Ukuziphatha kuyaziswa ngolwazi kunye nomnqweno wokuvavanya imida
Abantwana abaneminyaka emashumi asixhenxe bahlala kwi-cusp yobuntwaneni kunye neminyaka elishumi elinesibhozo. Ngeminyaka eli-7, baya kushiya i-kindergarten ngasemva ukuze bahambe ngamanzi ngamanye amaxesha unsteadier amanzi esikolweni sokuqala. Ngethuba elifanayo, ngelixa besele kude kude nemingeni yobutsha, baya kuba nolwazi ngokubanzi (kunye nolwazi malunga nalo).
Ukuziphatha komntwana kunokwenzeka ukubonisa le nkqubela yenkqubo yophuhliso.
Ngokubanzi, abaneminyaka engama-7 banakho ukubonisa ukuxinwa kwexesha elide kwaye baya kuba nomonde omkhulu xa bejamelene nemingcipheko kunye neengxaki. Ingqwalasela yabo iya kuba yinde kunye nokukwazi kwabo ukugxila kwimisebenzi emininzi
Baya kuba nobunzulu bezakhono kunye nokukwazi ukwenza imisebenzi yemihla ngemihla ngokulula. Oku kuguqulela ukukhathazeka okungaphantsi kunye nokuzithiba okungcono njengoko befunda ukuguqula isikolo, ubomi bezenhlalakahle kunye nokuphila kwasekhaya ngokukhululeka.
Xa kuthethwa oko, eli xesha lokuphuhliswa kwabantwana linye apho abantwana baya kuhlola imida. Abazali banokulindela ukuba babhekane nokucwiliswa kwaye ukuxakishwa kwamathuba amaninzi (nangona i-out-out-out-out-out-out-outs will be less common). Ngakolunye uhlangothi, iingxaki zokuziphatha ezifana nokuthetha ngasemva zingathatha intsingiselo entsha njengoko abantwana bebachazela ngakumbi kwaye bakwazi ukuvakalisa iingcamango zabo.
Yintoni ekwazisa umntu oneminyaka eli-7 ubudala?
Imida yokuvavanya kakhulu yinxenye yenkqubo yokukhula.
Ukuba uneminyaka engama-7 ubudala, ngubani oya kuqonda umahluko phakathi kokulungileyo nokungalunganga, oku kunokubangela ukuziphatha okufana nokuxoka nokunyaniseka .
Kodwa, ngelo xesha, akuthethi nje "ngokuziphatha kakubi" kodwa kunokuba ukwandiswa kwenqweno yemvelo yokuba yonke into eneminyaka engama-7 ubudala. Ngokuqhelekileyo bathetha, baya kubuza imibuzo eninzi baze bazibonele ngeengcamango zabo malunga noko baxelelwa kubo.
Ukuba umyalezo awucacanga, bangawucacisa okanye baphendule into echaziweyo. Oku kwendalo.
Abaninzi abaneminyaka engama-7 ubudala baneminyaka apho bazimisele ukuthanda abantu. Le mfuneko yokuba uthando lomzali kunye nokuvunywa kudla ngokuchasene nokuzimela okukhulayo. Yiyo le ntlobo yeengxabano zengqondo ezingakhuthaza umntwana ukuba asebenze, ngokuqhelekileyo ephikisanayo neendlela ezididayo.
Oku kunokuba kuqhutywe kakhudlwana ngentshukumo eguqukileyo abantwana abanokujamelana nayo njengoko bezama ukuvaka umxhelo wokuzithemba kwaye bahambelane neengcinezelo zontanga . Uneminyaka engama-7 ubudala, umnqweno wokuhlenga le mvakalelo inokubangela ukuba babe nokugxeka ngokugqithiseleyo iimpazamo zabo ezibonakalayo. Baya kuba ngabagqibeleleyo kunye neentshaba zabo ezimbi.
Izixhobo zokuyalela umdala oneminyaka eli-7 ubudala
Ngeentsuku zokuphuma kwexesha kunye neengxuma emva kwakho, kuya kufuneka ufumane indlela eyahlukileyo yokuqeqesha. Izakhono zonxibelelwano zomntwana ziza kufuna ukuba ukhulume ngakumbi xa uxoxela izinto ozilindeleyo. Ukungaphumeleli ukwenza oko kunokukhokelela ekuchazeni okungafaniyo okwenza imida kunye nemithetho ilula kakhulu.
Nazi ezinye izikhokelo ezilula ezinokukunceda:
- Yenza intetho ibalulekileyo. Ukwenza uxhulumaniso olungileyo kunye nomntwana luyinxalenye ebalulekileyo yokusingatha nokukhusela iingxaki zokuziphatha nanoma yiphi ubudala. Ngokubeka umgangatho ngoku, umntwana wakho uya kukhululeka ngokuxoxa ngeengxaki, ekhuselekile ngolwazi lokuba uya kuviwa ngaphandle kokuba uthethwe.
- Misela imida ecacileyo. Abantwana ababazi kakuhle oko kukulindeleke kubo bancitshiswa kakhulu ukunyusa imida. Ngelixa abantwana abaneminyaka engama-7 banokulindela ukuzama ukulinganisa imida, ukucacisa kwaba yimida ekukhutshelweni kwabo kwiindawo zokuba benze ukhetho kunokuba bavumele ukuba bawususe umgaqo. Ukunyanzeliswa kwemida kubaluleke kakhulu njengoko kubeka.
- Sebenzisa "ixesha elithulileyo" ngokufanelekileyo. Ngama-7 ubudala, ukuhamba kwesikhathi akuyi kuba nomphumo ofanayo xa umntwana wakho eneminyaka engama-4 ubudala. Kunoko, sebenzisa "ixesha elithulekileyo" apho umntwana uya kucelwa ukuba ahlale kwaye abonakalise, ngaphandle kokuphazamiseka, ukuba kutheni ukuziphatha okuthile kungalunganga okanye kungalunganga.
- Beka ithoni efanelekileyo. Ukuba ulindele ukuba umntwana wakho athethe nawe ngendlela ehloniphekileyo, kufuneka wenze okufanayo. Yenza umgudu wokuzama ukusebenzisa ithoni yothando, kwaye ugxininise ukuba kutheni ukuziphatha kakubi kunokuba kutheni umntwana engalunganga.
- Ingxaki--yombulula kunye. Ukufundisa izakhono zokuxazulula iingxaki kukuvumela umntwana wakho ukuba abe yingxenye yesisombululo kunokuba abe yinto ekujoliswe kuyo. Emva koko, kugcizelela oko kulungileyo okuvela ekubeni wenze ukhetho olufanelekileyo kunokuba ugxile kwizinto ezingahambi kakuhle.
- Sebenzisa umphumo onengqiqo ukuxhuma amachaphaza. Isiphumo sengqiqo sisiza umntwana ukuba aqonde ukuba akayi kuhlwayelwa into "ongayithandiyo" kodwa kunoko umphumo wokukhetha umntwana owenziwe ngokuzithandela. Ukuba umntwana wenqaba ukumisa ukudlala umdlalo wevidiyo, umzekelo, musa ukuthatha amalungelo enTV. Thatha umdlalo wevidiyo. Hlangana nokukhetha kwakho.
Ekugqibeleni, xa uneminyaka engama-7, ukuqeqeshwa kwabantwana kufanele kugxininise ngakumbi kwisikhokelo kwaye kungaphantsi kwimiphumo yokuziphatha okubi. Ngokwenza njalo ngendlela eqinile kodwa enothando, uya kusebenza ngakumbi ekulungiseni iingxaki zokuziphatha.
Ekupheleni, abantwana benza into oyenzayo. Beka umzekelo omhle kwaye uhlale uhambelana.