Ngethuba elide kungekudala, ukuba nomntu unqumle intambo kwakucatshangelwa ukuba yinto encinane apho. Ngoku ngoku phantse yonke indawo umama ngamnye ubona, nangona nje umzuzwana, ngubani ofuna ukusika intambo.
Inguqulelo efuna ukusika intambo ekuzalweni kwelanga namhlanje ngubani oza kunceda ukumbamba umntwana. Ukubamba iintsana kwenzelwe ukuzalwa kwasekhaya ixesha elide.
Inokuthiwa izinto ezininzi:
- ezintathu zokubanjwa
- ukuncedisa ngokuzalwa
- utata
Into oyibizayo ayikhathazeki, kungenxa yesenzo sokuba nomntu uncede umntwana azalwe.
Uninzi lwabazali kunye nabalingani banomdla kakhulu lo mzuzu okhethekileyo. Bathetha ngokuba ngowokuqala ukuthinta umntwana kwilizwe langaphandle kunye nokuba yinxalenye yokwenene yamava. Ndiyakuthanda ukubukela abantwaba kunye nabanye batyelela kwindlebe ukuya endlebe xa bethetha ngawo.
Omnye utata wandixelela ukuba kwakuthetha kakhulu kuye ukuba akwazi ukuphakamisa umntwana aze afike kumama, "Ndazi ukuba uya kubamba ulusu lolusana emva kokuzalwa. Ndandifuna ukuba abe naloo nto, kodwa ngelo xesha, ndazi ukuba ndiya kuba nzima ukumbamba inkwenkwe yam kungekudala. Kwakuhluke xa ekhulelwe - kwakungenako ukhetho, kodwa ngoku wayephelile. "
Indlela yokubamba kwenzeka ngayo kuxhomekeka kwiimeko ezininzi, kubaluleke kakhulu ukhuseleko. Udokotela oqeshweyo akayi kushiya icala lakho, ubeka iliso rhoqo, ulungele ukukuxelela ukuba uphambuke ngasiphi na umzuzu.
Uxelelwe inyathelo ngesinyathelo ukuba wenze ntoni kwaye ungakwenza njani.
Kuya kuxhomekeka kakhulu kwizinga lokuthuthuzela lonyango. Ndaya kwiindawo zokubeletha apho izinto ezintathu ezithintekayo zithetha ukuba intombi yomama yayinomtsalane wesandla njengoko yayiphakamisela umama, kwaye ndaye ndaza kuzalwa apho umlingane ohlambulukileyo kodwa ongekho mhlophe wenza phantse yonke into ngaphandle kokujonga intambo ye nuchal .
Unxibelelwano luyintloko.
Emva kokuba umntwana ekhusele kumama, unokuphuma ngaphandle kwendlela uze ugqirha ugqirha okanye umbelethisi, ngokuquka i-placenta. Leli lilungelo lokuba unyuke ngasemva komama kunye nosana, udibanise nabo njengentsapho. Ungakwazi kwakhona ukuthatha iifoto okanye wenze nantoni na ongathanda ukuyenza ngeli nqanaba.
Ukuba le nto into ode ufune ukuyithetha ngayo kunye nogqirha wakho, qalisa ngoku. Musa ukulinda de iqala umsebenzi. Emva kokuba ufumanisa ukuba zeziphi izicwangciso zakho, cela indlela ofuna ukuyikhumbuza okanye ukuba ukhangele ntoni ekuzalweni. Bangakucela ukuba ubhale kwisicwangciso sakho sokuzalwa okanye ukhumbuze ngenye indlela ukuba uzimisele ukwenza.
Njengo-doula, ndandisoloko ndibona oku kuphela ekuzalweni kwekhaya. Kancinci ndazibona esibhedlele, kodwa kuphela nababelethisi kuloo ndawo. Ngoku ndiyibona kwinani elifanelekileyo lokuzalwa kunye neengcali ezahlukeneyo.
Njengomama, kwandivakala gqitha xa ndiqala ukuva ngako. Ndandivuyela umcamango wendoda yam ekuncedeni. Ndathetha nombelekazi wam malunga nalo kwaye wayesemkhombeni. Ndothuka xa ndifumanisa umyeni wam wayengenomdla ngokwenene. Andizange ndixoxe ngexeshana. Umbelethisi wam wandibuza ukuba ukuzalwa kwasondela ngakumbi oko sasiyifumene ngako.
Ndamxelela ukuba andizange ndiqiniseke ngento leyo, ukuba indoda yam yayingenakuvuyela. Wathi ulungile kwaye oko kwakunjalo. Xa ndiqala ukunyusa, ndandiva esithi, "Kulungile uKevin, weza apha." Akazange ahlambe iliso aze awele ngqo.
Ndaxakeke kakhulu ukuba ndingamangaliswa. Ndiya kuvuma ukubukela ukuzalwa kwamehlo akhe. Ndiyakuchukumisa kwaye amehlo akhe aya kubanzi. Waqala ukumomotheka nangaphezulu. Umbelethisi wayeza kuncibilika aze ahlebezele kuye, wayeyidonsa kwaye enze into ethile. Wayehlala exhomekeke kwaye enze into ethile. Xa yonke into ishiwo kwaye yenziwe, wayencedisa de kube umntwana esecaleni kwaye umbelethisi wayedinga ukugqiba, uKevin wabuya wangena waza wambeka umntwana.
Kwakunjalo ngamava amaninzi ukuba wakhetha ukubamba ezinye iintsana nazo. (Ewe, enye yaphuma yaya ezandleni zayo, ngaba uyayifumana inkolelo apho?)
Kukho na amaninzi amanina abakhetha ukubamba umntwana wabo, nangona akusiyo isihloko kule nqaku. Ukuba le nto iyakukuthandayo, qiniseka ukuthetha nombelethi wakho okanye ugqirha malunga nendlela oku kusebenza ngayo .