Indlela eyonwabileyo yokwakha ukuzithoba komntwana kunye nokuhlonela abanye
Ngaba uvile ngomdlalo osebenzisanayo "ukubamba ukuncoma," umdlalo omnandi onokukunceda wakha ukuzithemba komntwana wakho? Lo mdlalo okhawulezayo nolula unceda umntwana wakho afunde ukuqonda iimpawu ezintle kwabanye kwaye amnike ithuba lokuva izinto ezilungileyo ngaye ngokwakhe kwabanye. Njengobhonasi, emva kokukufundisa lo mdlalo siya kuthetha kancinci malunga nendlela yokukhulisa ngokwenene ukuzithemba komntwana wakho.
Akusoloko kucacile, kwaye ezinye iindlela abazali abazama ukuphucula ukuzimela kwabo abantwana kwiminyaka yakutshanje banokwenza okuchaseneyo.
Ukuncoma kunye nokuzimela
Ukunika nokufumana ukunconywa kubalulekile kubo bonke abantwana ekuhlakuleleni ukuzithemba nokuhlonipha abanye. Ezi zakhono zentlalo zibaluleke kakhulu kubantwana abafunda abakhubazekile okanye abanezinye iintlobo zokukhubazeka ukufunda .
Kamva kule nqaku, siza kuthetha kancinane ngendlela yokwakha umntwana wakho ngaphandle kokwakha i-egomaniac Amanqaku amaninzi "okuncedisa" angaphumelela kumaphephancwadi angenceda ngokwenene ukwenza okokugqibela, ngoko thabatha ixesha lokuqinisekisa ngokwenene uyakhela ukuzithemba komntwana wakho.
Ngethamsanqa, enye yobuhle bokuhlala nomntwana okhubazekile ukufunda kukuba ayinako ukunyanzeliswa kwimeko ekhoyo yangoku yoluntu. Unokumncoma ngaphandle kokuba udumo lwakho luya kwiintloko!
Into enye eyenza le mdlalo ihluke, kukuba akusizi nje ukuphucula ukuzithemba komntwana wakho kodwa kumnceda ukuba abone okulungileyo kwabanye.
Qamba umdlalo weMbulelo wokuZakhela nokuzixabisa
Ukufumana i-Compliment kulula ukufunda umdlalo onokudlala ngawo onke amaxesha.
Konke okufunekayo wena kunye nomntwana wakho kunye nabaninzi okanye abantu abambalwa njengoko ufuna ukubandakanya.
Ubunzima: Kulula
Inani labadlali elifunekayo: Nantoni na enayo
Ixesha elifunekayo: Nantoni na enayo
Amaxesha : Naliphi na
Nantsi indlela:
- Hlanganisa ukhetho lweebhola ezithambileyo, ezilula kakhulu kumdlalo. Iibhola zebhantshi, iibhola ze-foam, kwaye iibhola zebala lokudlala ziyakwenza ngcono. Ngokwakheka, unokwenza ipapasho okanye wenze ibhola ye-tepi.
- Kwindawo enkulu, evulekileyo (kunye nezicatshulwa ezisuswe) hlaziya abadlali kwisangqa. Unokudlala ngaphakathi okanye ngaphandle, akunandaba.
- Abadlali baphenduka batyelela ibhola enye kubadlali abahlukeneyo kwisangqa. Xa ukuphosa ngamnye kuyenziwe, umdlali okhwazayo unika umdlali ofumanayo ukuba anconywe.
- Umdlali ofumanayo ngoko uyigxotha ibhola kumnye umntu, kwakhona, ukunika ukuncoma njengoko ibhola liphoswe.
- Ukuba unqwenela, yongeza kancane ibhola njengoko umdlalo uqhubeka. Oku kuya kwandisa intambo kunye nenqanaba lomngeni kubadlali njengoko bezama ukucinga ngokuncoma ukunika.
- Ekupheleni komdlalo, thatha ixesha lokubuza abadlali ukuba kunzima kunjani kubo, yintoni eyayilula, kwaye yintoni eyona nto eyona nto ibaluleke kunayo yonke eyenzeka ngexesha lomdlalo. Buza abadlali ukuba bachaze oko bafanele benze ukuze baphumelele kumdlalo. Uya kufumana ukuba ukuphulaphula, ukujonga, ukucinga, kunye nezinye izakhono kuya kubhekiswa.
Ingaba ufuna ntoni:
- Indawo yokudlala enkulu ngokwaneleyo ukulungiselela abadlali abaphuliweyo
- Iibhola ezincinci ezilula, ezilula
Yenze Yakho:
- Enye yezinto ezibuhle kulo mdlalo kukuba unokongeza imithetho emitsha okanye ukuphazamisa nangayiphi indlela oyithandayo. Mhlawumbi faka umjikelo apho abantwana kufuneka banikezele ukuncoma. Emva koko mhlawumbi umjikelo apho kufuneka bathethe into enhle okanye ehlekisayo ngabantu abadala phakathi kwabo. Emva kokuba unabantwana bethetha ngale ndlela unako ukuhamba naphi nawuphi na umdlalo. Eyona nto ibaluleke kakhulu, kuba nabantwana beza neengcamango zabo, kwaye ukuzama ukuzikhupha kukukhuthaza ukuzomeleza!
Isaziso sokulumkisa : Njengomntu omdala ukudlala lo mdlalo nomntwana wakho, zama ukufumana izibongozo ezifanelwe ngobuntu bomntwana wakho. Ngokomzekelo, ungadumisi umntwana wakho ngokupelisa kwakhe xa engakwazi ukupela igama elilodwa ngokuchanekileyo. Izingane ziyakwazi ukuchazela umahluko phakathi kokudumisa okubuxoki kunye nodumo lwangempela, kwaye udumo lwamanga lunokwenza okungafaniyo nento enenjongo. Oko kwathiwa, nangona umntwana okhubazekile kakhulu uninzi lweenkomfa eza kusebenza ukuphakamisa ukuzithemba kwakhe. Mhlawumbi uncumo oluhle. Mhlawumbi ubonisa umonde ophawulekayo. Ukukhangela kunye nokufumana ezinye zezi mpawu njengomzali womntwana onokukhubazeka ukufunda Wonke umntu unamandla kunye nobuthathaka babo, kwaye nokuba yintoni inokuba ubuthakathaka obukhulu kuwe ungabanye bamandla akho afihlakeleyo kunye nobuhle. Ngenxa yalokhu, ukudlala lo mdlalo kuya kuba luncedo kubazali rhoqo nantoni xa bengabantwana babo.
ILizwi Lokulumkisa NgeZakhiwo Zokuzimela
Ngaphambi kokuthetha ngakumbi malunga nokwakha isisityebi, kubaluleke kakhulu ukubonisa amanqaku ambalwa. Kwilizwe lethu elikhulayo, kubalulekile ukuchaza ngokuthe ngqo ukuzithemba kunye noko kungenjalo. Ukuzithemba kubhekisela kumvakalelo wokuzixabisa. Akuthethi ukuba uzive ungcono kunokuba uphelele kwabanye abantu.
Enyanisweni, ukubhubhisa umntwana kunye nokukhuthaza umxholo wokuba unelungelo aluncedo ukwakha ukuzithemba kubo bonke. Ukuba ukhangelelene nawe, abantu abavakalelwa kakhulu abanelungelo-njengehlabathi banokubanika into ethile-bancinci kubo bonke. Njengabazali bokufunda abakhubazekileyo abantwana, sinokufunda okuninzi malunga nokuzithoba kwabantwana bethu. Ukuthandwa ngabafundi kubaluleke kangakanani, kwaye akuxhomekeke ekuhlangabezaneni nokulindela abanye.
Ukuzithemba akusoloko kuthetha ukuphumelela okanye ukufeza into ethile. Enyanisweni, ukufundisa abantwana bethu ukufunda ukuhlala nokungaphumeleli kwandisa ukuzithemba. Ukufunda ukuhlala kunye nokungaphumeleli kukunceda uvelwano, kwaye uvelwano luyintloko yecandelo lobunengqondo. Ukuba sele usuxhalabele ngomntwana wakho ngolunye usuku ungene emsebenzini, siva ukuba ukuqonda kwengqondo (EIQ) kuya kuba yinto ebaluleke ngaphezu kobulumko (IQ) ngelixesha losuku olujikelezayo.
Ukwakha Umntwana Wakho Ukuzimela
Izilumkiso zathetha, abantwana abanokukhubazeka ngokufunda bahlala bexhamla kwiimeko zokuzithemba. Ukuba umntwana wakho ujabule lo mdlalo, unokufundisa kwakhona iingcamango ezingakumbi zokuzithemba ngeemisebenzi kunye nemisebenzi.
Okukwintsusa
Zama lo mdlalo njengendlela yokwandisa ukuzithemba komntwana wakho kwaye umncede ukuba aqaphele kwaye ahloniphe abo bajikelezileyo ngexesha elifanayo. Ekugqibeleni, khangela iindlela zokwakha ukuzithemba ngokusemgangathweni kumntwana wakho .
Imithombo:
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