Ukuvumela umntwana omdala ukuba ahlale ekhaya ngelixa uqhuba ixesha elikhawulezayo okanye kwithuba leyure okanye ezimbini emva kwesikolo uze ufike ekhaya uvela emsebenzini udla ngokukhawuleza nokusebenza kunokuzama ukufumana ukunakekelwa kwabantwana. Ngeemigaqo ezifanelekileyo kunye nezinga lokukhula, ilungiselelo lokuhlala ekhaya lingasebenza. Nangona kunjalo, kukho ukhuseleko oluninzi kunye nezindlela zokuziphatha zokuphepha.
Liliphi Ibanga Elicingelwa Ukuba Likhuselekile?
Umlinganiselo apho umntwana angasala khona ekhaya ngokusuka kwedwa uhluka ukusuka kwiphondo ukuya kwiphondo okanye akakwazi ukupaselwa kwindawo yakho.
I-KidsHealth.org iphawula ukuba akusiyo imbono enhle ukushiya abantwana abangaphantsi kwe-10 ekhaya kuphela. Kodwa ixesha apho umntwana elungele khona liya kuhluka, kubantakwabo. Ngoluhlu olungapheliyo lwezinto ezikhuselekileyo zokukhusela, abaninzi abazali abanomdla kunye nabanakekeli baya kubonisa ngokucacileyo ukuba abantwana abanakuze bahlale ekhaya bodwa. Nangona isiluleko esilungileyo, akusinokuba soloko sisebenza.
Iintsapho ezininzi zivumela ukuba abantwana babo abakhulileyo okanye abakwiziko eliphakathi basekhaya babe ngabodwa emva kwesikolo. Kodwa iingcali zengane zi lumkisa ukuba "i-latchkey kids" yizona zikwazi ukufumana ingxaki xa ikhaya lodwa, njengokuba kunamathuba okuqalisa ukuxhumana okungafanelekanga kwi-intanethi, bukela ithelevishini kubonisa ukuba awuyi kuvumela, usebenzise iziyobisi okanye utywala okanye ukuzibeka engozini kunye nabantu abangabaziyo.
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Ukuba ukhetha ukuvumela umntwana wakho ukuba ahlale ekhaya yedwa, iingcali zincoma ukuba abantwana abangena esikolweni esiphakathi banokukwazi ukuphatha uxanduva ngokufanelekileyo.
Ukuba uceba ukuqala ukuvumela umntwana wakho ukuba ahlale ekhaya yedwa emva kwesikolo, fakela ilungiselelo njengenkqubo yokucwangciswa, apho uvumela kancane kancane amathuba omntwana wakho ukuba abonise ukulungela.
Umzekelo, unokuzama ukuqhuba i-errand esheshayo okanye ukuya kwisitolo kunye nokucela umntwana wakho ukuba angene kuyo yonke imizuzu eyi-15 ngomnxeba.
Ukwazi ukuba umntwana wakho unokukhusela ngokuchanekileyo kwaye ngokuchanekileyo ukukubiza uyisinyathelo sokuqala kwicala elifanelekileyo. Ukusuka apho, unokunyusa ngokukhawuleza ixesha lokuhlala kwindlu yodwa de uze ukhululekile kwimeko.
Uluhlu lokuHlola kunye neMigaqo yoKhuseleko
Misela uluhlu olubhaliweyo lwezinto zokukhusela kunye nemithetho esemgangathweni enokumlandela umntwana wakho. Umzekelo, fowuna umzuzu xa efika ekhaya, khangela ukuba iingcango zivaliwe, ungaphenduli ifowuni ngaphandle kokuba ungumzali okanye ilungu lentsapho elivunyiweyo, akukho khompyutha elisebenzisiweyo, kwaye uzalise yonke imisebenzi yasekhaya).
Qiniseka ukuba umntwana uyaqonda imithetho kwaye uyavuma kubo. Kubaluleke kakhulu ukuvumela umntwana wakho ukuba aphendule umnyango, adlala ngaphandle kwiredi, okanye utshele nabani (ngomntu okanye kwi-intanethi) ukuba uyedwa yedwa.
Uya kufuna kwakhona ukumisela imithetho ethile malunga nokutya. Mhlawumbi uya kuziva unqabile xa ungavumeli umntwana wakho ukuba apheke naluphi ukutya ngaphandle kwe-microwave. Awufuni ukuxhalabisa ngokupheka komlilo okanye ukushisa okushiyekileyo. Qinisekisa ukuba umntwana wakho uyazi amanyathelo athathweyo xa kwenzeka umlilo okanye ezinye izinto eziphuculweyo.
Ingxaki yokuziphatha iyakhula
Abazali bafanele baqonde ukuba isigaba sezilingo esisodwa sinokudukisa. Ilungiselelo lihamba kakuhle kuba umzali nomntwana bafuna ukuba kube yimpumelelo.
Ingozi ifika xa umntwana ekhululekile ngokuhlala yedwa yedwa kwaye uqala ukufuna ukuzimela okukhulu. I-borrowdom inokuvelisa isilingo sokuba nomhlobo phezu kwayo, phuma ngaphandle kwiredi, okanye uhambe ngokukhawuleza. Yilapho iimeko ezinobungozi okanye inkathazo zikhula.
I-kati kunye neminyaka yokuqala yeveki xa abazali abaninzi bevuma ukuvumela umntwana ukuba ahlale ekhaya yedwa. Nangona kunjalo, ubutsha buya kungena emfanekisweni kunye nomnqweno wokuvavanya imigaqo kunye nocelomngeni. Ngenxa yemingcipheko eyongeziweyo, izikolo ezininzi kunye neenkqubo zokuzonwabisa zedolophu zinemisebenzi eyenziwa emva kwezikole (mhlawumbi ngeendleko ezincinci okanye zikhululekile) ukuphepha phakathi / ukuya kwintsapho ukuya kwindlu engenanto.
Ukubeka iliso kwiNkqubo
Ukuba ukhetha ukuvumela umntwana wakho ukuba ahlale ekhaya yedwa, kuya kufuneka ukuba uqaphele ekuqwalaseleni ukuba imigaqo ilandelwa xa uhamba. Abantwana bavame ukuxhaswa kwinto yokuba abazali abasebenzayo bacinezelekile kwaye banxibile kwaye abaqapheli ukujonga iinkcukacha.
Ekugqibeleni, zama ukufumana ummelwane owaziyo ukuba umntwana wakho uya kuhlala yedwa. Mcele ukuba agcine iliso eliyingqiqo ekhayeni lakho (kunye neyinkwenkwe yakho) kunye nokukubiza ukuba ngaba ziphi na izenzo ezingafunekiyo okanye izenzo eziphawulweyo.
> Imithombo:
> Ikhasi elilodwa abantwana. I-American Academy Yomntwana Ne-Adolescent Psychiatry. http://www.aacap.org/aacap/Families_and_Youth/Facts_for_Families/Facts_for_Families_Pages/Home_Alone_Children_46.aspx.
> Ukushiya Umntwana Wakho Ekhaya Wodwa. KidsHealth evela kwiNemours. http://kidshealth.org/en/parents/home-alone.html