Yintoni omele uyiphephe kunye nendlela yokunika isikhulu sakho esimthandayo ukulila
Ukuba awuzange ufumane ukulahleka kokukhulelwa ngokwakho, okanye nokuba unayo, kunokuba nzima ukukwazi ukuba ungathini xa umntu owaziyo enesisu . Ufuna ukusho into ethile, kodwa awukwazi ukuba yintoni.
Ngaloo macebiso, funda into oyithethayo, yintoni omele uyiphephe nendlela yokunika umhlobo wakho okanye ilungu lentsapho ukuba lusizi.
Ukunikezela Ngogonyamelo
Ngamafutshane, into efanelekileyo kukuthetha nayiphi na imizila "Ndiyaxolisa, kwaye ndilapha ngenxa yakho ukuba ufuna ukuthetha ngako." Kwakhona ingcamango enhle ukunika uncedo kumhlobo wakho ukuba uyayifuna kwaye uzimisele ukunikela into ethile kuba kuba kunzima ukuba abantu bacele uncedo nangona bafuna.
Ngokubhekiselele ekuphumuleni, umhlobo wakho unokuthi okanye angafuni. Abanye abafazi abanqweneli ukuthetha kwaye banokurhoxisa kubahlobo kunye nosapho, bekhetha ukuzimela. Ukuba wakho umhlobo okanye isihlobo senza oku, mhlawumbi indlela yakhe yokuhlangabezana nayo . Makhe umhlobo wakho abe nesithuba kwaye ungazami ukumphoqa ukuba akhulume ngaphambi kokuba alungele.
Cinga ukuthumela ikhadi okanye iintyatyambo ukumxelela ukuba ucinga ngaye. Unokuba unika ithuba lokusondla ngenxa yoko akapheki ukupheka okanye, ukuba unabanye abantwana, nikela ukuba ubukele ixesha elide ukuze abe nexesha elilodwa. Unokunikela ukuba uhambe naye kunoma yiyiphi inyulo yokugqithisa ugqirha (ukuba unayo), kwaye iqabane lakhe okanye iqabane lakhe alikwazi ukuba khona kuzo zonke.
Ukuba umhlobo wakho ufuna ukuthetha, zama ukugcina indlebe evulekile. Musa ukuphazamisa umhlobo wakho ukuba angathethi, kuba kungaba yonyango kuye. Cinga ngokubuza imibuzo enje, "Uziva njani?" ukuze umkhuthaze ukuba avule.
Gcina i-Advice yakho
Kwiimeko ezininzi, kufuneka ugweme ukunika iingcebiso ngaphandle kokuba ubuze. Ukuba wena ngokwakho unamava ngokuphuphuma kwesisu, umhlobo wakho unokuba nomdla wokuva malunga namava akho kodwa usebenzise isifundo ngokulumkisa. Ukuba ukutshatyalaliswa kwakho kwexesha kwenzeka kwithuba elithile elidlulileyo, khumbula ukuba iimvakalelo ezinokubandezeleka zingaba nzima kakhulu ekuqaleni kwaye ukujonga kwakho ngamava kunokungafani kakhulu nomhlobo wakho.
Khumbula kwakhona ukuba wonke umntu uhamba ngamava ngokwahlukileyo, ngoko awuyazi ukuba umhlobo wakho uvakalelwa njani (kwaye umhlobo wakho akayazi ukuba uzive ntoni xa kwenzeka kuwe.)
Zama ukukhumbula ukuba umhlobo okanye isihlobo sakho ulahlekelwe ngumntwana kwaye uyayiqonda loo nto . Musa ukunciphisa ilahleko. Mhlawumbi wayeqale ukucinga ngomntwana wakhe engqondweni yakhe kwaye mhlawumbi uvakalelwa kukuba ulahlekelwe ngumntwana, kungekhona nje ukukhulelwa. Kungenzeka kubekho ixesha ngaphambi kokuba uzive ngathi.
Ukuba uziva ungakhululekile kwaye ungenakwenzeka, yenza okusemandleni akho. Zama ukuba khona kumhlobo wakho ngokusemandleni akho. Ngokuqinisekileyo uya kuhlaziya kwaye utshitshise ixesha, kodwa iminyaka ukususela ngoku uya kukhangela emva kweli xesha kwaye ukhumbule inkxaso yakho.