Ukujongana namantombazana athetha, ama-fox kunye nezinye iimingeni zomngane
Isikolo esiphakathi sigcwele iips and downs. Ukusuka kwimigudu yamandla kunye neendlebe zokubamba iimpembelelo eziphikisanayo neemvakalelo ezinamandla, amantombazana eninzi anokujongana nawo. Kodwa akubi konke okubi. Isikolo esiphakathi sinokuba yinto enomdla kumantombazana. Bakha ubudlelwane obusondeleyo, bafumana ukuzimela kunye nokwenza iindidi zabo zentlalo.
Isibalulekileyo ukwazi ukuba ulindele ntoni kunye nendlela yokuhamba ngamanzi angenakuthenjiswa kobuhlobo besikolo esiphakathi.
Nazi izinto ezili-14 ezingenakuzenza ukuze uzilungiselele intombi yakho kwisikolo esiphakathi kunye nabahlobo abahamba nayo.
Ukunceda iNkcazo Yakho Yasekuhlaleni Ngokuxhatshazwa noBungane
Qonda ukutshintsha kobuhlobo esikolweni esiphakathi. Ngokungafani nesikolo saseprayimari, ngoku xa amantombazana ehlangene, baninzi bafuna ukuthetha. Bathetha ngomntu malunga nomculo, iifilimu, iimpahla, iingcweti, iincwadi kunye namaxesha ngamakhwenkwe. Kwaye xa bengenakukwazi ukuthetha ngomntu, baya kubhala okanye bathumele umyalezo. Abazali abaqonda le nguqu baya kuba balungele ukunceda zabo iintombi ngeengxaki.
Ukuthetha rhoqo. Mamela into intombi yakho ithetha ngayo ngesikolo nakubangane. Kodwa musa ukungena ngokukhawuleza kwaye uzame ukulungisa izinto. Kunoko, vumela ukuba akhulume. Ukuba uvakalelwa ngento athethayo, uya kuba neenjongo zokukugcina kwi-loop xa izinto zingahambi kakuhle.
Yakha intombi yakho yokuzithemba. Ukuzithemba okunempilo yenye yeendlela ezilungileyo zokukhusela ukuxhatshazwa kwintombi yentombi yakho.
Qinisekisa ukuba wenza konke onokukwenza ukumnceda ukuba azive kakuhle ngaye ngenxa yokuba isikolo esiphakathi sinokwenza okuninzi ukukhupha intombazana yokuzithemba.
Qonda ukuba uhlahlo lwabahlali luyatshintsha. Cliques zomelela; imfuneko yokuba yindlela yokulawula iyaqinisa, kwaye amanye amantombazana athatha isisindo. Uninzi lwale mpawu luvela ekubeni ufuna ukuhlala.
Kwamantombazana athile, imfuno yokubamba iqela inamandla kangangokuba baya kwenza konke abakwaziyo ukuphelisa ukhuphiswano. La mabhinqa ayaziwa njengamantombazana athetha. Basebenzisa amahemuhemu kunye neentlebo zokulawula iimeko kunye nokuxhaphaza amanye amantombazana.
Zazi kakuhle zonke iintlobo zokuxhaphaza. Ukusuka kwi- cyberbullying kunye nokuthunyelwa kwemiyalezo ye- imeyli ukuxoshwa kunye nezinye iintlobo zobudlova obusondelene nabo , kufuneka uqiniseke ukuba uyazi ukuba abantwana baxhatshazwa njani namhlanje. Nangona ukuxhatshazwa ubuso nobuso kusekho, iteknoloji yenze isicwangciso esitsha sokuxhatshazwa. Amantombazana ngokukodwa abonakala ngathi bayamkela. Musa ukushiya ngasemva. Zifundise uze ufundise intombi yakho.
Qinisekisa ukuba intombi yakho iyazi ukubona njani umhlobo omhle. Umhlobo omhle nguye oya kumkhangela, unomdla ngaye, kuquka naye kwimisebenzi kwaye uyiphathe ngentlonipho. Abahlobo abalungileyo banesihawu, bathembekile kwaye babambisana. Mkhuthaze ukuba afune abahlobo abaneempawu. Nceda intombi yakho ibone ukuba yintoni intombazana enokuyenza abahlobo abafanelekileyo.
Yilumke intombi yakho malunga nobuhlobo obunobuthi. Ezi zihlobo zidla ngokubonakalayo, ukunyanzelisa, ukukhutshwa kunye nezinye izinto ezilimazayo. Ukuba intombi yakho inezihlobo ezinje, uya kulwa neemvakalelo ezimbi ngaye.
Iifrenta zihlala ziwela kule nqanaba. Aba ngabahlobo abahle emehlweni ebantombazana bakho, kodwa ukuhleba ngaye emva kwakhe. Iifrenta nazo zizama ukulawula abahlobo babo kwaye ziza kusebenzisa ukuhlaselwa okucokisekileyo ukuze kungabikho ukuzithemba.
Mxelele ukuba agweme ubuhlobo kunye namantombazana athetha. Kuthetha ukuba amantombazana asasazeka ngamahlebezi, ukuhleka okanye ukuhleka xa amanye amantombazana ehamba kwaye akhulume ngokubanzi malunga namaqela athile. Baphinde bahlebe, baxoxe amanga baze baxoxe namanye amantombazana. Nangona la maantombazana enokubonakala ngathi athandwayo kwaye athandwa kakhulu, abafundi abaninzi banokunyamezela ukuziphatha kwabo ukuphepha ukuba lixhoba elilandelayo. Ncoma intombi yakho ukuba icace kule ntlobo yamantombazana.
Khuthaza intombi yakho ukuba ibe nabahlobo abaninzi. Nangona ube ne-BFF (umhlobo ogqithiseleyo ngonaphakade) unokubonakala ekhangayo, kule minyaka yamantombazana idinga ngaphezu kweyodwa, ubuhlobo obukhethekileyo. Ubulumko ukuba intombi yakho ibe nabahlobo kwiindawo ezahlukahlukeneyo ebomini bakhe, njengabahlobo abasemzini, isikolo, icawa kunye nemidlalo. Oku kuthetha ukuba uya kuba nabanye abantu ukuba bajikelele ukuba kukho into engalunganga kunye nobunye bobuhlobo bakhe.
Yazi abahlobo bakho beentombi. Khuthaza intombi yakho ukuba imema abangane bayo. Xa amanye amantombazana etyelela, ufumana ithuba lokuzibonela ngokukhawuleza ukusebenzisana kwentlalo yengane yakho. Kananjalo ungakwazi ukuthabatha nayiphi na imiba. Ukuba ubona nantoni na engayinakunceda, qiniseka ukuthetha nentombi yakho malunga nayo kamva.
Jonga ingqalelo indlela evakalelwa ngayo. Nangona isikolo esiphakathi sisithuba semvakalelo yamantombazana ngenxa yazo zonke iinguqu ezenzekayo emizimbeni yazo, kubalulekile ukuba ubukele iinkcukacha ezithi zibangele ezinye izinto. Qaphela ukuba kukho naziphi na izimpawu zokuxhatshazwa. Yaye uqaphele ukuba uthi kukho "umdlalo" esikolweni okanye "akanalo nabangane." Ngokuqhelekileyo, ezi zibonakalisa ukuba ukuxhatshazwa kwenzeka.
Vumela intombi yakho ukuba ihlelwe yimiba yobuhlobo. Musa ukunyathela ngaphandle kokuba uxhatshazwa. Ukumvumela ukuba asebenze iingxaki ngokwakhe ufundisa zakhe izakhono zobomi ezibalulekileyo. Uya kufunda ukulungiswa kwemibango, ukuqinisekiswa kunye nokuxazulula ingxaki .
Nceda intombi yakho ifunde ukuxabisa nokuvakalisa izimvo zakhe. Nangona kubalulekile ukucinga ngezidingo zabanye abantu, kubalulekile ukuba amantombazana afunde ukunyaniseka, ngokukodwa malunga nabakhohlisi. Injongo yinto yokuba intombi yakho iya kufunda ukuchasana kweembono ngendlela ehloniphekileyo. Ufuna ukuba afunde ukuzikhusela xa abanye bebamncenga okanye bamxhaphaza.
Khumbula ukuba usengumthelela omkhulu ebomini bakhe. Nangona kunokuba kuphazamise ukubona abahlobo befuthe ukhetho lweempahla kunye nomculo, khumbula ukuba ezi zikhethi zixesha elifutshane. Ukuba ukhuthaza ulwalamano oluhle kunye oluvulekileyo nentombi yakho, uya kuba nefuthe elikhulu kwiimpawu zakhe kunye nokuziphatha kwakhe. Ngoko ungakhathazeki ngenguqu ezincinane ozibonayo. Kunoko, gxila kumfanekiso omkhulu.