Kukho imingeni emininzi emininzi kubazali abalindeleyo kunokujongana nokutshatyalaliswa komfazi. Nangona iqabane lakho liza kuba nemingeni emikhulu yomzimba kunye nemvakalelo ekujonganeni nokukhulelwa kwesisu, obawo banokuziva belahlekelwa kunye nokukhulelwa okungahambi kakuhle.
Kuthatyathwa?
Intsingiselo elula yokutshatyalaliswa kwesisu kupheliswa ngokukhawuleza kokukhulelwa.
Ukutshatyalaliswa komtshato kuchaphazela malunga nama-25% kuwo onke amabhinqa alindelekileyo kwaye ngokuqhelekileyo iyenzeka phakathi kweeveki ezine neyesithandathu. Ukutshatyalaliswa kwezinto eziqhelekileyo kubakho rhoqo ngaphambi kweveki ye-13 yokukhulelwa. Amathuba okuphuphuma kwesisu aphakamileyo ekukhulelweni kokuqala kunexesha elizayo.
Ukungahlawuliseki kwenzeka ntoni ngezizathu ezahlukeneyo. Phantse isiqingatha ngenxa yokungaqhelekanga kumntwana okanye i-placenta, kubandakanywa iingxaki ze-chromosomal. Ngamanye amaxesha iqanda lidibanisa kwindawo engafanelekiyo ekubangeleni ukukhulelwa kwangaphambili. Uphononongo olutshanje ludibanise ukungcola kwendalo okanye ukusetyenziswa kancinci kwe-caffeine kwiingozi eziphezulu zokukhulelwa kwesisu. Ngoko impendulo emfutshane kukuba ngamaxesha amaninzi, ukukhulelwa komzimba kubonakala ngokupheleleyo ngaphandle kolawulo lomama olindelekileyo.
Kodwa kokubili ngokomzimba nangokomzwelo, ukukhulelwa kwesisu kuthetha okungaphezulu kweenkcazo zencwadi. Kunemiphumo eqinile emzimbeni, ngokomzwelo nangokomoya kwisibini esithatha isisu.
Ziziphi Iimiphumo Zomtshato?
- Iziphumo zomzimba. Ngomama, kukho inani elibuhlungu nelingathandekiyo lokusweleka komzimba. Kuya kubakho ukuphuma kwegazi lomzimba kunye nokugqithwa kwamacandelo amakhulu. Oku kunye kwaye ngokwalo kukuncinci kumama kunye nomlingane wakhe. Emva koko, ingakanani igazi likhulu okanye zininzi iimbophu zininzi? Ungayichazela njani into enokulindela kwaye yintoni na engekho? Ukongezelela, umzimba womama uvame ukuphendula njengoko wenzayo xa ebeleka, ngoko, umzekelo, amabele akhe anokwandisa kwaye abe nethenda. Amahomoni akhe anokubangela ukuba angabonakali ngokomzwelo nangokwenyama, okwenza kube nzima ukuvakalelwa.
- Iziphumo zemoya . Kuba bobabini nomama, kukho imiba ebalulekileyo yemvakalelo. Ngokucacileyo, ukuziva ukulahleka kuyinyaniso kubazali abalindeleyo. Ukuba uphupha amaphupha okuba nosana luphazamiseke lunokuba ngumsindo omkhulu. Unokuziva uloyiko ngokuphinda ukhulelwe kwakhona, ungafuni ukubeka umngcipheko ukukhulelwa kwesisu kunye nomoya. Isiva sokungabi nalutho umama wamava omzimba kunye nemvakalelo. Kukho ukuvakalelwa kwecala okanye ukungaphumeleli. Kwaye kunokuba nombono wokudakumba okanye ukudimazeka.
- Iziphumo zokomoya. Amava afana nokukhulelwa kwesisu angabangela ukuba amadoda aphendule ukholo lwabo okanye alahleke kwiindawo zabo zokomoya. Basenokubuza imibuzo enjengaleyo, "Ukuba kukho uThixo, unokukuvumela njani ukuba oku kwenzeke kum nomfazi wam?" Ngokuqhelekileyo, le miba yemibuzo ihamba ngokukhawuleza njengoko ootata abanokomoya baphendukela kwimithandazo nangokholo, kodwa banokuba nefuthe elihlala ixesha elide njengoko sizama ukuxolelanisa intlungu yethu kunye neenkqubo zethu zokukholelwa.
Uthini Ubawo?
Ootata abaninzi abaye bafumana ukuphuphuma komzimba, baqonda ukuba akukho nto intombazana enokuyibona ekukhuleni okanye inkwenkwe encinane yokudlala ibhola okanye ukuloba. Ngokuphindaphindiweyo amaphupha ootata abantwana abanjengenene kwaye anentsingiselo njengoko umama.
Isimo sengqondo esifanelekileyo sabantu xa sibhekene neengxaki kukulungisa izinto (enye yezinye izikhalazo zethu ezinkulu malunga nathi). Kodwa ukukhulelwa kwesisu akukwazi ukulungiswa. Akukho nto ngaphandle kwexesha eliya kuphilisa ubunzima bokulahleka kobomi bokubambela. Ngaloo nto, ubaba uya kuziva engenamandla kwaye engenathemba ukulungisa iimvakalelo zakhe kunye nokudabuka afunyanwa ngumlingane wakhe.
Ndingayifumana Njani Ukuxhalaba Kwakho Neyomlingani Wam?
- Yazi into oyithethayo noko ungathethi. Uninzi oomama abaye baphazamiseka baye bacebisa ukuba amadoda abo azange azame ukubaduduza ngesigijimi esithi "unako ukufumana amanye abantwana." Umama, lo mntwana wayehlukile kwaye uyimfuneko. Ukuba nezingane ezininzi kunoma iyiphi inamba ayiyi kuphelisa ivakalelo. Ukuthetha ngomnye ukukhulelwa kungathi indlela yethu yesintu yokuzama ukuyilungisa. Oko uMama ayifunayo kukuphulaphula, uvelwano kunye nokuqinisekisa ngothando lwakho ngaye. Olu hlobo lwesimo sengqondo luya kumnceda ukuba asebenze ngokuthe ngempumelelo nangokulahlekelwa kwakhe.
- Thetha okanye ubhale phansi. Ngokuqhelekileyo amadoda akabizi abanye abantu kwifowuni ukuba bathethe ngeemvakalelo zabo, nokuba kwimeko yokuphuphuma kwesisu. Akuyona nje indlela yethu yokulila. Kodwa abanye abantwana baye bafumana uxolo kunye nokuphilisa ngokubhala ezinye zeemvakalelo "nokuzinikela ubomi" ephepheni. Oku kungabangela unyango kakhulu kubawo onokulila.
- Ukuxhasa lakho iqabane. Umlingane wakho uya kudla ukuziva ukulahlekelwa ngumntwana ngakumbi ngokuthandayo. Ngoko thabatha ixesha lokuhlala naye, bambambe, mamele ukuthetha naye. Ukuba nje ukhona kwaye uyamxhasa ngenxa yentlungu yakhe kuya kumnceda ukuba asebenze ngamava.
- Jongana. Amadoda ngokuqhelekileyo aya kutshintshwa kwiprojekthi ekuncediseni ukuvalelwa kweentlungu nokulahlekelwa. Akuyona indlela embi yokujongana nayo yonke into eyenzeka malunga nawe. Ukuxakeka (kodwa kungenaxakeke kakhulu ukuba uncedise iqabane lakho) kuya kunceda ekuhambeni kwexesha kwaye kuya kugxininisa kwindlela efanelekileyo.
Ukutshatyalaliswa komtshato kubetha kakhulu isibini esilindele. Ngokuhlala ugxininise ekuxhaseni kunye nangokuqaphela ukuba ixesha liya kunceda inkqubo yokuphulukisa, unokufumana uxolo njengoko udibana nokulahlekelwa kwaloo nto.