Ngaba uke udideke ngethuba lakho malunga nokuxhaswa kwabantwana abangakhokhelwa? Ukukhathazeka ngokwaneleyo ukuba ungavumi ukutyelelwa? Ukuba nomsindo omkhulu kuqondakala, kodwa kufuneka ucinge kabini ngaphambi kokuba unqabe ukuvakasha ukuxhasa inkxaso yabantwana. Nasi isizathu.
Ngokuphelelwa lithemba, abazali abaninzi bayazibuza ukuba kungani bengenakukuphepha nje ukutyelela ekuphenduleni ukuxhaswa kwabantwana abangakhokhelwa.
Abaninzi baya kubuza bathi: Akunjalo, kwaye inokubangela ubuhlungu ukuma kwakho okuhle kunye nejaji elongamele icala lakho.
Ukuxhuma phakathi kweNkxaso yeNkxaso yabantwana kunye noTyelelo
Ezi nkqubo zimbini, ukuxhasa abantwana kunye nokuvakatyezwa, zijongwa njengemiba emibini ehlukileyo ngokupheleleyo emehlweni omthetho. Abazali 'abazuzeli' ilungelo lobudlelwane nomntwana wabo ngokuhlawula abantwana inkxaso. Kubonakala ngathi oko kuya kunengqiqo, kodwa akusebenzi nje ngaloo ndlela. Ngaphambi kokuba uhambe ngokukhawuleza ukutyelela ukunyuswa kwabantwana abangakhokhelwa, qwalasela oku kulandelayo:
- Ukutyelelwa kukulungelo lomntwana wakho . Ekugqibeleni, ilungelo lomntwana ngamnye lokuba nolwazi kunye nolonwabo kunye nabazali bobabini. Kwimeko apho umzali ongekho mntwana ongenakukwazi ukuhlawula ukuxhaswa kwabantwana (umzekelo, ngenxa yokulahleka komsebenzi), ngoko umntwana makangabi nako "ukuhlawula" ngokuthintelwa ekubeni abe nolwalamano nalo mzali.
- Inkxaso yemali ngabaxanduva lwabazali ngamnye . Ukongezelela, ngaba bobabini abazali baxanduva lokubonelela ngeemfuno zemali zomntwana. Ukugqiba ukungabi nolwalamano nomntwana womntwana, njengokuba abanye abazali abangenalo ukuphepha, abaxhasi umzali kwiimbopheleleko zakhe zemali. Ngoko ke, abazali abangaboni rhoqo abantwana babo basadingeka ukuhlawula inkxaso yabantwana.
Ukukhathazeka kwabantwana
Kubalulekile ukuba uqaphele ukuba nayiphi na inkxalabo efanelekileyo malunga nokukhuselwa komntwana wakho kufuneka iphendulwe, kodwa leyo ihluke ngokubanzi kwimiba enoba i-ex yakho ihlawula inkxaso inkxaso yabantwana ngokupheleleyo okanye ngexesha. Ukuba unqwenela ukuthumela umntwana wakho enkundleni-uhanjelwe ngetyala ngenxa yokuba uyamoyika ukhuseleko lwakhe, kufuneka udibanise nenkundla ekhuphe umyalelo wokuvakasha kwaye uthethe negqwetha eligcinwe ngumgcini we-child custody. Unokufumanisa kukunceda ukubhala iingxaki zakho kwiphephancwadi ukuze ukwazi ukukhumbula ngokuthe ngqo iziganeko ezithile ukuba kamva kuyimfuneko ukuba ungqina ngokukhathazeka kwakho.
Yintoni enokuyenza Ngenkxaso Yengane engahlawulwa
Ngoko ke ngabazali bangayenza ntoni malunga nenkxaso yabantwana abangahlawulwa? Kungcono ukuqhagamshelana neHhovisi leNkxaso yeeNkxaso zoLuntu kwiNgingqi ukunika iingxaki zakho. Baya kuba nako ukufaka izigwebo, ezifana nokuhlawula umvuzo wakho wokugqibela, ungamvumeli ukuba athole ipasipoti yomthetho, amkele ukuhlawulwa kwemisebenzi, kwaye afune ukunyanzelisa isigxina. Kuhlala kukulungele ukuvumela iinkundla ukuba zijongane nombandela wokuxhaswa kwabantwana abangakhokhelwa kunokuba uthathe izinto ezandleni zakho.
Oko Akufanele Uyenze
Kwakhona, kungcono ukuba ungangeni esicutheni sokutyelela ukutyelela ngokuxhaswa kwabantwana abangakhokhelwa.
Ekuqaliseni imiba yokugcinwa kwamalungelo, ezininzi iinkundla zibeka ukubaluleka kokubaluleka ukuba ngaba umzali ngamnye uxhasa ubudlelwane bomntwana kunye nomnye umzali. Ngoko ke, nayiphi na inzame yokugweba ukutyelelwa-ngaphandle kweemeko apho ukholelwa ukuba umntwana wakho useyingozi-ekugqibeleni isetyenziswe ngokuchasene nawe.