Oko Ukwenza Xa Iingqumbo Zingamnandi
Akukho nto inokuyenza umzali azive engenakunceda kunokuba xa umntwana wakhe enobusuku obubi okanye obunzima, ubusuku obusongelayo. Ngelishwa, ukuphazamiseka kwamathambo kunye nobusuku obusongelayo kunokuqhelekileyo kubantwana kule minyaka ngenxa yokwazisa okwandayo ngehlabathi elibangqongileyo kunye neengcinga eziqhubekayo. Kodwa kukho izinto onokuzenza ukuze uncede ukuthintela ubusuku obushushu kunye nobusuku obusongelayo.
Yintoni i Nightmare?
Iphupha eliphuphayo liphupha elivusa impendulo enamandla kumntu olele. Bavame ukuba kwenzeke kamva ebusuku, ngethuba lesibini lokulala ngexesha le-REM (ukunyuka kwamehlo okukhawuleza), xa siphupha. Zingabangelwa nantoni na kwaye ziqhelekileyo kwizingane ezineminyaka engama-11 ubudala.
Umfundi wakho wokufundela usenokuba nobunzima ngenxa yezinto ezibonakalayo ezinjengokuphulaphula ibali elikrakra okanye ukubona into ebonakalayo kumabonwakude owakucaphukisa, kodwa kukho ezinye izinto ezenzayo. Ngaba kukho into ephazamisayo yokuhamba nobomi bomntwana wakho, njengabazali beqhawulo okanye mhlawumbi ukuzalwa komntakwabo ? Ngaba nantoni na eyenza akhathazeke-mhlawumbi umntwana uyamhlekisa kwibala lokudlala okanye ukhathazeke malunga nokuqeshwa kukagqirha ? Kungaba nokuba yinto encinci-ngaba udlula inja enkulu yokukhwaza kwindlela yakho yokuhamba imihla ngemihla okanye ngaba kufuneka ukubaleka kude ne-bumblebee ngelixa edlala ngaphandle?
Ingcinezelo inokuza kwiindlela ezininzi zomntwana lo mdala. Mhlawumbi uqala ukuqeqeshwa kwindlu yangasese okanye uhamba nomncinane wakho kwisibhedlele ukuya ebhedeni. Ngaba waqala ukufundela isikolo? Ngaba uhamba ngokuhamba? Ukuba umntwana wakho uhamba nayo nayiphi na yezi ziganeko eziphambili, i-nightmare iyimpendulo eqhelekileyo njengoko izama ukuyihlela kuyo.
Ukuvavanya amanqanaba akhe okuxinezeleka, ingakumbi ukuba iingxaki zobomi ziyingxaki ephindaphindiweyo. Ngethuba lemini, ngelixa umntwana wakho ezolile, mbuze ukuba kwenzekani. Ukuba kukho isiganeko esikhulu esenzekayo ebomini bakhe, cela malunga nalo kwaye uzame ukuthetha. Ukuba kukho into enokwenkqayo okwenjenjalo njengezigulane okanye izinja, yenza uphando-thabatha iincwadi ezivela kwilayibrari kweso sifundo okanye ufumane umhlobo enenja enobubele ukuba unokuchitha ixesha kunye naye. Ukuba uloyiko lokuba akayi kulala okanye akafumani ukulala ngokwaneleyo kunika udokotela wengane. Kukho into ebalulekileyo ekudlaleni.
Kungakhathaliseki ukuba yintoni isizathu, kwaye ungeke ukwazi ukuyiqonda, abafundi basesikolweni baneminyaka engama- Iingcamango zabo ziqala ukusebenza ngokugqitywa ngokupheleleyo kunye nesigama sabo siphuhlisiwe ngokwaneleyo ukuze bakwazi ukuchaza oko bakuphuphayo. Enyanisweni, amaxesha amaninzi abafundi abasesikolweni bakhumbula iphupha labo elibi kwiintsuku ezimbalwa ezizayo kwaye bahlale becaphukile.
Indlela yokuhlambulula umntwana emva kokuba sele ihamba ebusuku
Ukuzama ukuthuthuzela i-school schooler emva kokuba bebenobusuku obunzima, akuyona imisebenzi elula. Kuphakathi kobusuku, bayathuthuka, besaba kwaye akunakwenzeka ukuba bafune ukubuyela ekulala.
Ukuba umntwana wakho unesibindi sokubakho, vuka kubo, ngenxa yeyona nto ininzi, kubangela ukuba isibetho siphume ngokukhawuleza nangona kungathatha umntwana wakho imizuzwana embalwa ukuqonda oko kwenzekayo.
Ukuba ufuna ukuthetha ngalo, makhe makhe awakhumbule abantwana abakhulileyo abayiqondi ngokucacileyo umahluko phakathi kwefantasy kunye neyinyaniso ukwenzela ukuba kube nzima kakhulu ukuba axoxe ngawo. Ngaphezulu kwayo yonke into, yibani ngothuthuzelo kwaye nisebenzise iingcinga ezincinci zokumnciphisa njengokumxuba okanye ukubetha iinwele zakhe. Ukuba umntwana wakho uphelelwe ngumsindo, zama ukumthatha, uhambe ngaphandle kwegumbi uze umphuze njengeglasi yamanzi okanye ubisi olufudumeleyo. Zama ukungabuyiseli kumbhede wakho njengokuba uzama njengoko kunokwenzeka. Lo mkhwa onzima kakhulu ukuwaphula, kunye kunye unokugqiba ekubeni kukho into egumbini lakhe afuna ukwesaba.
Ukuba iphupha lomntwana liyizinto zokuzikholelwa njengezilo okanye izigodlo kwaye ngoku uyika ukuhlala egumbini lakhe, zama ukumbonisa ukuba akukho zilwanyana kwikhemitha okanye ngaphantsi kombhede, kodwa ungenzi nto enkulu ndidlulile kuyo. Mbuyisele kuye, ushiye ubusuku obusuku uze ubuyele ekamelweni lakho.
Indlela yokusingatha iiNkoma zobusuku eziphindaphindiweyo
Kuloo nto abantwana abanamaphupha amaxesha amaninzi, ukubenza ukuba baye ebhedini ebusuku kunokuba nzima, kodwa kukho amanyathelo ongawuthathayo ukuze unciphise ukwesaba kwabo kwaye ubancede bafumane ubuthongo bokulala.
- Beka yonke into: Abantwana kule minyaka bayathuthuzelwa ngokuqhelekileyo. Ubusuku bonke ngaphambi kokulala, landela ishedyuli efanayo. Hlanganisa namanyathelo anokufumana umntwana wakho kwimodi yokulala njengobhavu obushushu, ufunde ibali lokulala okanye udlala umdlalo webhodi. Vumela umntwana wakho athathe ezinye zezinto ukuze bazive ngathi ziyinxalenye yenkqubo.
- Xelela Iingxelo Zakho: Vumela isikolo sakho esikolweni ukuba wazi ukuba uyayiqonda into ehamba ngayo. Nangona abantwana beli minyaka banenkathazo yokwahlula iimbono kwizinto eziyinyani, bachaza ukuba iindlobongela ziphupha ezimbi kwaye azikho. Zama ukufunda incwadi enxulumene nayo. Izihloko ezinjenge -Mouse (Brave Mayer) kunye neLove Hellard kunye neliphi Iphupho elibi ngeMercer Mayer banikeza imibono emihle yeendlobongela kunye nokuba kwenzeka njani kumntu wonke.
- Khuthaza iingcamango ezilungileyo: Ngaphambi kokuba umntwana wakho alele, njengokuba umkhwelisa embhedeni, mbuze into enokuyiphupha ngayo. Kucacile, awukwazi ukuchaphazela oko kwenzekayo xa umntwana wakho elele, kodwa ukuhamba ngexesha lokulala ngesimo esihle sengqondo kuya kunceda umntwana wakho aphumle. Yenza imicimbi ehlekisayo yosuku okanye izinto ezizayo umntwana wakho okhangele phambili. Ukuba umntanakho uyamthanda uTomas kwiYinjini yeTanki, thetha ngevidiyo ayilindele ngalolo suku. Nantoni na ukufumana ingqondo yengqondo yakho kumaphupha angalunganga.
- Makubekho ukuKhanya: Masibhekane nalo, kumntwana omncinci, ukuhlala yedwa egumbini labo ebumnyameni (mhlawumbi kunye nomnyango uvaliwe) akukona oko kukumema kweemeko. Zama ukugcina umnyango (uvule nje kuphela) kunye nokuguqula uhlobo oluthile lokukhanya-ingaba kukukhanya okufutshane encinane kwigumbi lomntwana okanye kwigumbi elikufuphi. Unokunika umntwana wakho i-flashlight encane ukuze unamathele phantsi komsila wakhe ukuze uthuthuzele. Batshele ukuba akuyiyo ithoyizi, nje ukuba bancede bazive bebhetele.
- Yongeza i-Element Positive: Abazali abaninzi bafungela "i-monster spray" (okanye ezinye iinguqu zayo). Ngokuqhelekileyo ngamanzi angenalva e-brayiti ye-spray ephihliweyo egumbini ngexesha lokulala elithwala indawo yeliphi izidalwa eziyoyikisayo. Ingxaki ngeprafu njengale ndlela babeka iingcamango ezingalunganga entloko yomntwana wakho. Zama ukutshintsha igama elithi "magic fairy spray" okanye "ukutshiza i-knight" -kunye into enegama elifanelekileyo eliza kunceda umntwana wakho ugxile kwizinto ezilungileyo ezenzeka kwigumbi lakhe. Phala phantsi kombhede, ngeefestile, iingcango, iiflothi okanye nayiphi na indawo enokuyibona into yokuba umntwana onokufundela unomdla.
- Khuthaza Iimpawu Ezilungileyo: Amantla aseMerika akholelwa ukuba abaculi beemoto, abazenze ngezandla ezivela kwi-hail willow kunye ne-sinew kwaye baxhonywe ngaphezu kombhede, banokukhusela abantwana belele kwiindawo zokulala. Yenza umntwana wakho azenzele kunye nokucoca iipayipi kunye nomtya okanye isakhiwo sokwakha kwaye uyiphonkceze phezu kombhede wakhe.
- Vula ezinye Iingoma: Gcina i-CD okanye i-MP3 player elayishwe iingoma zakho ezizithandayo kwiziko lakhe. Xa lixesha lokuba abuyele okanye abuyele ekulaleni, liguqule kumqulu ophantsi. Umculo uya kumnika into ekugxilwe kuzo kunengcinga yakhe. I-caveat: qinisekisa ukuba unomxube okhethekileyo "wokuxubusha ebusuku" ogcwele umculo we-lullaby kunye noxolo olusondezayo. Gcina izinto ezipakazelayo ngemini okanye umfundi wakho ongasesikolweni angalingeka ukuba avuke aze adlale.
- Qalisa umlingani olalayo: Amathuba amakhwenkwe omntwana kunye nedonki oyintandokazi okanye isilwanyana esithobekileyo ubusuku bonke. Misela ekhaya umhlobo omtsha-onomsebenzi wakhe ukugcina umntwana wakho ephephile xa elele. Ingaba ibhongo elinesibindi okanye ibhere elimnandi, khetha into enokucinga ukuba iya kubhenela umntwana wakho.
Ubuphi Ubusuku Bokugubha?
Ukhathazeka ngakumbi kubazali kunabantwana abanabo, ubusuku obusongelayo okanye uloyiko lokulala luhlobo lwesifo sokulala esibangela ukuba umntu avuke kwimeko eyoyikisayo.
Ubusuku bobusuku luhlala luchazwe njengobanjwe phakathi kokulala nokuvuka. Ingxenye yeklasi yeengxaki zokulala ezibizwa ngokuba yi-parasomnias, zivame ukuba zenzeke ngekota yesithathu yobusuku (ngokuqhelekileyo iyure okanye ezimbini zilale). Eyona nto ixhaphakileyo kubantwana abaneminyaka engama-2 ukuya kweyesi-6, ayinabungozi kumntwana onabo kodwa eyoyikisayo ngokugqithisayo ngomzali obungqina.
Abantwana abanoyiki bobusuku abanakuze bavuke. Iimpawu ziquka ukumemeza, ukwesaba, ukujuluka, ukunyuka kwentliziyo, ukuphefumula ngokukhawuleza nokugxotha. Umntwana uya kuphinda ahlaselwe xa echaphazelekayo. Nangona kunzima ukukholelwa, aba bantwana abaphuphayo, naphezu kokuqhankqalaza okucacileyo kunye nokuphazamiseka kombuso. Yaye nangona amehlo omntwana wakho evulekile, akavuki okanye akasabela kuwe okanye kwindawo yakhe.
Okucaphukisa kakhulu abazali, umntwana ngokuphindaphindiweyo uya kulala aze angayi kukukhumbula okwenzekayo xa evuka ekuseni. Ngelishwa, iingcali zokulala azikwazi ukusitsho ukuba umntwana ofumana ubusuku bobusuku obunxunguphalo ngexesha leqhekeza ngenxa yokuba abanakukukhumbula ngosuku olulandelayo.
Indlela Yokusingatha Ubungozi Busuku
Ngokungafaniyo nomntwana onobunzima obunokuqhaqhazela ngokukhawuleza, umntwana onenkqonkqozo ebunzima akavumi ukuvuka. Enyanisweni, kukulungele ukuba ungalingi ukuzama ukuba umntwana angakhathazeka ngakumbi. Vele uhlale kwicala lomntwana uze uqinisekise ukuba ukhuselekile xa kubakho ukwesaba ubusuku. Umntwana okhunileyo unokuzilimaza ngoko kubalulekile ukuqinisekisa ukuba akalimala.
Ubungcipheko bobusuku abukwazi ukunqandwa, kodwa ukuba umntwana wakho unako rhoqo, unokuthatha amanyathelo okuqinisekisa ukuba ukhuselekile. Abantwana abalala emagqabeni abayi kuphuma, nangona baqaphele ukuba baqaphele ukuba bangayiboni intloko. Ukuba umntwana wakho elele embhedeni, cinga ukubeka imithwalo phantsi kwaye ubeke umgca wokukhusela ukuba angabikho. Ukuba igumbi lomntwana lisondele amanyathelo, vala isango. Ukuba awuyi kuba ekhaya ngokuhlwa, qiniseka ukuba uqaphele umkhathaleli womntwana.
Ukuba ubusuku obusongayo buyaqhubeka bhala umnxeba wezilwanyana, unokufuna ukubonisana neengcali eziphazamisayo zokulala komntwana.