Wonke umntu unexesha lokungabi namdla. Sonke sithukuthele, sibuhlungu, sinexhala , sinetyala kwaye sigxininiswe . Akunakwenzeka ukuba ufumane ubomi ngaphandle kwale mizuzu. Umntwana wakho uya kuba nexesha, naye. Ngenye imini unokufumana intlungu yakhe ngumhlobo wakhe omhle. Mhlawumbi umhlobo wakhe uthetha into ethile kuye okanye ukumema omnye umntu kwisiganeko esikhethekileyo.
Ngenye imini umntwana wakho unokufumana i-C kwiprojekthi okanye vavanyo esikolweni endaweni ye-A.
Kulungile ukuba umntwana wakho abonise iimvakalelo zakhe ezimbi. Enyanisweni, kunokuba kukuhle ukuzityhila ukuze ubhekane nazo. Intukuthelo yempembelelo yemvelo njengoko ibuhlungu xa umntu esenzile into embi kithi okanye xa kwenzeka into embi kuthi. Ukukhala ngenxa yenzakalo okanye nokuba uthi, "Ndimthiyile" akusiyo into eyiphutha. Nangona kunjalo, kunzima ukubona umntwana wethu eziva edabukile, enomsindo, kwaye ecinezelekile, ngakumbi xa kubonakala kunzima ukuhamba phambili. Yintoni ongayenza ukuze uncede umntwana wakho "ayeke"?
Ukujoliswa kunye nokutshabalalisa
Ngamanye amaxesha izenzo ezinokufanisa zinokusinceda sijamelane neemvakalelo zethu . Esi sinye isenzo esinokukunceda umntwana wakho "vumela ukuba uyeke." Yenza umntwana wakho abhale phantsi into ephazamisayo kwisiqwenga samaphepha. Ngokomzekelo, unokubhala phantsi, "Ndine C kwiprojekthi yam." Yiyo yonke into eyimfuneko, nangona inokunceda ukubhala phantsi imvakalelo, naye, ukuze abhale "Ndine C kwiprojekthi yam kwaye yangenza ndabuhlungu." Emva kokubhala phantsi oko kukumkhathazayo, mkhuphe umntwana wakho.
UkuLahla iPhepha kunye nokungahambi kakuhle
Umntwana wakho unokukhetha kwiindlela ezahlukeneyo zokulahla eli phepha (kunye nokufanekisela oko kukukhathazayo).
- Ukuba isiqephu samaphepha sincinci, umntwana wakho angayidla aze ayihlasele indlu yangasese. Oku kuya kuvuyisa, kodwa kuphela ukuba iphepha lincinci. Awufuni ukuvala indlu yangasese!
- Ukuba ulahlwa yilahleko, kwaye ucezu lwephepha alinkulu kakhulu, umntwanakho unokulidiliza ibe yizicucu kwaye uliphose phantsi kokulahlwa kwelahla. Ukuvahla ukulahlwa kwelahlwaya kweso ngxaki kwaye uhlambe kude kuyakuvuyisa.
- Ukuba uhlala eduze kwamanzi afana nesityanke okanye umlambo, umntwana wakho unako ukulidiliza iphepha libe ngamaqhekeza amancinci aze aliphosele emanzini. Iphepha liya kutshabalalisa kwaye alinakulimaza imo.
- Umntwana wakho, ngoncedo lwakho, ukuba kuyimfuneko, unokuguqula iphepha kwiphepha lendiza. Ukuba le nto inokukhethwa ngumntwana wakho, kulungile ukusebenzisa iphepha elipheleleyo. Unokwenza iphepha lephepha elilula okanye i-airplane ebanzi. Yenza umntwana wakho athumele ingxaki yakhe emoyeni. Inqwelo-moya iya kuba phantsi, kodwa isenzo sokuyiphonsa emoyeni kwaye sijonge ingxaki ye-fly fly (nangona ukuba imfutshane nje) inokuvakalelwa. Xa indiza iwa phantsi, amagama angase asebenze kwiphepha, kodwa ingxaki iphelile. Umntwana wakho unokukhupha idiza kwaye uyiphonsa okanye uyisindise ukuze uyikhumbuze ukuba uyivumele loo ngxaki ihambe. Kwaye ukuba ingxaki engase ibuye kwakhona (ngaphantsi kwebakala eligqibeleleyo, umzekelo), indiza iya kuba ilungele ukuthabatha ingxaki kwakhona.
- Ukuba uhlala kufuphi nendawo ethile evulekile kwaye imozulu ifudumele, umntwana wakho unako ukupakisha okanye ukubopha ingxaki kwi-kite. Lo mgaqo ofanayo kunye nephepha lephepha, kodwa unenzuzo eyongezelelweyo yokunika umntwana wakho ithuba lokubhabhisa i-kite. Ingxaki ingabhalwa kwincinci encinci, kodwa ixesha elide elinokuthi libekwe emsila wekite. Njengoko i-kite iyaphupha phezulu phezulu emoyeni, ingxaki iqhunyiswa ngumoya. Ungathenga ikethi xa ungenayo enye okanye wena nomntwana wakho unokuyakha enye.
- Enye indlela yokulahla iphepha kwixesha lezulu elifudumeleyo lokungcwaba. Emva kokubhala phantsi ingxaki kwiphepha elithile, umntwana wakho unokulidiliza aze angcwabe ididi kwintsimi yeentyatyambo. Eli phepha liza kutshabalalisa kwaye lize "libe" yinxalenye yeentyatyambo. Yindlela ephawulekayo yokuguqula into engalunganga ibe yinto entle. Ukuba awunayo intsimi yeentyatyambo, naluphi na uhlobo lwesityalo oluya kwenza, izihlahla, izihlahla kunye nemithi.
Bhala Ileta Yokuxolela okanye Ukuxolisa
Ukuba ukungabi nalutho kubangelwa yintoni umntu oyenzile kumntwana wakho, yenza umntwana wakho abhale ileta yokuxolelwa. Olu hlobo lwencwadi lunokunceda umntwana wakho aphilise. Nangona umntu okhubaza umntwana wakho sele ecela uxolo, umntwana wakho usenokuba nomsindo kwaye aphumele. Kuze kube yilapho sigqiba ukuxolela umntu osilimazayo ukuba siqala ukuziva singcono. Oku kuyinyaniso kubantwana bethu kunye nathi. Yinto yokuxolela eyenza umehluko.
Kwileta yokuxolelwa, mntwana wakho abhale malunga nesi siganeko kwaye uchaze ukuba kutheni uhlungu kwaye uxelele umntu oxolelwe. Ileta ayifanele ithunyelwe. Inokubangela ukuba luncedo ukugcina loo leta. Xa umntwana wakho ekhula, unokufunda oko wabhala. Ixesha lisoloko lisinceda sibe neembono. Into ebonakala ngathi yinto engelona nto eyona nto eyayiza kwenzeka emva koko ibonakala ingabalulekanga.
Ukuba umntwana wakho uziva enetyala ngenxa yokuba nguye ophazamise omnye umntu, ngoko unokufuna ukubhala incwadi yokuxolisa. Umntwana wakho unokufuna ukuthumela le leta, kodwa kufuneka ahlale engqondweni ukuba kunomnye umntu ukuba enze ukuxolela. Ukuba umntwana wakho uxolisa, akukho nto angayenzayo. Kufanele ukuba uxolise ngokunyanisekileyo kwaye akufanele siqale nantoni na efana "Ndiyaxolisa ukuba ..." okanye "Ndiyaxolisa ukuba uziva ukuba mna ...." Oku kwenza ukuba kuve ngathi umlobi akacingi ukuba wenze into engalunganga. Ayivakala ingqibelelo.
Asikwazi ukukhusela abantwana bethu kuzo zonke izinto ezibuhlungu kunye nokungabikho komthetho kwihlabathi, kodwa sinokubanceda bajongane neemvakalelo zabo xa bevelele kubo.