Enye into ukuba ungamthandi umntu wakho omtsha esithandana naye, kodwa ngokuqinisekileyo ukuqonda ukuba umntwana wakho usebudlelwaneni obubi. Ukubandakanyeka kobudlelwane obubi kunokuthatha umonakalo omkhulu kwimpilo yengqondo yakho kunye nempilo yengqondo, impilo yentlalo kunye nemfundo.
Abantu abadala abaselula ubudlelwane obundlobongela banokuphuza kakhulu, batshise i-marijuana kwaye bahlakulele ukudandatheka okanye amava okuzibulala.
Oku akuyona imeko ephantsi kwabasetyhini abaselula; Amakhwenkwe atsha angaphinda ahluthe ukuxhatshazwa-okanye ukuxhaphaza. Ngoko ukuba unayo unyana okanye intombi, kubalulekile ukubeka iliso ubuhlobo bakho bolutsha.
Ubundlobongela yindlela enye yokuhlukumeza kakubi ubudlelwane obubi. Ingane yakho ingaphinda iphinde ichithe kakubi ngokomzimba okanye ngokwesondo. Ukuba ubona iimpawu ukuba ubuhlobo bakho bentombazana bunokuba yingxaki, kubalulekile ukungenelela kwangoko.
Jongani kwezi zikhokelo zobudlelwane obubi:
1. Umlingani wakho weNtsana u-Sensitive or Overly Jealous
Ukuba umntwana wakho uyeka ukuchitha ixesha kunye nabahlobo kwaye uchitha ixesha kunye nomlingane, kusenokuba ngumqondiso ukuba iqabane lakhe lizama ukumhlukanisa nabanye. Xa ubuzwa malunga nalo, iqabane lakho lentsholongwane lithetha ukuba ucinga ukuba abahlobo bakhe abamthandi okanye ucinga ukuba bayimpembelelo kuye.
Nangona iqabane lomfana lihle kakhulu, mhlawumbi unokubambisana nesicatshulwa esingasimpilo.
Ngamanye amaxesha, intsha enomona yenza iimfuno ezifana nomlingane akasayi kusetyenziswa imidiya yoluntu okanye akasayi kulala ezinye iintlobo zeengubo ezinokubangela umdla. Ezi ntlobo zithintelo zibonakaliswe ngokucacileyo iiflegi ezibomvu zobudlelwane obungasebenzi.
Intsha Yakho Yitshintshisa Imikhuba Yakhe
Akukubi ukuba ukhule njengomntu okanye uzame ukuphelisa imikhwa emibi.
Nangona kunjalo, akunempilo yokuba umntu atshintshe ukuba ungubani omnye umntu.
Ukuba umntwana wakho utshaya ezinye izinto azithandayo, ukuguqula indlela agqoka ngayo okanye ukuguqula ubuntu bakhe, kunokubonisa ukuba intombi yakhe ayiyithandi intombazana yakho ukuba ngubani. Ngaphandle kokungenelela komntu omdala, umntwana wakho unokuphelelwa ngumntu.
3. Umntwana Wakho Unobungozi obungachazwanga
Ngezizathu ezicacileyo, ukulimala okungachazwanga zizinye zeempawu ezibhekiselele kumzali ukufaka ubungqina. Ukuba uqala ukuqaphela ukubetha okanye ukulimala, cela imibuzo.
Khangela kabini ibali ukuqinisekisa ukuba iinkcazo zakho zentsholongwane zenza ingqiqo, njengoko wakho umntwana engasenokuba yinyani. Iliso elimnyama, ukukhawulwa, okanye amanqaku obomvu kungaba yimpawu ecacileyo yokusetyenziswa kakubi ngokomzimba. Kwaye ngokuqhelekileyo, umfana uya kuba neentloni, ukwesaba okanye ukukhusela lakhe iqabane ukuba lize phambili.
Olunye Olutsha Oluthile Lungabahloneli Iinjongo Zakhe
Ukuba umntwana wakho uhlala efuna ukwenza iqela le-tarsity ye-tennis okanye ukuya kwiyunivesithi yangaphandle, kodwa ke ubona iqabane libethekisa ezo njongo, akusona uphawu oluhle. Ngamanye amaxesha, umntwana osemtsha okanye ongenakwenzeka uya kuzama ukuthetha nomlingane ekuphumezeni amaphupha akhe.
Bongoza umntwana wakho ukuba ahlale enyanisekileyo kwiinjongo ahlala ephila ngazo kwaye akavumeli ukuba iqabane lakhe limbambe. Ukuba uthando lwakho olutsha luyamkhathalela, uya kufuna ukuba enze okulungileyo kuye, nangona xa kunokunyanzelisa ubuhlobo.
5. Iintsapho Zakho Zisoloko Zitshekisha-ngaphakathi
I-teknoloji itshintsha ukutshatyalaliswa kwentsha , kwaye ayisoloko iphila ngendlela ephilileyo. Ukungakhuselekanga kunye nomona kunokukhokelela umntwana ukuba afune ukuba iqabane likhangele ixesha lonke. Ukuba umntwana wakho akaphendulanga umyalezo wesicatshulwa kwangoko, iqabane lakhe lingambiza ngokungapheliyo.
I-Smartphone yenza kube lula ukuba ubudlelwane beselula bube yinto engcolileyo njengoko iqabane lingagxininisa ekuqhagamshelaneni nomyalezo wesicatshulwa okanye ukuhlaziywa kwamajelo asekuhlaleni.
Ukuba umntwana wakho uvakalelwa kukuba kufuneka ahlale exelela intombi yakhe apho ekhona, yintoni enokwenzayo kwaye ngubani na onayo, kuyimpawu embi.
6. Umntwana wakho Uxolisa Ngokuphindaphindiweyo
Amaqabane anetyhefu athambeke ukuba neentlungu ezibi. Ngenxa yoko, omnye umntu uhlala ehamba ngamaqanda e-eggshell ukuphepha ukwenza omnye umntu ahluthe. Ngokuqhelekileyo, oko kuthetha ukuxolisa yonke into enzame ukulungelelanisa izinto.
Ukuba umntwana wakho uthi uyaxolisa lonke ixesha, kungaba ngumqondiso ukuba uzama ukumncoma umlingane wakhe. Ukuxolisa ngenxa yokuba ungabizi, ngokuba ubiza ixesha elide, ukuchitha ixesha elininzi kunye nabahlobo-zonke ezo zinto zingabonakalisa ukuba uyayesaba iqabane lakhe. Ngokucacileyo, uxolo lubizwa ngokuba ngamanye amaxesha, kodwa aluphilisanga ukuba umntwana wakho ucela uxolo ngexesha lonke.
7. Ubudlelane buba nzima kakhulu
Nangona intshwankqiso yentsholongwane ibonakala iqhutywe ngobusuku, ukukhawuleza ngokukhawuleza kungabonakalisa inkathazo. Ukuba umntwana wakho uthetha ngokuthandana emva komhla owodwa, okanye uthetha ngokutshata emva kokuhlangana kunye neveki ezimbalwa, ubuhlobo buhamba ngokukhawuleza.
Ngamanye amaxesha, intsha ivakalisa uthando lwabo ngabantu abangazange bahlangane nomntu kuba bethetha ngokuthandana . Ukuqhagamshelana nezixhobo kunye neendawo zokunxibelelana kwezentlalo zinika ithuba lokuxhuma nabanye emhlabeni jikelele. Kwaye ngamanye amaxesha, bangase bahlakulele imfesane malunga nokuhamba kunye, ngaphambi kokuba badibane. Nangona kungabonakala kungenakubungozi ebusweni, ubuhlobo obunjalo buya kuba buhlungu kwaye buyingozi.
Ukujonga Ubuhlobo Bakho Bentsha
Njengomzali, uzama ukukhupha isistim kumntwana wakho onjengo-, "Awuvunyelwe ukuba uphinde umtshintshile," okanye, "Unomgca ngaphandle kokuba uphule naye", kodwa loo mpendulo ayikho isisombululo esihle. Ukuzama ukuphelisa ulwalamano lwakho nolutsha lwakho luya kubuya luze lubenze kwaye lubangele ukuba umntwana wakho atyeke aze ahlaliswe ngakumbi ukuqhubeka nobudlelwane.
Thetha kwintsapho yakho malunga nokuziphatha okukukhathazayo. Gxila kwizenzo kwaye kungekhona umntu. Yithi izinto ezinje, "Ndixhalabisa ukuba inkwenkwe yakho igxininisa ukwazi apho uhlala khona."
Gwema kakubi umlingane wakho wengane. Ukuthetha izinto ezinjengokuthi, "Ungumntu ongokoqobo," unokususa kuphela umntanakho ukusuka kuwe. Kwaye kunokuthintela umntwana wakho ukuba angakufihla ngasese kwixesha elizayo.
- Beka imida xa kuyimfuneko. Ngokomzekelo, nciphise ukusetyenziswa kwikhompyutha yakho . Thatha i-smartphone ngeyure ethile ngosuku.
- Yakha imithetho yokuthandana enqamle umnxibelelwano ongekho phantsi. Vumela uthando lwakho lwentsha ukuba lufike ekhaya lakho ukuze ugcine iithebhu kwizinto ezenzekayo.
- Thetha kwintsapho yakho malunga nokuba yintoni ubuhlobo obuphilileyo. Ukunxibelelana okunempilo, ukuhlonipha, ukuzithemba, kunye nobubele, zizinto ezimbalwa zezinto ezifanele zibe phakathi kwimeko enobudlelwane obuhle.
- Yiba nolwazi malunga nolwalamano lwakho lwentsha ngaphandle kokunyaniseka. Buza imibuzo malunga nokuba uzuza ntoni kulwalamano kunye nento ayinikelayo.
Ukuba ukrokrela ulwalamano oluxhaphazayo, nokuba umntwana wakho uyintwazana okanye umenzi wobubi, funa uncedo lobuchwepheshe. Nceda umntwana wakho afunde ukuphucula ubudlelwane obuhle ukuze abe nolwalamano olungcono kwixesha elizayo.
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