Injongo yokuqhotyoshela umzali kukukhulisa abantwana abangakwazi ukuvelisa impilo, ukuxhamla kunye nabanye abantu ebomini babo. Abazali bokuqhotyoshelweyo bakholelwa ukuba oku kufuneka kuqale ngokudala uxhamlo oluhloniphekileyo phakathi komzali nomntwana.
KwiNtshukumo
Kulungile, oko kuzwakala kukukhulu, kodwa ngaba abazali abanamathintelo bafezekisa njani injongo yokukhulisa abantwana kunye neentlalo ezizityebi?
Kukho iinkqubo ezininzi zokubeletha ezinxulumene nokuqhotyoshela umzali. Aba bazali bakholelwa ukuba ezinye iindlela zandisa ukhonkco phakathi komzali nomntwana kwaye ngoko zibeka isigaba sobudlelwane obuhle emva kobomi. Makhe sijonge ezimbalwa zeendlela eziqhelekileyo phakathi kwabazali abathintekayo.
- Ukwabelana Ukulala / Ukulala-Co-sleep / Ibhedi Yentsapho - Ubhekisela kwisenzo sokulala ngaphakathi kwengalo yomntwana wakho. Kukholelwa ukuba ikhuthaza ukuxhamla kwabazali kunye nabantwana ababophayo.
- Ukubeleka kwabantwana - Ukukhathazeka okwandisa ukuba iintsana zichithe ixesha elininzi kwizithuthi zogunyazisiweyo beemoto, abahambahambayo, iididi zokudlala eziphathekayo, kuye kwabangela ukuba unxibelelwano lwabazali luthintele ukuphanda ukubaluleka kokuthwala umntwana wakho ezandleni zakho kangangoko kunokwenzeka. Iingxowa kunye nabathwali bephambili zizinto eziqhelekileyo kubantu abanokwenza umsebenzi wokuncedisa abazali.
- Ukuncelisa: Abazali bokuncedisa bayazivuma iinzuzo ezaziwayo zokuncelisa . Bakholelwa ukuba, kwiimeko ezininzi, ukuncelisa ibele kukhuthaza impilo enempilo, engqondweni, nangokwengqondo.
Liyindlela yokuziphatha, ayikho indlela
Nangona kunjalo, qaphela ukuba ngaphezu kwazo zonke, ukuxhamla umzali akunakuninzi malunga neendlela abazali abazenzayo kunye nangaphezulu malunga nesimo esifanele sibe nayo. Indlela enokuthula kubazali ekugxininisa nomntwana wakho kwinqanaba elimangeleyo lomzwelo. Nangona ukudibanisa umzali kudibene neendlela ezilapha ngasentla, indlela ezo zenzo ezisetyenziswayo zivulekele ukutolika.
Ngokomzekelo, intsapho enye inokukhetha ukuncelisa. Olunye usapho lunokukhetha ukondla ukutya kodwa ukuhamba ngexesha kunye nenani lefomula elinikezelwe kwisibuko sokuncelisa. Abazali bokuqhotyoshelweyo bayakhuthazwa ukuba benze iindlela zokujongana neemfuno zabo zeentsapho. Nangona kunjalo, oko akufuneki ukutshintsha yimigaqo ephezulu yokuqhotyoshela abazali.
Imigaqo
Abazali bokunamathisela bancomela ukuphatha abantwana ngobubele nangentlonelo ukwenzela ukuba bakhuthaze ukuvakalelwa ngesithunzi kunye nokuhlonishwa. Isiqhotyoshelweyo kubazali besizwe ngamazwe sichaza imigaqo eyisibhozo yefilosofi yabo. Nangona kunjalo, oko banokubiliswa kulo:
Abazali bokunamathisela:
Zama ukwenza izigqibo ezinolwazi kubomi bomntwana, ukuqala ngokukhulelwa. Umzekelo: Umzali oqhotyoshelweyo unokufuna iimvo ezininzi kwiinkcukacha zempilo yengane kwaye uya kuvuleka ukuba afunde ngeendlela ezahlukeneyo zonyango. Baya kusebenzisa ulwazi abazifundileyo ukwenza isigqibo abanakho ukukhululeka.
Zihamba ngokukhawuleza kwaye zihambelana nezimpendulo zabo kwiimfuno zabo zomntwana zokutya, ukulala, ukuqeqeshwa, kunye nokuxhumano ngokomzimba / ngokomzwelo. Umzekelo: Abazali bokunamathisela baya kuzama ukuphendula iimfuno zabo zomntwana ngokukhawuleza nangokuqikelelwa. Ukuziphatha kakubi kuya kulungiswa ngokukhawuleza ngesijeziso "esinengqiqo" kumntwana.
Gwema ubuchule obugwenxa, obuchanekileyo ngokubhekiselele kubumnene, abasabelayo. Umzekelo: Ukutshatyalaliswa kunye nokukhawuleza kuthathelwe endaweni engcono ngokuqeqeshwa ngokunyanisekileyo nokulungiswa ngokunyanisekileyo.
Ukubaluleka kokubaluleka kwenkathalo evela kubazali bobabini kunye nakubancinci abancinci abakhethiweyo. Umzekelo: Abazali liqela elihlangeneyo ekuzalaneni kunye nokudibanisa kwimisebenzi yabo yokubeletha. Ulwahlulo phakathi kwabazali kunye nabanye abanakekeli banokubonwa ngokungabikho kokuvisisana.
Ukulinganisa iimfuno zabo neemfuno zabo zentsapho. Umzekelo: Abazali bokuncedisa baqonda imfuno yokukhulisa abantu ngabanye. Ngokuthatha ixesha labo, banokuvuselela. Umzekelo: Ukuba nobusuku bemini okanye ixesha lomsebenzi wokuzilibazisa ngumcimbi wokuzimela.
Iingcamango eziqhelekileyo
Isiqhotyoshelwano somzali sitshiswa ngabantu abahlukeneyo kunye namaqela ngezizathu ezimbalwa.
- Abanye bakholelwa ukuba ukunamathiswa komzali kunzima kakhulu kubazali kwaye kunokucinga ngengqondo, ngokomoya nangokwenyama.
- Kukho uphando oluncinane olukhoyo ukuxhasa okanye ukuphikisa iingcamango zabo.
- I-American Academy ye-Pediatrics ayixhaseli ukulala, nangona ikhuthaza kakhulu ukwabelana ngesithuba ngenxa yengozi ye-SIDS.
Iingcamango ezifanayo
Ngamanye amaxesha abantu baphosisa iindlela zokuzalwa zabazali ukuba babe yi-tenet ye-attachment parenting. Nangona kunjalo, oku akunjalo. Ngaphandle kwezinye zezinto ezichazwe ngentla apha, abazali abaxhamliweyo abakwazi ukuzichaza ngabanye ukhetho lomzali. Oko kuthethwa, unokufumanisa ukuba abazali abachonga isitayela sabo somzali njengesiqhagamshelo somzali, banokuthi banomdla kwendwangu yokutshiza, ukutya ukutya kunye nokwenza ukutya kwabo abantwana. Nangona kunjalo, ezi nkqubo azichazi ngokucacileyo ukuxhaswa kwabantwana.