Imozulu yezopolitiko yanamhlanje iyingozi, ixinezelekile kwaye izaliswe yi-angst. Kodwa le ndawo yindawo ephazamisekayo eye yavutha intlanzi phakathi kweqela elisoloko lihoywa okanye lisuswe eceleni-abafundi besizwe. Kwaye bafuna ukuva. Kulo lonke elaseli lizwe, abafundi baxhamla kunye kunye nokusebenzisa amagama abo ukuchaphazela utshintsho. Ukususela kwimibhikisho ukuya ekuhambeni, bavakalisa ilizwi labo kwizinto zonke ukusuka ekulawuleni izibhamu kumalungelo amabhinqa.
Iingqungquthela ezininzi kunye nokuhamba kwaqala ukuqhuma emva kokudubula kwesikolo eParkland, eFlorida apho kwabulawa abantu abangu-17. Injongo yabo kukuqinisekisa ukuba abameli bamelana nokulawulwa kwezibhamu. Eminye imizekelo yemiboniso yabo iquka "uMatshi ngoBomi bethu" eWashington, DC kunye neqela "iZiko leSikolo leSikolo." Omnye uhambahambayo, obekwe umkhosi wokudubula uColumbine, wahlelwa ngumfundi ohlala kufuphi neSandy Hook Elementary apho abafundi abangama-20 kunye nabasebenzi abathandathu bafa kwisikolo sokudubula ngo-2012.
Ukuba umntwana wakho uye wabonisa umdla ekubambiseni nasekuthatheni inxaxheba kwimiboniso okanye ekuhambeni, kubalulekile ukuba uyazi ngamalungelo akhe. Ukongezelela, kufuneka aqonde ukuba imimiselo nemimiselo imalunga nokuphikisana okunokuthula.
Oko uMgaqo-siseko uthi NgamaProthets
Ulungiso Lokuqala loMgaqo-siseko wase-United States ukhuseli nje inkululeko yentetho yomntu kodwa inelungelo lokuhlangana ngokuthula.
Nangona kunjalo, kukho ezinye izithintelo endaweni xa kuziwa kwimiboniso kunye neembambiso.
Ngokomzekelo, abafundi bangabuthela kwiindawo zoluntu ezifana nezitratato, iinqanawa, kunye neepaki zikawonkewonke. Kodwa ipropati yangasese efana ne-mall okanye iholo yeedolophu ayimimiselo. Yaye ukuba umntwana wakho uceba ukuhamba, kukho imigaqo eyongezelelweyo kunye neemvume ezifunekayo.
Qiniseka ukuba umntwana wakho wenza umsebenzi wakhe wesikolo ngaphambi kokuba ahlele umkhonto, umbhikisho okanye umboniso. Akukho nto yimbi ngaphezu kokubeka inyanga yokucwangcisa kumbhikisho okanye ukuhamba kwaye sele iphelile ngaphambi kokuba iqalise.
Ngokutsho kwe-American Civil Liberties Union (ACLU), imithetho iyahlukahluka kwisixeko. Ngokomzekelo, abanye abaphathi banokufuna iimvume kwiibutho ezininzi kwiipaki ezithile, iimpawu ezithintela i-traffic, okanye imibhikisho esebenzisa izinto ezifana ne-megaphones okanye izithethi. Ngokuqhelekileyo, abantu kufuneka bafake isicelo seveki yeepemethe ngaphambi kokuba bacebe ukukhusela. Ukuba uhlola iimfuno zeemvume zemimandla yakho kwaye uvakalelwa ngathi banqanda kakhulu ukuthetha ngentetho, ungaqhagamshelana ne-ACLU ukubona ukuba unokuyi-mngeni.
Okwangoku, ukuba umbhikisho uphendule kwiindaba zakutshanje, i-ACLU ithi i-Amendment yokuqala ivumela abantu ukuba baququze ngaphandle kokunika ingqalelo kwangaphambili. Ngaphezu koko, bathi imvume ayinakuphikiswa ngenxa yokuba isiganeko sinokuphikisana okanye sinemibono engathandekiyo. Ukuba usebenza kwimibandela, i-ACLU inokukunceda.
Indlela Yokuhlala Ukhuselekile Xa Uthatha Ukuma
Ngethamsanqa, bethu abatsha bahlala kwiindawo ezihlawulekayo apho banokwazi ukuqonda izimvo zabo ukuba bafuna.
Okubaluleke ngakumbi, xa nje banezikhokelo ezimbalwa malunga nendlela yokuhlala bekhuselekile, akufanele babe mngciphekweni. Nazi izinto ezisixhenxe ezona zikhulile kufuneka abantwana bazi ukuba bahlale bekhuselekileyo ngexesha loqhankqalazo.
Sebenzisa i-Buddy System
Umntwana wakho makabe engazange aye kumbhikisho okanye kumboniso wedwa. Kunoko, bafanele bahambe nabahlobo baze bahlele ukuhlala kunye ngamaxesha onke. Kwakhona kufuneka babe nesicwangciso kwindawo apho baya kudibana khona ukuba bahlukane. Ngamanye amaxesha imibhikisho okanye iimitha ziyaxhala kwaye zixakekile. Gxininisa ukuba kubaluleke kangakanani ukuhlala kunye nabahlobo babo okanye iqela labo.
Ngelishwa, kukho abantu ehlabathini abakhangela ezi ntlobo zemicimbi njengethuba lokuxhaphaza abantu abatsha.
Qinisekisa ukuba umntwana wakho unesicwangciso sokhuseleko kwindawo kwaye unenombolo yeseli yabangane bakhe kunye nabazali bawo kufuneka ufune ukufikelela kuzo. Ukongezelela, kufuneka ukwazi apho indawo yentlanganiso xa umntwana wakho ehlukana naye. Kwezinye iimeko, abazali bangabonisa ngokufanelekileyo eceleni kwabo abaselula.
Yenza I-Smartphone Yakhe Yisebenzele Wena
Ngaphambi kokuba umntwana wakho aphume emnyango, ifowuni yakhe kufuneka ihlawulwe ngokupheleleyo. Ngaphezu koko, yinto efanelekileyo ukupakisha ishaja encinane ephathekayo okanye ipakethe yebhetri kunye nentambo ukuze angaze alahlekelwe indlela yokuthetha nawe kunye neqela lakhe. Ezinye iinketho zokuhlala ekuthinteni ziquka ukusebenzisa i-iPhone ethi iPhone okanye i-360 360 ifowuni ifowuni ye-Android. Zombini iinkonzo zikuvumela ukuba usebenzise i-GPS ukulandelela ifowuni yengane yakho. Ucinga ukuba ugcina ifowuni yakhe kuye ngamaxesha onke, kufuneka ube nako ukufumana umntwana wakho. Esinye isixhobo esincedo nguMlilo. Lolu hlelo lokusebenza lusebenza kwii-iPhones kunye neefowuni ze-Android kwaye luvumela intsha ukuba isebenzise ifowuni njengeTalkie talkie kunye nabani na onayo insiza. Oku kunenjongo ngakumbi xa kungekho WiFi okanye inkonzo yeseli kwaye kufuneka baxoxe nabahlobo babo.
Iipakethe (kunye neengubo) Ngokuhlakanipha ngoMini
Qiniseka ukuba umntwana wakho uhlola isimo sezulu ngaphambi kokuphuma emnyango. Akufanele agqoke kuphela kwimozulu, kodwa sigqoke kakuhle, ngakumbi ukuba uceba ukuma okanye uhambe kakhulu. Akukho nto ephosakeleyo kunokuba unamathele ngaphandle ngaphandle kwezicathulo ezingakhawuleziyo kwaye akukho sambulela emvula. Ngaphezu koko, kufuneka afake i-ID yakhe, imali, ikhadi lebhanki, iincinci zeemali zeefowuni, ukutya kunye nokumanzi. Okwangoku, umntwana wakho makangenakuzisa into ebalulekileyo njengee-headphones ezibiza, icomputer okanye iindleko ezixabisekileyo okanye ubunxibi. Ngesihlwele esikhulu sabantu kukho imingcipheko enkulu yokusela.
Yazi indlela yokusebenzisana namaPolisa
Xa nje umntwana wakho uthobela umthetho kwaye uxolo, akafanele abe nemibandela ngenkqubela okanye ebonisa. Kodwa kubalulekile ukuba uthethe naye malunga nokuhlonipha nokuhlonipha ukuthotyelwa komthetho. Ngokomzekelo, ukuba umntwana wakho uya kumiswa ngamapolisa kufuneka azi ukuba ahlale ethule, ahlonipheke kwaye ahloniphe. Akwaze yamkeleka (okanye isilumko) ukuba ihlambele igosa le polisa. Mkhumbuza umntwana wakho ukuba agcine izandla zakhe ngokubonakalayo kwaye alandele imiyalelo yegosa. Ungalokothi uphantsi kweyiphi na imeko kufuneka ubalekele kwipolisa.
Kwakhona, qiniseka ukuba uyazi ukuba imithetho yeso sixeko ihamba phambili. Ngokomzekelo, eWashington DC ukuba iphoyisa liyeka umntwana wakho kwaye licele igama lakhe, kufuneka ukuba axele igosa. Ezi zibizwa ngokuba zimise kwaye zichonge imithetho. Ekugqibeleni, ukuba umntwana wakho ubanjwe, into engenakwenzeka, mxelele ukuba angamthinteli nangona ucinga ukuba akukho nto. Xa nje elandela imiyalelo, uya kuhlala ekhuselekileyo.
Musa ukuxhatshazwa ngamalungelo omnye umntu
Enye yezona mpazamo ezinkulu ezikhuselayo ziphazamisa amalungelo okanye inkululeko yomntu. Ngamanye amagama, umntwana wakho akakwazi ukuvimbela ukungena komnye umntu kwisakhiwo okanye ukuwagcina ekudleleni isitalato. Ukuba benza into enje, baphazamisa amalungelo omnye umntu. Ngaphezu koko, abakwazi ukukhusela ngale ndlela eyenza abanye abantu basabe. Khumbuza umntwana wakho ukuba ukubonakaliswa kwakhe okanye ukubhikisha kufuneke kube nokuthula kunye nokuhlonela abanye.
Abaphikisana nabo banamalungelo
Nangona abaphikisana nabangabonisi bavumelekile ukuba baphazamise umcimbi apho umntwana wakho ekhusela khona, banokuya kweso siganeko baze bathethe. Unelungelo lokuthetha ngentetho kunye nokubonakaliswa kwamahhala nje ngokufana nentsha yakho. Khumbuza umntwana wakho ukuba le nto inokwenzeka kwaye yenzeke nje kuphela. Nangona benza iingcamango ezingalunganga okanye ezingalunganga, kungcono ukuba ungathethi nantoni na ukuphendula. Tshela umntwana wakho ukuba angabandakanyeki nabanqabana naye nangayiphi na indlela nangona bazama ukuxhatshazwa kunye nokwesatshiswa .
Familiar Your Teen Ngezikhokelo Zesikolo
Kubalulekile ukuba umntwana wakho ukuba aqonde ukuba xa ehamba esikolweni ekukhuseleni okanye elahlekelwa esikolweni ukuba ahambe, kukho imiphumo esikolweni. Ngokomzekelo, unako ukuphawulwa engekho esikolweni. Kwakhona akavumelekanga ukuba enze yonke imisebenzi ephosakeleyo. Okanye, ukuba udlala kwiqela lezemidlalo, akanakho ukuthatha inxaxheba kumdlalo ukuba ukumbhikisha kumenza alahleke. Ncedisa umntwana wakho ukuba ahlole ubunzima kunye neqhinga lokubhikisha ngaphambi kokwenza isigqibo. Ngethuba nje ukuba uyazi kwangaphambili oko kwenzeka, uya kunciphisa nayiphi na into emangalisa ngayo ummeli wakho we-budding emva kwento.
Imithombo:
> #Enough Toolkit, uMatshi woLutsha kuLutsha, https://www.womensmarch.com/enough-toolkit
> "Yazi Amalungelo Akho." I-ACLU Isikhokelo samaLungelo okuKhusela, i-2018. https://www.aclu.org/know-your-rights/iyo--------