Indlela yokubonakalisa uvelwano ngesikhumbuzo sokukhulelwa kokukhulelwa.
Isikhumbuzo seminyaka esisodwa saluphi na ukulahlekelwa lubuhlungu, kodwa ukulahleka kokukhulelwa akukho khokelo lwenkqubela yomntu onokuyilandela. Ngaba kufanelekile ukuthumela ikhadi kwisibini esithile esiye safumana ukukhulelwa komzimba okanye ukubeleka?
Kuxhomekeke kweso sibini kunye nendlela owazi ngayo, kodwa ungacingi ukuba baye bahamba. Enyanisweni, kunokwenzeka ukuba umntu oshonelwe ucinga malunga nento eyenzekayo yonke ixesha.
Akunakho ukuvakalelwa kabuhlungu imihla ngemihla, kodwa akungabazeki ukuba uyayazi into ezayo. Ngaloo ndlela, akufanele ukhathazeke malunga nokulimaza. Awuyi kumkhumbuza nayiphi na into engayicinga ngayo. Amaninzi amaninzi athi ingxelo ebuhlungu kukuba wonke umntu uyalilibala.
Ngoko ufanele uthini? Okokuqala, ungagxininisi. Njengoko kunye nokufa kwesihlobo esiseduze, ngamanye amaxesha kuncinci ukutsho, kulunge. Zama ukunamathela kwizinto ezithile eziqhelekileyo, ezinobungqina obuvelayo.
Akuyena wonke umntu ohamba ngokulahleka kokukhulelwa uye wachaza umntwana wakhe , ngoko ke mhlawumbi kulungele ukuqondisa iingcamango zakho kubazali. "Ndiyakhumbula" okanye "Ndicinga ngalo ngeli xesha elinzima," zilungile, iimvakalelo ezicacileyo eziya kwenza abafelweyo bazi ukuba ucinga ngabo.
Hlalani nikhumbule ukuba akusizo zonke izibini ezithe zafikelela ekulahlekeni kokukhulelwa okufanayo, kwaye zonke iimeko azifani.
Ngokuxhomekeke ekupheleni kwexesha lokukhulelwa kwehleko, eso sibini sinokuba nzima ukugqiba ixesha lokukhumbula. Sebenzisa isigwebo sakho esona sigqibo ngokubhekiselele kwixesha elifanelekileyo lokuthumela inqaku lovelwano.
Futhi ungalindelanga ukuva impendulo kwangoko. Ngokuqinisekileyo ukuba isi sibini sinokubuxabisa ububele bakho, akukho mithetho enzima kunye ngokukhawuleza malunga nesixa "sokunene" sokulila nokulila ngenxa yokulahleka.
Kungakhathaliseki ukuba uthatha isigqibo sokuba ubhale, okanye uthe, xa nje unyanisekileyo kwiimvakalelo zakho, umgudu wakho uya kuxabiswa. Khumbula, akukho phantse ukuba umhlobo wakho akaqapheli umcimbi ozayo. Abazali abaswelekileyo abanako ukukhetha ukuhlonipha imini yokufa komntwana wabo, kodwa bahlala bebala ixesha lokuhamba.