Izixhobo zoCwangciso zoNgcoliso kwiNkonzo yeSikhumbuzo seNtsana
Lo mbuzo akukho mntu ufune ukubuza: "Uceba njani umngcwabo umntwana?" Ukucwangcisa inkonzo yesikhumbuzo kwintsana, nangona kunjalo, yindlela enye abazali abangayenza ngayo umzuzu ukukhumbula umntwana wabo kunye nabahlobo kunye nosapho ukuba bayakhetha.
Uninzi lwabantu alukwazi ukuba luya kuphi ukucwangcisela umngcwabo umntwana, kwaye kulungile. Akukho nhlangano ekhethekileyo ekufuneka idibene kuyo ngenkonzo, kwaye into ebalulekileyo ebalulekileyo kukuba ihlonipha umntwana wakho nayiphi indlela efanelekileyo yokuhlangabezana neemfuno zakho kunye nomlingane wakho.
Makhe sithethe ngezinye zezinto onokufisa ukuzibandakanya, ukusuka kumculo ukuya kwiimvavanyo, kunye nezixhobo ezikhoyo xa uhlungu.
Ukugqiba kwiNcwaba yoMntwana
Umbuzo wokuqala ngaphambi kokuqhubela phambili kukugqiba isigqibo sokuba ufuna umngcwabo okanye uhlobo lwenkonzo yesikhumbuzo kwintsana yakho. Kwakhona, kubalulekile ukuqaphela ukuba akukho ndlela efanelekileyo okanye engalunganga. Abanye abantu banqwenela isikhumbuzo esincinci nangasese, kanti abanye bayamkela inkxaso yeqela elikhulu labangane kunye nosapho. Inkonzo yakho ingafana nenkonzo yendabuko kumntu omdala, okanye elula njengokuchitha imali emininzi emthandazweni othulileyo emangcwabeni.
(Funda kabanzi malunga nokucwangcisa umngcwabo umntwana olahlekileyo ngokulahlekelwa kwesisu okanye ukubeleka .)
Amanyathelo ekuCwangciseni iNkonzo yeSikhumbuzo kwiNtsana
Isinyathelo sakho sokuqala kukugqiba isigqibo sokuba ufuna umngcwabo okanye inkonzo yesikhumbuzo kwintsana yakho, kwaye ke ukuba ufuna umngcwabo wendabuko okanye umhlangano omncinci wabantu abambalwa.
Inkonzo ingahluka kwiinkonzo zecawa ukuya kwintlanganiso emangcwabeni ukuchitha ixesha elithile kwintsimi. Ukuba uya kukhetha ukungcwaba phezu kokutshiswa, ikhaya lakho lokungcwaba liya kukukhokela kuzo zonke izigqibo. Ngomlilo, abanye abazali banqwenela ukulinda ixesha ngaphambi kokuba babe isikhumbuzo sokugqiba oko bafuna ukukwenza ngomlotha.
Abanye abantu banqwenela ukugcina umlotha entleni ekhethekileyo, kanti abanye bakhetha ukusabalalisa kwindawo ekhethekileyo ehlonipha umntwana.
Ngezantsi siza kubelana ngezinye zezifundo-ukusuka kumaKristu ukuya kwilizwe-kunye nomculo abazali abanqwenela ukuba nawo njengenxalenye yenkonzo. Gcina ukhumbule ukuba akuyimfuneko ukulandela inkqubo ethile. Abanye abazali bafuna ixesha elifutshane lokuthandaza.
Nalu uluhlu lwamanyathelo okucwangcisa umngcwabo wemveli okanye inkonzo yesikhumbuzo. Ukuba unengxaki yokwenza isigqibo, zama ukucinga oko ufunayo kunokuba ukholelwa kulindeleke kuwe.
Ukukhetha Umculo kuMngcwabo Wowenu
Umculo uvame ukuxhaswa kakhulu kwinkonzo yomngcwabo okanye isikhumbuzo kwaye ikuvumela ukuba uveze iimvakalelo zokuthi ngamagama ambalwa asaneleyo. Thatha isikhashana ukuphonononga iingcebiso ezimbalwa malunga nokukhetha umculo kumngcwabo umntwana okanye umntwana .
Njengaye yonke inkonzo, akukho uhlobo olulungileyo okanye olungalunganga lomculo ukukhetha. Abanye abantu bathanda iingoma zomculo kodwa ezinye zikhetha iingoma eziphakamisa. Abanye abantu bakhetha umculo wamaKristu kanti abanye bakhetha umculo womculo. Ikhethelo elikhethileyo lokukhethwa yilokho okholelwayo uya kukuzukisa umntwana wakho kwaye ubonise iimvakalelo zakho zokulahleka, kunye / okanye, kubabo obalukholo olubalulekileyo, bakholelwa enethemba lokuza.
Olu luhlu lwezikhetho zomculo zangomhla womngcwabo wengane, kuquka iItars yase-Heaven e- Eric Clapton (ebhaliweyo kumngcwabo wakhe unyana oneminyaka engama-4 ubudala, iConor,) ibonisa ezinye iimvakalelo ezinokungafani nokulahlekelwa ngumntwana.
Ukukhetha Ukufunda kwiSikhumbuzo
Ukususela ekufundeni okukhuthazayo kwiingqungquthela, kukho iinombolo ezikhethiweyo ezinokunceda ukuvakalisa iimvakalelo apho kunamagama ambalwa.
Ukufunda okungamaKristu ngomngcwabo womntwana kubandakanya izibhalo ezinokubakhuthuzela abo bafumanayo kunzima ukujamelana nokufa komntwana ongenalo ithuba lokuphila ngokwenene.
Bakwazi ukubeka ukukhanya okuhlukile kwizizathu zokubandezeleka ngezinye iimeko kwilizwe lethu elingaphelele.
Abanye abantu banokukhetha ukufundwa kwezinto zomhlaba kumngcwabo wengane , eninzi inokunika ilizwi kwiintlungu ezikhethekileyo zokufa kwabantwana.
Ekugqibeleni, inkondlo ekhuthazayo yomngcwabo wengane inokunceda ukubonisa iimvakalelo kunye neemvakalelo ngendlela enye ngaphandle kweengongoma ezinokuthi zifinyelele.
Ukujamelana nokufa kweNtsana
Ukufa kwengane kuhlala kuluhlungu, kwaye kukho imvakalelo eninzi onokuyenza. Ezi zinokuluhlukana nokuziva singenamandla, ukuziva ngathi ubomi bulahlekelwe ngentsingiselo ekhethekileyo, ukukhupha abanye abazali, njengokuba iintsana zabo bezama ukuhlala ziphelile. Ukujamelana nokufa komntwana akukaze kube lula, nokuba ngaba ngokukhawuleza okanye emva komzabalazo omde.
Ukuxhomekeka kwintsapho kunye nabahlobo kunokunceda, njengokuba unokukhangela ukholo lwakho. Abazali abaninzi ukuba balondoloze imemori yabo intsana ngandlela-thile ngokuthatha inqanaba yeenwele, ukudala idilesi yesikhumbuzo , okanye ukutshala umthi.
Kubahlobo Nentsapho: Ukuxhasa Abazali Abalahlekelwe Umntwana
Ukuba ungumhlobo okanye ilungu lentsapho elahlekelwe yintsana, awukwazi ukuba nantoni na ukuba ungathini (okanye ungathethi) kubazali . Ukuba ufumene ukulahlekelwa okanye usizi, mhlawumbi uyazi ukuba zibuhlungu njani. Impendulo yakho engcono kukuba uphulaphule abathandekayo bakho kwaye uqinisekise iimvakalelo zabo nantoni na eyenzekayo. Kwakhona kunokucinga kakhulu ukubhala umhla kwikhalenda yakho kwaye ufikelele kwindlela ethile kubazali kwiintsuku zokukhumbula, iintsuku kunye neminyaka ezayo. Unokuqiniseka ukuba abazali baya kulila ukulahleka kwabo ngelixa beziva belahlekile, njengoko lonke ilizwe libonakala lilungele ukuqhubeka nobomi.
Ngaphantsi kweCandelo loCwangciso loMngcwabo Ngomntwana
Inkonzo yomngcwabo okanye yesikhumbuzo evela kumntwana ingaba lula njengoko kubuthana nabathandekayo abathandekayo emangcwabeni, njengokwesikhokelo njengomngcwabo wendabuko, naphi na phakathi naphakathi. Abantu abaninzi bafumana umculo okanye ukufunda kukunceda ukuchaza ukuba yintoni na amagama aphuthiweyo, kodwa akukho mfuneko kwizinto omele uzibandakanye kwinkonzo. Njengoko kuphawuliwe kwangaphambili, injongo yomngcwabo wakho kukuhlonipha umntwana wakho kwaye ulethe abathandekayo ndawonye ukuze bakuxhase njengokuba usila.
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