Ukufumanisa izinto ezinokuthi uxhatshazwayo zithi ukuphepha ukuthatha uxanduva
Abantu bathi izinto zithetha ngexesha lonke. Kodwa oko akukwamkeli. Enyanisweni, ukuthetha amagama kunye neengqungquthela ngokuqhelekileyo kukho enye yeyona ndlela ixhaphazayo . Nangona kunjalo kunzima kakhulu ukuyiqonda.
Amaxesha amaninzi amaxhoba okuxhatshazwayo akwazi ukuqonda ubunzima beli gama kunye nemibinzana. Kodwa ukuzichaza ngokuba ziyiyona nto ibalulekileyo ekuthintela ukuxhatshazwa .
Ukuba wakho umntwana usemngeni osebenzisa la magama rhoqo, kubalulekile ukuba uyakwazi ukubona ngamazwi kwinjongo emva kwabo.
Nalu uluhlu lweetlanu eziqhelekileyo ezisetyenziselwa ukuxhatshazwa kweentlanzi.
"Okubi kwam."
Xa umntu athi "yam embi," bayamkela kwimpazamo ngaphandle kokuxolisa ngokuxakalisa okwenziwe ngumntu. Ingakumbi, eli binzana lenza lula impazamo kunokuba uxolise ngokunyanisekileyo kumntu. Ukuthi "yam into embi" yinto efanayo yokutshatyalaliswa xa umntu ebonisa ukuba isitatimende okanye isenzo senzakele.
"Phola phandle!"
Ukuxelela umntu ukuba "aphumle" okanye "ukuphumla" kufana nokuthi "iingxaki zakho okanye iimvakalelo zakho azivumelekanga." Iyanciphisa iimvakalelo zomnye umntu kwaye ithetha ukuba loo mntu uphazamisekile. Kwakhona kubangela ukuba amaxhoba azingacingi ngokwabo kunye nemibono yabo .
Xa abaxhatshazwayo bejongene nokuziphatha kwabo kwaye baphendula ngokuthi "baphumelele," bahlala bexhatshaza kwaye bathetha ngokukodwa iithagethi zabo ukuba iimvakalelo zabo azivumelekanga. Isigijimi kukuba kukho into engalunganga ngokusabela kwexhoba kwaye kungekhona isenzo sexhatshazo.
"Noba yintoni."
Xa umntu ephendula "nantoni na," oko bathethayo kukuba "andinandaba," okanye "into oyithethayo ayibalulekile kum." Ibinzana likhawuleza lidibanise kwaye liphelise intetho. Ikwaxubusha nokuba inkohlakalo okanye intombazana ayinomdla kulowo omnye umntu athethayo.
Abantwana basebenzise igama "nantoni" kuba lilungele kwaye libavumela ukuba bakhuphe. Baye bathambekele ekusebenziseni xa beyazi ukuba bayasimangalela into kodwa abafuni ukuthatha uxanduva . Ingumzamo wokugqibela wokubuyela kumnye umntu ngendlela encinci yento ethile.
"Ndiyaxolisa kodwa ..."
Xa umntu edibanisa "kodwa" ukuxolisa, akusayixolisa. Izizathu ezilandelayo kodwa zikhuphe ukuxolisa. Ngokwenene, umxhaphazi unikeza izizathu zokuziphatha, ezibonisa ukuba zilungele ukulimaza omnye. Ukongezelela, izihlandlo ezininzi izizathu zogxininiso ziya kubandakanya uluhlu lwezinto ezenziwe yixhoba ngandlela-thile "kubangela" ukuxhatshazwa. Kodwa khumbula, akukho mntu uxanduva lokukhethwa ngumxhaphazi kodwa umxhaphazi.
Amaxesha amaninzi, abaxhatshazwayo baya kusebenzisa eli qhinga lokutshintsha ityala okanye ukuphepha ukuthatha uxanduva kwiintlungu ezibangele. Ngokukodwa, eli binzana lihlobo lokuzimela.
Gcinani engqondweni, ukuxolisa okwenene akubandakanyi izizathu zokuziphatha okubi, kodwa kunoko kuchaza ukubuyisela ubudlelwane nomnye umntu.
"Ndandithandana!" Okanye "Akukho sigwebo kodwa ..."
"Ukuntshatyalaliswa," kwaye "akukho gwenxa," amagama athetha ukuba amantombazana kunye nabaxhaphazayo basebenzakala abanye abantu ngaphandle kokuba babe neyabo kwizinto abazithethayo. Kubantu abaninzi, le ntetho ibonakala ingekho nengozi. Kodwa enyanisweni, avumela ukuba umntu onokuxhaphaza enze i-jab encane komnye umntu ngaphandle kwemiphumo.
Ukuba amaxhoba aya kulwa kunye nehlazo elithethayo, banokuva izinto ezinjenge: "Yinto nje ihlaya!" "Ingxaki yakho yintoni? Awukwazi ukuthatha ihlazo? "Kwaye" ndandidlala! "Le logic ivumela abantwana ukuba baphikane nexanduva lokuziphatha kakubi.
Ixhoba lokuxhatshazwa liyacinywa. Uninzi lwexesha ixhoba lihamba kunye nehlazo nangona kukho intlungu.
Zonke ezi nkcazo zinezinto ezifanayo. Ziyimpendulo eziqhelekileyo kubaxhasi xa zijongene nazo. Baye baxela oko bathethayo okanye benza njengentlanzi okanye baphendule "nantoni na," "yam embi," okanye "baphume." Baye babonisa ukungabi nokuzisola ngenxa yokwenzakalisa okwenzelekileyo kwixhoba lokuxhatshazwa.
Injongo ephambili yale mabinzana kukuhlambalaza ixhoba, ukumthulisa nokuguqula ingqalelo. Abaxhatshazi nabo bazama ukuphinde baphinde balawulwe kwimeko. Kwaye, umphumo wokugqibela kukuba abantwana abajoliswe kukuxhatshazwa baziva bexhatshazwa ngakumbi ngenxa yokulimala kwabo.