"Ngena kule mnyango, ndoda incinci. Unemizuzu emibini edlulileyo.
Ngamanye amaxesha oomama (kunye noomama) baxhalabisayo kunye nabantwana babo xa bephula umthetho wobuhlobo obusisiseko - njengama-curfews - kunye nokubeka umgangatho waba ngumntu wendalo. Ukugxothwa kungaba yindlela efanelekileyo yokwalathisa ukuba isetyenziswe ngexesha elifanelekileyo, kwiimeko ezifanelekileyo kunye nobude obude bexesha.
Kodwa ukuba akunjalo, inokubangela ukuba iqhube phakathi kwabazali kunye nentsha.
Ngokukodwa nabantwana, ngokuqhelekileyo imeko yokuba intsebenziswano kunye neqela labanontanga liyintloko ebalulekileyo kubantwana bakho. Njengoko bavuthiwe, yinkambo yemvelo yeziganeko ukuba baxhamle ebusweni bentsapho kunye nolwazi oluqhelekileyo baze badibanise nabanye beminyaka yabo. Emva koko, sithemba ukuba bayakhula baze bahambe ngelo xesha. Ukuhamba ngokuthe ngcembe ngakumbi kunye nabangaphandle kwentsapho kuyimfuneko ebalulekileyo yenguqu ekukhuleni nasekuzimele.
Njengabazali, siyazi kakuhle ukuba le mibutho ibalulekile ebantwaneni bethu, ngoko ke xa sikulungele ukunyanzelisa isiluleko, ukuthatha loo mibutho kude nabo ixesha libonakala liyisigwebo esinengqiqo. Kwaye, kwiimeko ezininzi, kunjalo. Uloyiko lokumisela luya kuhlala luhlala lulutsha; kukho izinto ezimbalwa ezithatha ixabiso lentsha.
Kodwa ukuba isiphumo sokumisela sisetyenziswe ngendlela engafanelekiyo, ngokuqhelekileyo ibuye iphephe.
Oku kunokubangela ukuba umntwana athobe ngakumbi kwaye akhohlise ukuze athole oko akufunayo ngaphandle kokuba abazali bafumane. Okanye kunokuqhuba umda omkhulu phakathi kwentombazana yakho kunye nawe. Ngoko, ubaba ufuna ukuthini ukusetyenziswa ngempumelelo kwesi sixhobo soleko ukuze uthole utshintsho lokwenene kumntwana wakhe?
Imiphumo yemvelo iyona nto ibhetele. Uninzi lweengcali zomzali ziyavuma ukuba sifanele sisebenze ukuseka imiphumo yemvelo yokuziphatha kwabantwana. Eyona nto inembile, umphumo uza kuba ngowokuthintela ukuziphatha okungamkelekanga. Ngoko, umz Mhlawumbi akunjalo, ngaphandle kokuba eso siganeko senzeke xa wakho umntwana ekhulile kunye nabahlobo abangalunganga. Kwaye ke, ukuxhomekeka kwalabo bahlobo, kunye nezinye iziphumo ezifana nenkonzo yoluntu okanye ukusebenza ngaphandle kokuhlawulwa kweso sakhiwo esasithengayo kuyo kuya kuba ngumphumo ofanelekileyo.
Ukuseka imithetho nemiphumo echaziweyo. Ngenxa yokuba ukubandakanya kubandakanya ukususwa kwindawo yokuhlala kwentlalo, kufuneka kusetyenziswe kuphela xa ukuziphatha kubandakanya ukuhlala kwentlalo. Kwaye kufuneka kube ngumphumo oxhunyiwe kumgaqo othile weentsapho. Ngokomzekelo, ulawulo lweentsapho lunokuba siba ne-11: 00 ntambama ngemini ngeveki. Xa ulawulo lusekwe, umphumo kufuneka uxhomekeke - ufana nokususelwa kubahlobo kwiiveki ezimbini ezizayo. Emva koko, xa ikhefu liphukile, isijeziso kulula ukulawula ngenxa yokuba isiphumo sasiqondwa ngaphambili.
Chaza ukuba yeyiphi indlela yokumisela. Yichaza ukuba uthetha ntoni ngokubeka umgangatho.
Ngaba ithetha nje ixesha elide ngaphandle kokuzibandakanya ngaphandle kwesikolo? Kuthiwani ngeefowuni kunye nemiyalezo yombhalo? Kuthekani nge-intanethi kwi-intanethi? Kuthiwani ngemisebenzi yexesha elithile okanye icawa okanye iziganeko zomakhelwane?
Musa ukwenza umgama omude kakhulu. Ukugxotha intombazana enyangeni mhlawumbi kungeyona ingcinga efanelekileyo. Ukuba ixesha elininzi lingena phakathi kokuziphatha kunye nesohlwayo, umyalezo awucacile. Ukugxila kweveki, okanye ezimbini okanye ezintathu zeveki mhlawumbi kunelungelo lokufumana umyalezo ngaphandle kokulahlekelwa ixesha. Ukuba nexesha elincinci likunika njengomzali ithuba elincinci lokungena kunye nokunciphisa ixesha elizayo.
Cinga ngeendlela zokubavumela ukuba bazuze. Iingcali ezininzi zibonisa ukudibanisa iziphumo ezithile eziza kwenza abantwaba bafumane ukunciphisa ixesha lokumisela xa bekhetha. Oku kungabandakanya izinto ezifana nemisebenzi emikhulu ejikeleze indlu (ukucoca igalaji okanye ukucima kunye nokukhangela ikhitshini). Ingabandakanya ixesha lokuzithandela kwisebe leenkonzo zentlalo. Abanye abazali baye bavumela abantwana babo ukuba banciphise ixesha lokumisela ukuba babhale ingxelo ngeendlela zabo ezingamkelekanga kwaye bavelise icebo lokungaziphinda.
Ukugxotha kungabakho isixhobo esibalulekileyo kubazali kwiikiti zabo zokuziphatha. Kodwa njengazo naziphi na izixhobo, kubalulekile ukuyisebenzisa xa kufanelekile kunye nohlobo olulungileyo lomsebenzi. Ukulandela imigaqo embalwa elula kuza kwenza isisombululo esinamandla sokuguqula indlela yokuziphatha kubomi bethu abaselula.