Ukuba ubungacinga izinto ezinxulumene nokuphumelela kwezemfundo , ungacinga ngomgangatho wesikolo sabo, iziqinisekiso zabo zootitshala, ubuchule bazo, kunye nokubandakanyeka kwakho emsebenzini wesikolo. Ukuba unqamle khona, nokuba kunjalo, ukhangele inkalo ebalulekileyo: nokuba oontanga lwabo bathanda.
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Uyabona ukuba kubaluleke kangakanani abahlobo bakho be-pakati, ngoko unengcamango yokuba kubaluleke kangakanani ubudlelwane boontanga kubomi bakho bomntwana.
Ukuba ngaba phakathi kwakho uceliwe ukuba azilinganise yena kunye noontanga bakhe eklasini, yintoni eya kuba ngumphumo? Yiyo ndlela abaphandi bafunda ngayo ukwamukelwa koontanga. Ngokomzekelo, wakho ophakathi uya kubonisa ukuba ngaba ngabahlobo abakhulu kunabo nawuphi na umfundi onikezelweyo kwaye bancome kangakanani ukuba bathanda okanye bangamthandi loo mntu. Emva kokuvavanya igumbi elipheleleyo labafundi, abaphandi banako ukuchonga iintlobo ezintlanu zezinto abazibiza ngokuthi "imimiselo yontanga." Uphi na ophakathi kwesikhundla?
- Umyinge wabantwana : Ngaba bathandwa ngabanye oontanga, abangathandwa ngabanye, kodwa imali "ephakathi".
- Abantwana abadumeleyo: Ngokungaqhelekanga bangathandwa ngabaontanga. Ngokuqhelekileyo ibhalwe ngokuba "ngumhlobo ongcono."
- Abantwana abanganakwa : Abathandwayo, kodwa babengafaneli babhalwe ngokuthi "ungumhlobo ongcono."
- Abantwana abalahliweyo: Abathandwa ngabangontanga abaninzi. Ngokuqhelekileyo ibhalwe ngokuba "ngumhlobo ongcono."
- Abantwana abaphikisanayo : Ngokuqhelekileyo ibhalwe ngokuba "ngumhlobo ongcono" kwaye kaninzi ayithandi.
Uthando olunjani oluhambelana nokuphumelela kwesikolo?
Uninzi uphando olubandakanya imimiselo yeontanga lugxile kwiziphumo zentlalo de kube kuqhutywe isifundo seklasini kunye nabantwana abaneminyaka eyi-11 ukuya kwe-13 ngo-1995, obunobume obucacileyo phakathi kokuthandwa nokuphumelela.
Abaphandi bahlukanisa isimo seontanga ngamnye zabafundi baza babuza ootitshala kunye noontanga ukuba bacinga ntoni ngempumelelo yomfundi ngamnye.
Funda iziphumo zabo ukuze ubone indlela isimo somntwana wakho esikolweni sifana ngayo nesimo saontanga. Bafumene oku kulandelayo:
- Abafundi abanezona zifundo ezikhuselekileyo zezemfundo babengabantwana abangahoywa. Baye banconywa ngakumbi ngabafundisi babo xa kuthelekiswa nabantwana abaphakathi. Ootitshala babecinga ukuba abantwana abanganakwaba bazimeleyo kwaye baziphathe kakuhle eklasini.
- Abantwana abadumile babefana nabantwana abaphakathi, ngaphandle kokuba oontanga babo babecinga ukuba bangabantwana abangcono kunabantwana abaqhelekileyo. Umlinganiselo kuphela ootitshala ababonayo ubungakanani obuninzi bokuncedisa ukuziphatha kubantwana abathandwa ngokuthelekiswa nabantwana abaphakathi.
- Abafundi abaphumelele kakhulu kwaba bantwana abachasiweyo , ingakumbi abo babenobundlobongela. Ootitshala abazange bathande aba bafundi, kwaye oontanga bawaqonda ukuba ngabafundi abahluphekileyo.
- Abantwana abaphikisanayo babonwa ngabaontanga njengabantwana abafanayo. Noko ke, ootitshala babecinga ukuba abantwana abaphikisanayo babengazimeleyo kwaye baninzi ngaphezu koomntwana ophakathi.
Kuthetha ukuthini oku kuluhlu lwakho?
Njalo kaninzi sicinga ngamabono ethu okuqonda kunye neentlalo ngokwahlukileyo. Kodwa olu uphando lweklasi lubonisa ukuba izakhono zentlalo zibonakala zihambelana kakhulu nokuphumelela kwezemfundo. Nangona kunjalo, ihlale ingathethekiyo ukuba izakhono zentlalo zithinta impumelelo yabafundi okanye ngokulandelana. Kubalulekile ukuba uqaphele ukuba umntwana wakho akadingi ukuba "ethandwa" ukuba aqondwe njengomfundi oqinileyo-abantwana abangahoywa ngokwenene babekhuselekile kakhulu kwizifundo kwaye bathandwa ngabafundisi, kwaye abantwana abaphakathi benza okulungileyo. Abantwana abodwa abaphumelelanga kakubi kwigumbi lokufundela ngabo babengathandwa ngabaontanga abaninzi.
Ngako oko, ukusebenzela ukwakha ubuchule bakho bezentlalo nonxibelelwano kungekuphela kuphela kuya kubancedisa ekuhlaleni nakwimvakalelo kodwa kungenza umehluko kubo kwimfundo, ngokunjalo.
Umthombo
UWentzel, u-Kathryn R., no-Asher, uSteven R. "Ubomi bezeMfundo eziNyunyanelwe, eziNqatshiwe, eziDumeleyo, nabantwana abaphikisanayo." Uphuhliso lwabantwana ka-1995 66: 754-763.