Yazi ukuba yiziphi iimpawu eziflegi ezibomvu
Uphando lubonisa ngokugqithiseleyo ukuba ukuxinezeleka kunye nokuxhalaba kuyaqhelekileyo kumaqabane omabili emva kokusweleka kwesisu okanye emva kokulahleka kokukhulelwa. Oku kungenakukumangalisa kunoma ubani oye wafumana ukulahleka kokukhulelwa. Kodwa yintoni umgca phakathi kwesifo esiqhelekileyo kunye nokudakumba kwengqondo? Oku kungaba ngumbuzo onzima.
Iimpawu zoxinzelelo
Ngokutsho kweZiko leSizwe leMpilo yengqondo, iimpawu zokudakumba zilandelayo:
- Imvakalelo eqhubekayo yokudabuka, ukungabikho nto, ukungabi nethemba, ityala okanye ukungenakunceda
- Ukutshatyalaliswa okanye ukungazinzi
- Ukulahlekelwa ngumdla kwimisebenzi eyayisakuba yinto enandiphayo
- Ukukhathala kunye namandla aphantsi
- Iingxaki ekugxileni nasekuthatheni izigqibo
- Ukuphazamiseka kokulala
- Ukutshintsha ukutya
- Iingcamango zokuzibulala
- Ubuhlungu obungapheliyo okanye iingxaki zokugaya ezingaphenduliyo kunyango
Ewe, ukukhangela ololuhlu, phantse wonke umfazi oye wabhujiswa ngokuphuphuma kwesisu, mhlawumbi ubuncinane kwiimpawu. Kodwa oko akuthethi ukuba ininzi yabasetyhini kufuneka ifumaneke ukuba nexinzelelo lweklinikhi - impendulo yesiqhelo evamile ingalingana nokuxinezeleka, ngakumbi kumntu ongaphandle.
Usizi okanye Uxinzelelo?
Akunakwenzeka ukuba nabani na ongaphandle umbonisi ukuba athathe umgca oqhelekileyo entlabathi phezu kweentlungu kunye nokudakumba komntu othile. Abaphandi abaye bafunda isisemva sokungahambi komzimba abazange babeke izikhokelo zendlela yokuhlukanisa intlungu yokudakumba.
Enye into ingaba ubude bexesha apho iimpawu zigqityiwe, kodwa akukho mda wokukhawulela kwinto kwaye ayiqhelekanga intlungu.
Akukho ndawo ichaziweyo xa "ufanele" ukujamelana nentlungu yokuphuphuma komzimba , kunye nabantu abaninzi, kudla ukuba yinkqubo yokuphila. Ukulila ixesha elide akuthethi ukuba ufuna ukuvavanya ukudandatheka.
Mhlawumbi isalathisi esihle kakhulu siza kuziva njani indlela usizi nokudakumba kwakho kukuchaphazela ngayo ubomi bakho bemihla ngemihla. Nangona ungeke ufune ukuphuma ebhedeni kusasa emva kokulahleka kwakho, ngokugqithiseleyo kwexesha kufuneka uqale ukuziva ngathi unokusebenza, uhlekise amahlaya, udle kwaye ulale ngokuqhelekileyo, kwaye ujonge izinto ozithandayo - nangona usenokuba buhlungu kakhulu ngokusweleka komzimba. Ukuba ungazivakalelwa ukuba uqala ukukwazi ukujamelana nayo, unokuba noxinzelelo.
Ukuba unesiva unokuba ucinezelekile okanye ukuba unomzingeli onokukunceda ukuba ufuna uncedo, khuluma nomntu. Unokubona umcebisi weentlungu , usapho lweengcali, isazi sezengqondo okanye ugqirha wezempilo othembekileyo ukuze ucebise. Naliphi na le bantu kufuneka bakwazi ukukukhomba ngendlela elungileyo yokufumana uncedo. Kwaye ukuba unesivakaziso sokuzibulala, nceda ufune uncedo ngokukhawuleza.
Khumbula ukuba nangona ukhathazekile klinikhi, unyango alunayo imithi elinganayo. Imithi yindlela echanekileyo, kodwa abanye bangabandakanyeka kwiqela leenkxaso, uhamba ngokucebisa wena okanye kunye nomlingane wakho okanye usebenzisa ezinye iindlela zokungabikho kweziyobisi zokukhathazeka nokuxinezeleka.
Ngubani owandise ingozi yokudandatheka emva kokutshatyalaliswa?
Abanye besetyhini banomngcipheko okhulayo wokuphuhlisa uxinzelelo lwekliniki emva kokuphuma kwesisu. Ukuba uye waba nembali yokudakumba ngaphambi kokulahleka kwakho, uza kuba yingozi enkulu kwenye isiqendu. Ukongezelela, abafazi abangenabantwana abaphilayo okanye abanenkxalabo malunga nokuzala okuzayo kungabakho ingozi kwixesha elide elijongene nokukhulelwa komzimba.
Yaye ukuba ngaba kukho enye yezi zinto ziyakusebenza kuwe, nceda ungaziveki ukuba kufuneka uhlangabezane namava kuphela. Awuyedwa, kwaye kukho abanye ngaphandle apho baya kuqonda oko uhambayo, nokuba akukho mntu ebomini bakho obonakala ewufumana.
Ukuba awunayo inceba kunye nabahlobo abanokukuxhasa ngale ndlela, fumana umcebisi okanye iqela lokuxhasa ukuxhomekeka.
Imithombo
UDaly, Ocebileyo, "Ingozi yokuxinzelela emva kokutshatyalaliswa ngokuqhelekileyo." Iingxelo zeengqondo Jun Jun 2008.
Isiko leSizwe seMpilo yengqondo, "Ukudandatheka." 3 kuMatshi 2008.