Emva kokuba umntwana wakho azalwe kuqala ikhefu lokubeletha (ngaphandle kokuba amanye amalungiselelo enziwe ngenxa yeemeko zonyango). Xa usezibhedlele izinto zivakalekile. Yonke ingqalelo yakho kwintsana yakho, indlela umzimba wakho uvakalelwa ngayo, mhlawumbi kumyeni wakho (mhlawumbi).
Nangona abahlobo kunye nosapho ekutyelele esibhedlele bajolise kwisiqalo esitsha senjabulo.
Akukho mntu ucela malunga nomsebenzi. Awucingi ngomsebenzi.
Emva koko uzisa umntwana ekhaya kwaye uqale ukuthotyelwa kwintsapho yakho entsha. Ndiyathemba ukuba umyeni wakho uthatha iintsuku ezimbalwa okanye iveki yekhefu lesibini ukuze uzonwabele intsapho yakho entsha.
Emva koko uhlala kunye lwakho nosana olutsha. Kuxolo noxolo (ok, mhlawumbi ungathuli) ingqondo yakho iqalisa ukugxotha kwaye ugxininiso lwakho lususwe kwintsana yakho. Nangona unesiqingatha siphakamise uqala ukucinga malunga neeprojekthi ozithandayo ukuqala ngoku ukuba uhlala ekhaya.
Iintsuku zokuqala zomama zingaba yedwa. Uhlala kunye nosana lwakho, ongenakukwazi ukubamba ingxoxo endala kwaye uthetha ulwimi lwakhe. Kwilizwe lakho lephupha uqala ukuphupha malunga neendlela zakho zokuphila ezithoba. Uqala ukucinga ngomsebenzi.
Ungayimisa njani ingqondo yomsebenzi kwaye uyonwabele ikhefu lokubeleka?
Gcina iNcwadi
Isiqhelo sakho siphakamise, uye emsebenzini, uze ekhaya, ulala.
Usana lwakho olusandul 'utsha lufaka isikhankqalazi esikhulu samagundane kwisiqhelo sakho! Unokuzivumelanisa njani na? Ngenhlanhla unomntwana oza kutshatyalaliswa akukunikezi ixesha elide lokucinga ngenguquko, wenza nje oko kufuneka kwenziwe okwangoku.
Kodwa oku akuyikuvimba ingqondo yakho ekucingeni ngomsebenzi. Ngokukodwa xa ukhupha u-2AM wesondlo.
Kunzima ukumisa ezi ngcamango zivela kwaye ziqhelekile. Unokuziva unqabileyo phakathi kokunyamekela umntwana osandul 'ukuzalwa kunye nokucinga malunga neprojekthi owashiye okanye ukuba umthengi obala kuwe.
Ukuze uncede ngenguqu ukusuka emsebenzini ukuya kwikhefu lokubeleka, gcina iphepha leengcinga zakho. Ukuba ukubhala akuyiyo ingcinga yakho kugcina i memos yezwi kwifowuni yakho. Phendula imibuzo efana,
- Yintoni ndiyikhumbula ngayo ngomsebenzi? Kutheni ndiyathanda kakhulu?
- Yintoni endiyifunayo ukuba ndiyigqibile ngaphambi kokuba ndihambe ngekhefu?
- Yintoni ndivakalelwa kukuba ndilahlekile?
Iziphumo unako ukucubungula indlela ozive ngayo malunga nokuhamba kwakho kunye noko ukhangele phambili xa ubuya. Nawe unako ukukhulula nayiphi na inkxalabo ozive ngayo malunga nokungabikho ngenxa yokuba ubhala phantsi. Ungalokothi ungancinci amandla egama ebhaliweyo.
Sebenzisa le Time to Reflect
Ngaphambi kokuba umntwana uwazi kakhulu malunga nawe. Ngethemba ukuba unemilinganiselo yexabiso kunye nezinto eziphambili ozenzayo ukusekela izigqibo zakho.
Kalokunje ukuba ekugqibeleni unomntwana wakho unokuziva uguquka kwiimpawu zakho kunye nezinto eziphambili. Intsapho ngoku ixabiso lomntu kunye nokunyamekela lwakho usana olusandul Qaphela oku kutshintshwa kwengqondo.
Ziziphi ezinye iimpawu eziguqukayo? Uza kwenza njani izigqibo ezizayo ngokubhekisele kwizinto zakho eziphambili?
Olu tshintsho luyisisiseko soluvo olufanelekileyo. Njengoko ndathi ngaphambi kokuba ube nale nkqubo kwaye ngoku uyehlu lwezinto eziphambili kunye nezinto eziphambili, yonke into iyatshintsha.
Indlela onokuzivumelanisa ngayo nobomi obutsha ucinga malunga nemiceli mngeni oya kudibanisa umsebenzi kunye nobomi bakho obutsha. Phendula imibuzo ezayo ngoku malunga nendlela uza kujongana ngayo neemeko zokusebenza. Yayiphi ishedyuli yomsebenzi wakho ngaphambili kwaye ucinga njani ukuba utshintsha? Unokwenza njani ukuba uxhomekeke ngakumbi kwizicelo zakho?
Sebenzisa ikhefu lakho lokubeletha ukuze ulungiselelwe ngengqondo ngaphambi kokuhlanganisa umsebenzi wakho ebomini bakho obutsha.
Bhala ngale nto, thetha abantu malunga nayo, ngokukodwa amanye amama osebenzayo owaziyo okanye kwi-intanethi kumaqela e-Facebook okanye kwiifom.
Zinike Iinjongo Zomntwana
Akukho phulo elijoliswe kuyo (mhlawumbi mhlawumbi lihleka) kodwa zinike iinjongo zobantwana ukufeza yonke imihla. Emva kokuba ushaye igoli lakho lokubhiyozela! Ngokomzekelo, zixelele, "Ndiza kuhlamba namhlanje!" Emva koko mbuyise umntwana kwisitya sokuhlambela nawe, ubambelele kwintsana, uthabathe isitya. Yippee! Ungaphinda ukhawuleze kwizinwele zakho uze uhombe !
Ewe, uya kuba mnandi kakhulu. Ziphathwe ngokwakho kunye nelophu namanzi abandayo ngamakhukhamba kuwo, uya kuziva ngathi usele spa.
Ngaphambi komntwana, kwaye ngelixa usebenza emsebenzini, wawuhlala usebenza kwinto ethile. Ukuzibonela ngolu hlobo lofezeko oluthandayo "kwindawo yobomi bakho" uceba iinjongo ezincinci eziphathekayo.
Yiba ngileyo kunye neNew yakho yangempela
Ngethuba uhlala ekhaya ungonwabile ngeeprojekthi zasekhaya. Kungakukhathaza ukuba awuzange uqalise kubo okanye ukuba awunawo amandla okwenza. Yiba lula kuwe. Cinga ngezinto zonke ozenzayo. Ufunda ngempumelelo indlela yokunyamekela lwakho usana olutsha. Wena kwaye nguwe kuphela ohlonipha inzululwazi yomama ukwazi oko umntwana wakho adinga.
Yilungile kunye nendlu yakho idibene. Ukutshintshela umama kuthatha umsebenzi omningi kunye namandla. Kuya kushiya ixesha elincinci nantoni na into. Ukuba uvakalelwa kukuba uya kugwetywa ngabanye ngenxa yokubonakala kwekhaya lakho awamkeli inkampani ixesha elithile.
Ngokukhawuleza ukhululekile kunye noshintsho lwakho lokugcina indlu uya kuvuya. Indlela entsha yokugcina indlu yakho ihleli kakuhle, iza kuba nomonde xa ucinga izinto. Ukugqithisa kwintsana kunye nokubonelelwa kwempahla kuza kwenzeka kodwa ekugqibeleni yonke into iya kufumana indawo yayo. Kwaye ngoko ininzi yayo iya kufumana indawo entsha, kwaye kulungile, kwakhona.
Kuya kuba nezilingo ezininzi kunye neziphene kwaye kuya kwenzeka nakakhulu xa ubuyela emsebenzini. Ukuba uvulekile ukutshintsha yinto oyakuyifumana kwaye ekugqibeleni iya kuba yinto enhle.
Funda Ukuphila Ngomama
Ngoku lixesha elide lokufunda ukuba yintoni amandla okwangoku ngoku. Xa ubeka ingqalelo yakho kwinto eyenzekayo ngoku akukho ndawo yokukhathazeka ngekamva okanye ukuhlala kwixesha elidlulileyo. Kukho kuphela okukwenzekayo, ngexesha, kwaye kunokwenzeka ukuba oku kukunyamekela lwakho usana olutsha. Yilapho ingqalelo yakho.
Ngaba uyazibuhlungu ngokubuyela emsebenzini? Ukuba kunjalo, kubaluleke kakhulu ukuba ngoxa uhamba ngekhefu lokubeleka ufunda indlela yokuphila ngexesha. Ewe, xa ubuyela ekusebenzeni kuya kuba nzima, kodwa awuyi kubuyela emsebenzini kude kubekho ikhefu lokubeleka liphelile. Lithetha ukuthini namhlanje.
Esikhundleni sokuvumela ukuba iimvakalelo zakho zigijime zasendle zenze ingqalelo yakho kumzuzu wamanje. Ukuba umntwana wakho usondele ngokujonga emehlweni abo. Ukuba balele bajonge iminwe yabo emihle kwaye bazive benenekile kangakanani ukuba ekugqibeleni unomntwana. Ukusebenzisa indlela onokubulela ngayo kukukuzisa umsebenzi kwaye, ngokuqinisekileyo, unqume nawuphi na umsebenzi wamanzi onokuthi uphume.
Xa usubuyela emsebenzini, lo mkhuba uza kukunceda ufike ngaphaya kwendawo. Ngaloo suku lokuqala ubuyela emsebenzini kunokuba ugxile kwiingcamango ezibuhlungu malunga nomntwana wakho, uya kuzifundisa ukuba uphile ngexesha kunye nalo xesha unomsebenzi wokukwenza. Kwaye mhlawumbi ngenxa yokuba uye wazama ukubuyela emsebenzini akuyi kuba kubi emva koko!