela onokukwazi ngayo ukuncedisa intsapho njengoko beyilungiselela umngcwabo .
- Cinga ukwenza ukutya kwintsapho okanye ukuluhlu uluhlu lwabahlobo kunye neentsapho ezinokukwenza okufanayo.
- Ukunikela ukunceda ukuhlangabezana neemfuno zabanye abantwana kwintsapho kunye / okanye iintsapho zezilwanyana.
- Buza ukuba kukho naziphi iinkcukacha zemihla ngemihla ezifunekayo ezenzelwe ukuba zenzeke ngoku.
- Banike imvume yokuba bathule. Unokwazi ukusho into enje, "Ndiza kubiza ngomso ukuba ndikhangele kuwe. Ukuba ungaziva uthanda ukuthetha, vumela ukuba uye kwivoicemail."
- Ukuba uzimisele ngokwenene, baqinisekise ukuba banokubakho naliphi na ixesha lobusuku okanye ubusuku ukuba badinga nantoni na.
- Kwiinyanga ezilandela ukulahleka, unokufuna ukukhankanya ukuba amaxesha athile anokuba nzima. Amaholide njengoSuku lukaMama kunye noSuku lukaBawo lunokuba nzima ngakumbi.
- Ukongezelela, ngomhla wokuzalwa komntwana kunye nomhla wokulahleka, unokufuna ukunikela ekuphumeni isidlo njengendlela yokuvuma nokubhiyozela ixesha elifutshane umntwana usenentsapho.
Izinto zokuphepha ukuthetha
Inxalenye yenkqubo yokulila iquka inkolelo yentsapho malunga nento eyenzeka emva kokufa. Ngokuqinisekileyo kufuneka ube nokuqonda kweenkolelo zabo ngaphambi kokuba unikeze into enokuba "ngamazwi" athetha ukuzisa induduzo.
Kweminye, ezi binzana zingabonakala zibuhlungu okanye zibuhlungu. Ezinye iindwendwe zingathuthuzela kakhulu kula magama.
- "Kwakuyintando kaThixo," "Kwakufuneka ukuba," okanye "Yinto efanelekileyo."
- "Uziva uziphucule ngexesha."
- "Ndiyazi kakuhle indlela ozivakalelwa ngayo."
- "Ubuncinane unayo / unokuba nabanye abantwana."
- "Ingane yakho isezulwini / kwindawo engcono ngoku."