Umzali Ucela Uncedo Ngomntwana Olawulayo
Umama ogxekayo ucela uncedo kwiblogi: Ndinentombi eneminyaka eli-17 ubudala ebalekele okungenani ezili-10 kwiminyaka emi-2 edlulileyo. Njalo xa ehamba, ndilinde iiyure ezingama-48 ndize ndibize amapolisa. Ndiyathetha kakhulu ngale nto kwaye ndihlangene nalo mzuzwana nento endiyenzayo. Akakho ekhaya njengoko ndibhalela oku. Undibizile kwaye xa athe wenza, wenza into engekho into eyenzekayo.
Ngoku ke wenqaba ukubuya ekhaya kwaye andiyazi into endiyenzayo. Ndimthanda ngayo yonke intliziyo yam, ndamfumana ekululekeleni ekhaya kunye neyeza zonyango, uyongcola kwaye ufuna ukwenza izinto ngendlela yakhe. Imithetho ayilandelwa nhlobo. Into encinane kunazo zonke, njengokungasebenzisi ifowuni okanye ukuthi hayi kumdlalo webhola lebhola ngoba wayenenkathazo esikolweni okanye esikolweni esiqhekezayo ngaloo mini, kuya kumkhokelela ukuba ayeke emva kwesikolo kwaye enze oko ndathi akukho. Ndiye ekupheleni kwam enketho yam kwaye akayi kuba ngu-18 kude kube ngu-Agasti ozayo. Ndiyathandazela kakhulu intombi yam kunye nokukhusela kwayo.
Impendulo kaKathy: Kukho amanyathelo amaninzi okufuneka uyithathe ukuze uqinisekise ukhuseleko wentombi yakho. Ukuziphatha kwakhe akuphelelwanga kwaye unzima ukujongana nomntwana osemncinci onokukhathazeka kwaye onqabileyo.
Njengoko isinyathelo sokuqala sifumane intombi yakho ibe yindawo yokukhusela yesikhashana apho iya kukhuseleka khona xa usebenza ukuze ufumane le meko.
Emva koko lixesha lokuxoxisana nesivumelwano sokuba bobabili ningaphila kunye nabo. Sebenzisana nomlopheli weentsapho ukuphuhlisa imithetho ebhaliweyo yokuhlala endlwini yakho, ukuba ungafaki ukubalekela. Xa abatsha abanomdla kwiinkcukacha zesakhiwo abalindeleke ukuba baphile ngenxa yokuba bayamkeleka kwimimiselo.
Gcina ukhumbule ukuba ukuziphatha kwakho kwentsha kukubonakalisa ukungabikho kokulawulwa kwakhe ngaphakathi.
Xa imigaqo isungulwe umngeni wakho olandelayo kukukunceda ekujonganeni neengxaki engakwazi ukujamelana nazo. Ekubeni intombi yakho iye yipilisi yonyango kwaye inexesha elide lokwenza oko akufunayo, ungabi nalixesha lokufumana uncedo kwintsapho yoncedo ukuze ufumane intlekele yakho kwinkqubo yokunyanga yokuhlala.
Kulolu hlobo lwesilungiselelo sokwelapha kuya kuba nzima kuye ukubaleka kwaye ekugqibeleni angakwazi ukujongana nemicimbi yangempela emva kwakhe kokuziphatha kokulawula. Xa ephendulela i-18 akusayi kuba yisigqibo sakho sokumnceda unyango. Njengomdala osemthethweni intombi yakho iya kufumana kuphela uncedo ukuba ukhetha ukwenza njalo.
Le yimeko enzima ukujongana nayo, intombi yakho inenhlanhla yokuba nomzali onomdla kakhulu ngaye kwaye uzama nzima ukumnceda. Ndiyathemba ukuba olu lwazi luncedo, ndixelele ukuba oku kusebenza njani.
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