Ukukhathala, ukukhungatheka, ukuxhalaba, kunye neenkxalabo esinalo malunga nezingane zethu zingenza umzali ube nexesha lokubamba ibhomu. Ngezo zonke iibhotile zokuxininisa, ngamanye amaxesha izinto ezincinci - njengomntwana wakho omncinci olahla i-Cheerios phantsi-unokususa iimvakalelo ezinamandla.
Mhlawumbi emva kosuku oluthile olunzima, uvumele ukukhwaza kwengqumbo xa umntwana wakho ephosa isidlo sakhe kwisidlo.
Okanye mhlawumbi wamemeza xa ebalekile kwaye akayi kukuvumela ukuba utshintshe i-diaper yakhe yesithathu ngaloo mini.
AWUKHO wedwa. Olunye uphando lufumene ukuba abafundi abangama-90% abaneminyaka emi-2 basebenzisa ubuncinane uhlobo oluthile lwenkohlakalo "yengqondo" nabantwana babo. Ulwaphulo lweengqondo lunokubandakanya ukumemeza okanye okugqithiseleyo, kodwa kungengokwenyama, ukuphendula njengento yokuthuka okanye yokusongela ukutshiza umntwana. Ukuba uziva unetyala okanye ungonwabanga ngokukrakra (ikakhulukazi kuba kungabonakali ukwenza into enhle), awukho wedwa. KuMama Ulungelo , ababhali uJulie Bort, u-Aviva Pflock, kunye noVrara Renner babika ukuba ukukrokra yenye yezinto umama azivakalelwa kakhulu.
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Nazi ezinye iingcebiso zokugcina engqondweni ukuba ufuna ukuphelisa ingxolo engeyomfuneko kwaye ufumane indlela engcono yokufundisa umntwana wakho ukuziphatha kakuhle.
- Qaphela xa kusemfuneko. Kwiblogi yabo i-Parentopia, amabini omama emva koMama Guilt achaze ukuba akuzona zonke iindlovu ezenziwe zilinganayo. Ezinye zi "ziqhamo ezivelisayo" zithi. Oku kungabandakanya ukumemeza kumncinane wakho, "Ungachukumisi!" njengoko efikelela kwisitofu eshushu okanye "Yeka!" njengoko egijimela kwindlela exakekileyo. Ungagcina lolu hlobo lokumemeza ngaphandle kokuziva unetyala. Ukulondoloza ubomi bomntwana okanye ukukhusela ukulimala kugxotha injongo yoxolo noxolo. Khumbula: Ngaphantsi nje uyaduma, nangona kunjalo ezi zinto zivelisayo ziza kuba nefuthe elifunayo kumntwana wakho omncinci.
- Ungacingi ukuba umntwana wakho akayiqondi. Ngomzuzwana wokukhungatheka, usenokuthetha izinto ezintle okanye ezingafanelekanga kumntwana wakho omncinci. Ngokuqondakala okunjalo, umntanakho akanako ukuqonda intsingiselo yegama ngalinye, kodwa unokuqonda ukuba amagama akho ayamnene. Kwakhona, abaninzi abanomama bayothuka xa beva isiqwenga sokuqalekisa emlonyeni wakhe womntwana. Kwiimeko apho uvumela ukuhlambalaza ukuhamba ukuba uya kufunda loo mazwi.
- Gcina uqeqesho olungenangqondo ngokusemthethweni. Iintsana ziza kuhlola iimida, zixakeke, zilalele ukulala, zilahle ukutya, kwaye zifumane ezinye iindlela ezilikhulu zokunyusa umama okhathele. Unokukwazi ukujongana nale ngxaki ngokuncenga xa ungakhumbula izicwangciso zokuziphatha ezilungileyo kwaye ukuba unako ukugcina amacandelo ambalwa ukuphakamisa umkhono wakho. Ngokomzekelo, unokwazi ukuhambisa umntwana osweleyo ngengoma oyintandokazi okanye ukuphazamisa umdla odlayo ngobuso obubucayi. Enyanisweni, ukuxhamla ngokuqhelekileyo kuyisisombululo esona sikhulu kunokuba umama afune ukuchasisa imeko enokubangela inkwenkwezi kunye nomntwana omncinci.
- Zixolele ngokulahlekelwa yinto encinane. Ukumema umntwana wakho ngezinye iinkhathi xa wenza into engalunganga akufanele kubangele nayiphi na imiba yesikhathi eside nangona oko kukukwenza uzive ungalunganga. Ngodliwano-ndlebe no-TODAY Moms, isazi sengqondo se-George Holden, iNjingalwazi ye-Psychology kwiYunivesithi yaseMassist Methodist e-Dallas, yathi ukukhwabanisa kunokwenene ukufundisa abantwana isifundo esibalulekileyo ngokujongana neemvakalelo ezimbi. UDkt. Holden, oye wenza uphando olunzulu kwimiphumo yesohlwayo senkampani kubantwana, uyaphawula ukuba, ukuba ukhala ngokuphindaphindiweyo kuyimpawu yokuba into ephosakeleyo. Ukuba ujongene noxinzelelo okanye uxinzelelo, kunokubonakalisa indlela osebenzisana ngayo nomntwana wakho. Ukufumana uncedo ngale miba kunokukukhokelela ukuba ungakwazi ukusingatha ukuphazamiseka kunye neengxaki kunye nomntwana wakho ngaphandle kokumemeza.