Xa Amawele Ayingenzi
Umntakwenkqonkqo otshitshisiweyo ushushu ujikeleze ikhaya lethu kungekudala. Ukutshatyalaliswa kwemizwa yokuba amantombazana eneminyaka emashumi asibhozo ahamba phambili athetha omnye kumnye amangalise ngamanye amaxesha.
Yonke imiphefumlo abayifumayo kukukhuphiswano lwe-oxygen. Ilizwi elizithethiweyo lijolise ekuphikisana. Batshitshisa malunga nantoni na into. Baye baphikisana malunga neliphi icala le-minivan ukungena kwaye ngubani omele avalile umnyango xa emva kokuphuma kwabo.
Ngomso bavuka bephikisana ngokuthi ngubani oya kuvula iwashi le-alamu. Ingxabano yaqhubeka kwithebula lesidlo sasekuseni, neengxoxo malunga nabafumana ixesha elininzi lobomi kunye nebhokisi lokutya, ukufunda ukuchithwa kwesondlo kunye nohlu lwesithako. Emva koko baqhubela indawo kwisitima sebhasi ukuze babone ngubani onokukhwela ibhasi kuqala.
Ngexesha lonyaka wesikolo, bafumana ikhefu phakathi komnye, apho bafakwa kwiiklasi ezahlukeneyo . Kodwa imbambano iphinda iphinde ibuyele ekhaya, ngokukhuphisana rhoqo ukuze ithole "intle" ekutheni izama ukuthetha enye xa ichaza iintetho zabo esikolweni.
Kuyamangalisa ukuba ngunina ngamanye amaxesha. Andiqondi ukuba kungani behlala bephikisana. Ukusuka kwinqanaba lam, bahlala bobabini banolwazi oluhle, abantwana abalungelelaniswe nayo yonke into umntwana angayifumana ebomini, ukuba akunjalo. Andikwazi ukuqonda ukuba kutheni baxhalabele omnye nomnye.
Kutheni bengenakuvuyela oko banako, endaweni yokukhathazeka ukuba udade wabo unokufumana into engcono?
Ndiyazi ukuba isigaba. Ngeke kube njalo. Njengeminye imiba emininzi yokwanda kwabazali, le "ezimbini" ziya kudlula. Ulwalamano lwabo lukhula ngokukhawuleza, kwaye ngokukhawuleza siza kudlulela kwixesha elonwabileyo apho bahamba nabo bahle kakhulu (ngakumbi njengabaqabane olwaphulo-mthetho!).
Uninzi lwabahlobo bam abanodade bathi "Baya kulwa ngoku, kodwa baya kujonga xa bekhulile."
Kodwa asikwazi ukulinda de ba khulile baze babe nokuthula endlwini. Ngoko, sizame ukuvelisa ukusebenzisana, usebenzisa amaqhinga alula ukukhumbuza amantombazana malunga nendlela abakhethekileyo ngayo, ingaba bafanele bavulele kangakanani, kwaye banenhlanhla kangakanani ukuba babelane.
Emva kweeveki zokuxhatshazwa ngenxa yokukhuphisana kwabo, ndagqiba ekubeni kwakukho ixesha elithile lokwenza izinto ezinzima. Ndandimisele ukubafundisa ukugxila kwizinto ezintle zobomi babo kwaye bayeke ukuchitha amandla xa bezama "ukubetha" udade wabo. Nazi ezinye zezicwangciso esazisebenzisayo.
Isicwangciso seNkcazo yokuBhikisana # 1: Ubusuku obuhle, udade olungileyo
Sifake izinto ezintsha kwixesha lokulala. Njalo ebusuku, emva kokufunda kunye nentombazana nganye, sichitha ixesha elilodwa elizimeleyo. Ixesha lokuthetha malunga nosuku kwaye uxubusha nayiphi na inkxalabo okanye izicelo zomthandazo. Ngoku, emva kwentetho nomthandazo, ndibabuza imibuzo emibini nganye eyenzelwe ukubanceda baqonde, kunye nabanye. Ndiqala, "Ndixelele into oyithandayo ngawe okanye ebomini bakho, okanye into oyibongayo namhlanje."
Ndiyathemba ukuba baqwalasele indlela abanenhlanhla ngayo. Xa uziva ulungile malunga nawe kwaye intliziyo yakho igcwele ukubulela, akulula ukuba uzive uthanda umntu wakho-okanye, kulo mzekelo, udade wakho.
Emva koko ndiya kulandela, "Ndixelele into oyithandayo ngoodade wakho, okanye kutheni uyambulela." Kuye kwawafumanisa ukuba bacinge ngomnye nomnye ngokukhanya. Ekuqaleni, siphendule iimpendulo ngathi "Ulungile" okanye "Ungudade olungileyo." Kodwa njengoko iintsuku zihamba kwaye ziyanyanzelekile ukuba zifike ngeempendulo ezintsha, amazwana athola ngakumbi.
"Kwakumnandi xa ndizisa iglasi yamanzi xa ndingazange ndive kakuhle." "Unene ngokwenene ukwenza izibalo kwaye ndavuya xa wandinceda ngomsebenzi wam ekhaya."
Iqhinga lokuBambisana neTwin # 2: Khuthaza umdla oMntu ngamnye
Sisebenza nzima nzima ukubonelela ngamantombazana ukuba ahlolisise iimfuno ngamnye . Nangona bahlanganyela imisebenzi ethile kunye (uBrownies, becula kwiyara yezingane ecaweni, iqela lokubhukuda), siyabakhuthaza ukuba bahlakulele iimfuno. Intombi enye ithatha isifundo kunye nokudlala kwiqela lebhola lebhola. Omnye uthatha i-karate kwaye wenza ngeqela lase-Ireland lokudansa. Kuthetha ukuba sichitha iinyanga ezininzi kunye ne-chunk yeeveki ezitshintshileyo malunga needolophu, kodwa inzuzo iyafaneleka! Indlela intliziyo yam yanyuka ngayo xa ndibukele intombi yam ihlala ecaleni kweqela lebhola le-basketball likadade. Kwaye ndazi ukuba senza into efanelekileyo xa enye intombi ikhanya ngokuziqhenya ngoodade kwi-twin dance dance recital.
Le mi sebenzi ibanika ithuba lokuveza abantu ngabanye kunye nokwamkelwa ngamakhono abo. Kuyinto ephawulekayo ngakumbi ukuthula ekhaya xa amantombazana evakalelwa ngoluvo malunga nemisebenzi yabo. Basenokwenzeka kakhulu ukuba banike inkxaso kunye nokuncoma, kunokuba bathukuthele kunye neengxoxo.
Iqhinga lokuBambisana neTwin # 3: Ukuqiniswa
Ekugqibeleni, ndizama ukuwakhumbuza imihla ngemihla ukuba bathandwa kangakanani kwaye banenhlanhla kangakanani. Kuzo zonke iimeko, ndibakhumbuza ukuba odade beza phambi kwabahlobo, kwaye iimvakalelo ziza phambi kwezinto. Ndiyabakhuthaza ukuba bacinge ngendlela ukuziphatha kwabo kuya kubachaphazela ngayo udade wabo, kwaye bavuze ngokugqithiseleyo xa "ndibabamba" ukuba bacingisise okanye bahlonelane omnye nomnye.
Ngenye imini ndibachazele ukuba zincabile kangakanani kwaye zikhethekile ukuba ziwele iwele. Ndathi kubo, "Abantu abaninzi banokunika into yokuba babe newele, udade okhethekileyo ebomini babo. Buza abahlobo bakho, bona ukuba baninzi banqwenela ukuba bangamawele!"
"Kodwa abantu abakwazi ukwenza oko kwenzeke," ndachaza. "Ngona noBill Gates, indoda ecebileyo ehlabathini, akakwazi ukuzithenga iwele .Khona umntu onamandla, njengenkosi okanye uMongameli waseUnited States, akanako ukuzithoba umzalwana."
"UThixo unike lesi sipho esinqabileyo, wakwenza amawele afanayo kwaye wanikela udade othethekileyo." Ukuba umntu wayinikele ubuncwane, ngaba uyayixabela kwaye uthethe kakubi kuyo? Cha, uyaziqhayisa kwaye uyabulela ukuba Uyakuyinyamekela kwaye uyayiphatha ngentlonipho. Yileyo ndlela ufanele uyenze ngayo uodade wakho. "