Unokumnceda njani umntwana wakho ukuba athembele esikolweni aze amlungiselele imeko ezixinzelelekileyo ezingenakuvela?
Isikolo sinokuba sisisongela kwaye sisabisa abantwana
Njengomntu omdala, izinto ezininzi ebomini aziyikrele. Ngokuqinisekileyo, sinoyika xaxa, kodwa kulula ukulibala indlela umhlaba ubheka ngayo umntwana. Ngokuqinisekileyo, abanye abantwana banokuzithemba ngakumbi kunabanye, kodwa kubantwana abangenasiphelo kunye nabo banokukhubazeka ukufunda, isikolo singabonakala siyindawo ehlekisayo, kungakhathaliseki ukuba ngumntwana.
Nangona imisebenzi yokufunda rhoqo ingaba ngumthombo wobandezelo kubantwana. Ngokomzekelo, uxinzelelo lweemviwo kunye neemeko zemibuzo ye-pop zingabangela uxinzelelo oluninzi kubantwana, kwaye ngelixa ziyingxenye ebalulekileyo yemfundo, kubalulekile ukunceda umntwana wakho asebenzise ezo zilingo ngokuzithemba. Ukunceda abantwana bakho bakhe ukuzithemba nokuzihlonela ngoku kuya kubanceda bahlakulele izakhono zokubaluleka eziza kubancedisa ubomi babo.
Qinisekisa iiNdawo zeNgxaki zeNgane yakho kwiSikolo
Zama ukuthatha inqaku zezifundo ezifunwa ngumntwana wakho nezithandwayo. Ezinye zezifundo ziya kuba ziintando zintando, kwaye oko kusoloko luphawu oluhle lokuba umntwana wakho unokukwazi ukuhlangabezana kakuhle kwezo zifundo. Nangona kunjalo, izifundo ezingathandwa ngumntwana zakho ziyakwazi ukuba yiyo apho ukuzithemba kwakhe kuyakufuna inkxaso enkulu.
Nanini na xa abantwana bakho babonakala bephepha izifundo ezithile, okanye nokuba baphephe ukugula kwiintsuku ababenayo ezo zifundo, kufuneka uqwalasele ukuba ngaba ngenxa yenkxalabo yokuzithemba.
Ukuxhamla ukuya esikolweni kumntwana onesifo sokukhubazeka kunokubonisa ukuba iimfuno zakhe zemfundo azithotyelwanga okanye mhlawumbi indawo yokuhlala kunye nemiyalelo eyenzelwe ngokukodwa ayilungiselelwa ngokufanelekileyo.
Nika Ingqiqo Yakho Yomntwana ngokuchaza ngeeNkcazo
Phantse wonke umzali uthanda ukuwahlamba abantwana bakhe ngendumiso, kodwa ngamanye amaxesha kunokuba luncedo ukuba ube ncinane ngakumbi.
Abantwana balindele abazali babo ukuba baxelele ukuba bahle, baqili, bahle. Indlela enkulu yokunceda umntwana wakho akhuphe ukuzithemba, nangona kunjalo, ukubeka izimvo ngokuthe ngqo kwizinto apho umntwana wakho adlula khona. Uninzi lwabantwana lunzima nezinye izinto kwaye zinamandla okwenyama nabanye. Ngelishwa, abantwana abanobuchule kaninzi abaqapheli indlela abanetalente ngayo. Naliphi na ixesha xa uqaphela ukuba umntwana wakho ulungile entweni ethile, makhe azise ngolwazi oluthile, udumo lwangempela.
Izinto ezintle malunga nokuqaphela izinto ezithile kukuba akuyi kunceda umntwana wakho ukuba azibone iitalente zakhe, kodwa unokunceda akwazi ukuzithemba nangona ebonakala engenakho italenta. Ngokomzekelo, ukuba umntwana wakho unomngeni othile kumxholo othile okanye umsebenzi othile, kodwa usebenza kakuhle, unokuba unqwenela ukuphawula ngokukwazi kwakhe ukunamathela kumsebenzi onzima okanye uhlale uxolo xa ugxininisekile. Enyanisweni, enye yezona zinto ezinokuxhasa unokuzenza njengomzali ukudumisa nje umsebenzi wesikolo umntwana wakho ogqithisayo, kodwa isimo sakhe sengqondo kunye nemvakalelo njengoko esebenza kuloo mi sebenzi.
Ukuphulaphula Umntwana Wakho
Abantwana bayayithanda xa ubalalele-njengabantu abadala. Xa umntwana wakho ekutshela into eyenzekayo, yenza konke okusemandleni akho ukuba unake ingqalelo kwaye uphulaphule.
Ukuphulaphula ngokugqithisileyo kuyahlukileyo kunokuphulaphula ngokukhawuleza.
Abantwana banengqondo ngokuqonda xa uphulaphule ngokwenene kwaye xa uva nje bethetha. Jongana nomntwana wakho, cela imibuzo ebonisa intshisekelo yakho, kwaye uqinisekise ukuba ulwimi lwakho lomzimba lugqithisela ukuba uphulaphule.
Zama ukuphendula ngokukhawuleza kwaye ugweme ukulahla nokwenza izinto ezingaqondakaliyo, ngokubanzi njenge "othandekayo." Ukuba awukuphulaphuli, umntwana wakho uya kufumana isigidimi sokuba nayiphi na into ayithethiyo ayibalulekanga ngokwaneleyo ukuba ufumane ingqalelo epheleleyo. Ukuba uyazibamba ukuphulaphula-ukuba uyaqonda ukuba ulalele kodwa akayiva oko umntwana wakho akutshoyo-cela umntwana wakho ukuba aphinde aphinde acele uxolo ngenxa yokuphazamiseka.
Njengoko ukhangele iimbono ekudumiseni umntwana wakho, thatha isikhashana usebenzise izakhono zakho zokuphulaphula. (Sonke sifuna ukufundisa abantwana bethu imbeko emihle kunye nokuziphatha , njengabaphulaphuli abakhutheleyo, kodwa ngamanye amaxesha bayalibala ukuba ukuziphatha kwethu ngumfundisi wabo omkhulu.)
Thatha iNgqungquthela yoyiko evela kubazali
Abazali banako ukubeka ingcinezelo emininzi kubantwana babo, kwaye xa umdibaniselwano wabazali ejikeleze kuyo ingaba yinto eyoyikisayo. Xa ubuya kwinkomfa yomzali, thintela isilingo ukuxelela abantwana bakho oko benza okungalunganga kwaye endaweni yoko ugxininise kwizinto ezintle.
Ukuxelela abantwana bakho ngobuthathaka babo akuyonto eyakhayo. Kunoko, qwalasela ingxoxo kunye nootitshala babo malunga nendlela onokukunceda ngayo umntwana wakho ukuba aphucule kuloo buthathaka. Yakha icebo uze wenze kulo. Qiniseka ukuba ke, ukuba ungayenzi le ngxoxo ibonisa ukuba umntwana wakho unobuthathaka, kwaye akanakho ukukhula ukubandakanyeka kwiingxoxo.
Ukuba unqwenela ukuxhasa umntwana wakho kuyo nayiphi na indawo engxaki, jongana nale ngxaki njengento ethile kunye nomntwana wakho ecwangcisiweyo ukujongana kunye. Ngaloo ndlela umntwana wakho, endaweni yokuba uzive engenangqiqo, uya kuziva ukuba unomqolo wakhe kwaye uyinkampani kunye naye njengoko ekhuluma nobuthathaka bakhe.
Ukunceda ngaphandle kweSikolo
Imisebenzi eyongezelelweyo yeekharityhulam ayinanto into engalunganga, ngoko unike umntwana wakho ukhuthazo (ngaphandle kokumnyanzela) ukuzama izinto ezintsha. Iiklabhu kunye namaqela yithuba elihle kubantwana bakho ukuba baqhelane kunye nabahlobo abatsha kwaye, kude neengcinezelo zesikolo, oku kunokunceda ngokukhuseleka kunye nokunceda ukuzithemba. Ukuba umntwana wakho uphumelele kuyo nayiphi na le mimandla, qiniseka ukuba awuyi kuthatha indawo. Ngokomzekelo, qiniseka ukuba ingqwalasela enhle ijoliswe kumntwana wakho, kunokuba ucebise ukuba uthathe inxaxheba kwimisebenzi ethile.
Ukuvuleleka Kumntwana Wakho
Le nto isicatshulwa esilula, kodwa enye iya kuphila. Soloko ukhula kwaye unothando, kodwa uthetha nomntwana wakho ngemfundo yakhe. Mxelele ukuba ukuba unayo ingxaki esikolweni unokuthetha nawe. Kubonakala kubonakala, kodwa kumntwana, kungenjalo, ngoko nje ukwazi ukuba ulapho kunokukwenza izinto ezinomsebenzi zingabonakali. Njengoko kuphawuliwe kwangaphambili, qiniseka ukuba umntwana wakho uyaqonda ukuba usekhotheni yakhe kwaye inxalenye yeqela lakhe xa ejongene nobunzima. Ihlabathi lincinci kakhulu kumntwana ovakalelwa kukuba akayedwa.
Imithombo:
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