Uphuhliso oluphambili kunye noMntwana wakho oneminyaka eli-8 ubudala

Uneminyaka engama-8 ubudala iyakwandisa ihlabathi labo

Abantwana abaneminyaka ezisibhozo banokuzithemba ngakumbi ngokwabo kunye nabo. Xa uneminyaka eyi-8, umntwana wakho uya kuba neenjongo ezithile kunye nezinto ezithandwayo kwaye uyazi into ayithandayo okanye engayithandiyo.

Ngelo xesha, abantwana beli minyaka bafunda ngokubanzi malunga nehlabathi ngokubanzi kwaye banokukwazi ukuhamba nobudlelwane boluntu nabanye ngokuzimeleyo, kunye nokukhokelwa ngaphantsi kwabazali. Ekhaya, abaneminyaka engama-8 banako ukujamelana nemisebenzi eyinkimbinkimbi yendlu kwaye bathathe uxanduva oluninzi lokuzinyamekela, nokuba bancede nabantwana abancinane.

Ngokubanzi, ngokweCDC, ezi ziinguqu zithile onokuzibona kumntwana wakho:

• Ubonisa ukuzimela ngakumbi kubazali nakwiintsapho.
• Uqala ukucinga ngekamva.
• Uqonda ngokubanzi malunga nendawo yakhe ehlabathini.
• Yenza ingqalelo ngakumbi kubahlobo kunye neqela.
• Ufuna ukuthandwa kunye nokwamkelwa ngabahlobo.

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Indlela yokuziphatha kunye nemihla ngemihla

Ukuziphatha komntwana oneminyaka eyi-8 kunye neendlela eziqhelekileyo zemihla ngemihla zijongwa ngumdla womntwana, umdla kunye nobuntu. Abazali kunye nabanye abadala ababalulekileyo ebomini bomntwana kufuneka bahlale bekhumbula ingqalelo yokubaluleka kokuba ngumzekelo omhle ukususela ngeli xesha ixesha abantwana becinga ngayo ihlabathi kunye nokuba bangabani na ukuba bahlala njani kulo. unokubandakanyeka kwimisebenzi yoluntu oluyinkimbinkimbi kunye nokuziphatha okukunceda ukuchaza indlela azijonga ngayo.

Ubuchule bokuqeqeshwa ngempumelelo kulo nyaka buquka ukuqhubeka nokudumisa ukuziphatha kakuhle, kugxininisa imizamo yomntwana wakho, into enokuyenza kunye nokutshintsha, kunokuba iziganeko ezingenangqondo (njengokuthi "uhlakaniphile"). Misela kwaye ugxininise imithetho ehambelanayo. Uqeqesho kufuneka lujoliswe ekukhokeleni umntwana wakho kunokuba ujezise. Landela ngokuxubusha nomntwana wakho malunga noko angakwenza ngokufanelekileyo ngexesha elizayo.

Umntwana wakho oneminyaka engu-8 unokuzinyamekela ngokubhekiselele ekuhlambulukeni kwaye unokuqala ukufuna ukuba yinxalenye yokwenza isigqibo sokuba intsapho yidla. Unokuqala ukunika imisebenzi yakho yomntwana ukufaka isandla ekugcinweni kwendlu kunye nesibonelelo sokuqala ukufunda ukulawula imali. Kule minyaka, umntwana wakho usafuna iiyure ezili-10 ukuya kwe-11 zokulala ubusuku bonke.

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Uphuhliso Lwenyama

Kubantwana abaneminyaka engama-8 ubudala, ukuphuhliswa ngokwenyama kuya kuqhubeka nokubaninzi malunga nokuphuculwa kwezakhono, ukulungelelaniswa nokulawulwa kwemisipha kunokuba utshintsho olukhulu. Baqala ukubonakala ngathi "abantwana abakhulu," kodwa ukutshatyalaliswa kweminyaka kusekudala iminyaka emininzi yabo.

Abantwana abanamandla okwenyuka kwezemvelo bangabonisa amandla abo kweli nqanaba lokuphuhlisa njengoko izakhono zabo zomzimba ziba zichanekileyo kwaye zichanekile. Enyanisweni, oku kudla ngokuba lixesha apho abantwana banquma ukuba ngaba baqhutywe okanye bangayi kuthatha inxaxheba okanye baphephe midlalo. Ngayiphi na indlela, kubalulekile ukuba abazali bakhuthaze umsebenzi owenziwe ngokomzimba. Nangona umntanakho engumdlali wezemidlalo unako ukuzonwabisa, ukubhukuda, ukuhamba ngeebhayisikili kunye nezinye iintlobo zezinto ezingabonakali ezemidlalo ezinxulumene nemidlalo.

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Uphuhliso Lomoya

Ukukhula kwengqondo eneminyaka eli-8 kunokukhula kwinqanaba elincinci kuneminyaka emncinci, kwaye uneminyaka engama-8 unokubonisa iimvakalelo ezinzulu kunye neengxaki kunye nokusebenzisana. Ngokomzekelo, uneminyaka engama-8 ubudala angenza iimbono zangempela okanye iimvakalelo ukuba azikhusele iimvakalelo zomntu okanye asebenze ngxaki ngaphandle kokuvavanyelwa okufutshane kwabantu okanye ukungenelela.

Eli lixesha apho umntwana wakho enokuthi ahlakulele ingqondo eyinkcazo ngakumbi kwihlabathi. Iminqweno yakhe, iitalente, abahlobo, kunye nolwalamano kunye nentsapho yonke inomnceda ukuba aqinisekise ukuba ngubani. Kwakhona ukuqala kokufuna ubumfihlo kunye ne-flip-flopping phakathi kokuzithemba nokuzithemba.

Ingaba ixesha elifanelekileyo lokunceda umntwana wakho akhulise umonde kunye novelwano kwabanye.

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Uphuhliso loCognitive

Abantwana abalishumi elinesibhozo basesiteji sokuphuhliswa kwengqondo apho baya kuba nako ukugcina ingqalelo ixesha elide. Unokulindela ukuba umntwana wakho akwazi ukugxila kumsebenzi ukuya kwiyure okanye ngaphezulu. Abantwana abalishumi elinesibhozo baya kuba nako ukucinga ngokugqithiseleyo nokuvakalisa izimvo zisebenzisa iilulumagama nolwimi olunzulu nolunzulu.

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Phuhliso loLuntu

Esi sisigaba sophuhliso loluntu apho abaninzi abantwana bathanda ukuba yinxalenye yamacandelo ezemidlalo kunye namanye amaqela oluntu. Ngokubanzi, abantwana abaneminyaka engama-8 ubudala banandipha isikolo kwaye baya kuqikelela kwaye baxabise ubudlelwane kunye nabahlobo abambalwa abasondeleyo kunye nabafunda nabo. Abazali abaneminyaka engama-8 ubudala kufuneka bajonge iingxaki ezifana nokukhanyela isikolo , njengoko oku kungabonisa ubunzima bokufunda okanye ukuxhatshazwa esikolweni. Kwakhona lixesha elihle ekuxubusha ngayo abanye.

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Kuthiwani Ukuba Umntwana Wangafani?

Amaphulo ephambili aphuhlisayo anika abaqeqeshi kunye nabazali ngesisombululo sokuqhathanisa abantwana kunye nomgangatho. Akukho mntwana ufanelekile ngokuqhelekileyo, kwaye umntwana ngamnye uya kuba neengxaki zakhe, amandla, imingeni kunye nezinto ezikhethiweyo. Nangona kunjalo, nangona kunjalo, ukuba uvakalelwa kukuba umntwana wakho usekude okanye phambili kwesiqhelo, kufanelekile ukuxoxa ngale ngxaki kunye nodokotela wezingane kunye notitshala womntwana wakho. Ukuba kukho imicimbi okanye amathuba, ngoku yisikhathi sokufunda kunye nokuyilungisa.

Igama elivela kwi-Verywell

Umntwana wakho oneminyaka engu-8 useburhulumenteni ngokupheleleyo. Jabulela imisebenzi kwaye uhlolisise ihlabathi kunye. Kulixesha elihle lokuvelisa umdla omtsha kumntwana kwaye umlinde ekhula ngeendlela zonke.

> Imithombo:

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> Ubuntwaneni obuphakathi. CDC.