Abantwana Abaxhatshazwayo Bajongene Nobungozi Okwengeziwe Kuyo Ubomi
Usenokuba uvile ngeempendulo ezifutshane kunye nexesha elide lokuxhatshazwa, kodwa yintoni umphumo wokuba ngumxhaphazi? Abantwana abaxhatshazwayo banomngcipheko okwandisiweyo kwiziphumo ezininzi ezimbi. Abazali abasola ukuba umntwana wabo uziphatha ngokuxhatshazwayo bangathanda ukungenelela ukukhusela ezi ngxaki kubomi babo bomntwana.
Iimpembelelo ezingalunganga zokuba ngumsindo
Abantu abaye okanye abaxhaphazayo banakho ukuyeka ukuphuma esikolweni kunontanga yabo.
Basengozini enkulu yokufumana uxinzelelo, ukukhathazeka kwengxaki kunye nokukhathazeka kwengqondo, ingakumbi ukuba bajamelana nobukhulu bokuziphatha kwabo. Abaxhatshazwayo banokusetyenziswa kakubi kakubi iteksi, utywala kunye nentambo. Baye baninzi ngaphezu koontanga lwabo ukuba bahlanganyele kwimisebenzi yesondo yokuqala.
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Ukuba ngumxhaphazi njengomntwana okanye umntwana okhulayo ukhulisa iingxaki ze-run-ins kunye nomthetho. Ngeminyaka yabo-20 ubudala, abafudula bexhatshazwayo banokuphulwa kweendlela ezininzi kunye nokuphindwe kane ngesantya sokuziphatha kwezobugebengu kunabalingane babo abangaxhatshazwayo. Ngama-middle-thirties, abantu abangama-60 ekhulwini abaxhatshaza abanye abantwana kumabakala 6 ukuya ku-9 banomgwebo olwaphulo-mthetho omnye. Abantu abaqala ukuxhatshazwa nabo banokukwazi ukuthwala izixhobo kunokuba bangabandlululo kwaye banokuhlakulela ingxaki yobuntu.
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Ukuba ngumxhaphazi ebuntwaneni kubonakala kuthintela ubomi bomntu njengomntu omdala.
Abaxhamli babesoloko beba neengxaki kunye nolwalamano olude kunye nokuba baxhaphaze kubo bobabini babo kunye nabantwana. Kananjalo banokufumana ixesha elikhuselekileyo lokugcina nokugcinwa kwengqesho kunabantu abangengabandlululo. Abantu abaye baxhaphaza banako ukuba nabantwana ababa ngabakhohlisi ngokwabo, ngoko baqala umjikelezo kwakhona.
Uphando kwiimiphumo
Uphando oluninzi luyenziwe kwimiphumo yokuxhatshazwa kwabasexhoba kunabenzi bobubi. Kwakhona, kukho isibalo esikhulu sabathatyatheli nabo nabo baxhoba. Uninzi lwezibuyekezo luyenziwe kwizifundo zakudala. Ikhumbuza umbuzo ukuba ingaba i-cyberbullies iya kuba nemiphumo engafaniyo efanayo neyomthonyama "yehlabathi lenene".
Izimpawu Ebonisa Ukuba Umntwana Wakho Unyanzelisa Abanye
Ukuba ngumxhaphazi unokuba nemiphumo emibi ebomini bakho bomntwana. Ukuba ukhangele imimiselo yokuba uthatha inxaxheba kulo mkhuba, unokukwazi ukunceda umntwana wakho ayeke ukuxhatshazwa. Nazi izibonakaliso ezilumkiso:
- Ufumana utshintsho olwenziwe ngokomzimba nangomlomo
- Ngaba ngabahlobo nabanye abantwana abaxhatshazayo
- Ubonisa iimpawu zokunyuka
- Ngokuqhelekileyo uneengxaki zoluleko esikolweni
- Ugxeka abanye kunokuba athathe uxanduva kwizenzo zakhe
- Ikhuphisana kakhulu kwaye igxile ekuthandeni
Igama elivela kwi-Verywell
Ukuziphatha kakubi kungabonakalisa ukuba umntwana wakho ufuna uncedo ekuphuhliseni iindlela zokuphatha kunye nolwalamano olufanelekileyo nabanye. Ukuba ungenelela ekugqibeleni ukuziphatha kakubi kunye nokunceda umntwana wakho athuthukise izakhono zentlalo engcono, kuya kunceda umntwana wakho ubomi bakhe bonke.
> Imithombo:
> Iimiphumo zokuxhatshazwa. StopBullying.gov. https://www.stopbullying.gov/at-risk/effects/index.html.
> Rivara F, Menestrel SL. Ukuthintela ukuxhaphaza ngeSayensi, uMgaqo-nkqubo kunye nokuSebenza . I-Washington, DC: I-Press Academy Press; 2016.
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