Ekupheleni kosuku usuke ukhathele, ngoko kuya kuqiqa ukuba umntwana wakho kufuneka abe njalo. Ngaba, ngokuqinisekileyo, lifanelekileyo igama elisebenzayo. Kuba nangona i-schooling school yakho inomsebenzi oxakekile esikolweni kunye nabahlobo kunye neendlela zokuqhuba kunye nawe, xa ubusuku buwela, akalungele ukulala. Kwaye xa ekugqibeleni elala, akukho siqinisekiso sokuba uya kuhlala khona.
Ngoko umzali (ukhathele) ukuyenza ntoni? Ngokomyinge, abantwana besikolo basemaphandleni badinga iiyure ezili-11 ukuya kwe-13 zokulala ubusuku bonke ukuze bahlale bevuya kwaye bephilile. Khangela ezi zi-8 izixazululo zokulala zabazali, kwaye ngokukhawuleza wonke umntu ohlala endlwini yakho uya kuba nobusuku bokulala.
- Kwiiyure ngaphambi kokulala, uthini umntwana wakho ? Ngaba uyabambana nobaba? Ukutya iikiki kunye nekhekhe? Ukubukela ithelevishini? Yonke le misebenzi, ngelixa ihleka, ayikho into enokuyenza ukuba umntwana ahlale phantsi ukuze alala ngokukhawuleza kwaye kulula. Emva kokutya, ukuba kunokwenzeka, gcina nayiphi na isenzo kwicala elithulileyo-ukufunda incwadi, ukuhamba kakuhle kumbindi mhlawumbi nokuba ngumdlalo webhodi okanye ezimbini. Yilandela ngokuhlamba kunye nempilo enesishukela, kunye nesincinane sakho kuya kuba kuhle ukulala.
- Ukuseka ixesha lokulala . Abafundi besikolo basasazeka ngokuqhelekileyo. Nye, yenza uluhlu lwezinto ezifunekayo phambi kokuba aphendule ubusuku-funda incwadi eyintandokazi, uhlambe okanye uhlambe, ube ne-snack-nokuba yeyiphi i-school schooler ufuna (ngaphakathi kwesizathu). Qinisekisa ukuba udibanise ukuba wenze ntoni ukuxuba amazinyo nokutshintsha kwiipjama. Gcinani engqondweni nangona, imisebenzi ngokwabo ayibalulekanga-injongo yeso siqhelo kukufumana umzimba wakho wesikolo ukuba ube yingqungquthela ukuze bakhathele ngexesha elifanayo ubusuku bonke.
- Cinga ngendawo apho umntwana wakho elele khona. Ukuba esesesikhwameni, ngoku kungenokuba yinto elungileyo yokwenza utshintsho kwi-crib ukuya kwibhedlele . Xa ukutshintsha umntwana konke kuxhomekeke kwimeko. Unokuba uneminyaka engama-2 ubudala ongaphezu kokulungele ukuhamba ebhedeni ngenxa yokuba uqhubeka ekhuphuka ngaphandle kwesikhalazo ngelixa kunabantwana abaneminyaka engama-4 abanelisekile ukuhlala apho bahlala khona. Mhlawumbi ufuna ukutshintsha kuba kukho umntakwethu omtsha endleleni . Kwimeko nayiphi na into, faka umntwana wakho kwinkqubo yokwenza izigqibo-mhlawumbi unokukhetha amaphepha kunye neengubo.
- Cinga ngezinto zakho zokufunda. Incwadi yomntwana wakho oyintandokazi ingaba yinto yokuhleka-umzuzu, umgca-we-sakho-esihlalweni, i-rile-'em-up pop-up book. Kwaye kulungile. Phakathi kwemini. Ngaphambi kokulala, unokuzama ukuzama into enokuthula nokuthoba-incwadi yexesha lokulala ebeka itoni ephantsi ukuze kuhlwe.
- Cela uncedo lwabahlobo (oomlilo). Nangona kule nkwenkwezi, abantwana abakwenzi oko abazali babo bafuna. Noko ke, banokuphulaphula abanye babo abahlobo-inkolelo okanye ngenye indlela. Ukuba kukho umntakwabo omdala, isihlobo, umntwana, okanye omnye umntwana umntwana okhangele kuyo, bona ukuba ngaba baya kukulungele ukuthetha nomntwana onokufundela ngokubaluleka kokulungele ukulala ubusuku obuhle. Ukuba akunjalo, kukho ii-DVD ezikhoyo apho abalinganiswa abathandekayo bathetha ngokuzonwabisa xa belala.
- Yazi ukuba ngamanye amaxesha, umntwana ongafuni ukuya kulala akanakucima, kodwa ukwesaba ngokwenene. Ukuba umntwana wakho unobungozi obushushu okanye ubungozi obusongela ubusuku kuya kufuneka. Ngelishwa, abantwana besikolo basesikolweni baneminyaka engama-1 ubudala, kodwa kukho izinto onokuzenza ukuze uncede. Ngaphezu kwayo yonke into, ukunyamezela kubakho umntwana wakho adinga. Sebenzisa iincwadana ezintle ukuze unqabise ngokusihlamba okanye ukubetha iinwele zakhe. Ukuba umntwana wakho uphazamise, mthabathe, uphume ngaphandle kwegumbi uze umphuze njengeglasi yamanzi okanye ubisi olufudumeleyo. Zama ukungabuyiseli kumbhede wakho njengokuba uzama njengoko kunokwenzeka.
- Ngaba unomvakatye wexesha eliqhelekileyo? Nangona udidi lwentsapho kunye nokulala ngokulalanayo kwamukelwa kwimizi ethile, akuyiyo yonke into eyenziwa ngumzali ngamnye. Ukuze uncede umntwana wakho ahlale ebhedeni lakhe, kuya kufuneka uqiniseke. Mbuyise ekamelweni lakhe, uhlambe umzuzu okanye ezimbini uze ubuyele ekulala. Phinda kwakhona njengoko kuyimfuneko. Ukuba umntwana wakho wenqaba ukuhlala egumbini lakhe ebusuku, unokufuna ukutshala imali esangweni lomnyango. Misela inkqubo yokuvuza kunye netadi kunye neentsimbi okanye iibhulule kwijebthi ubusuku bonke umntwana wakho elele embhedeni wakhe. Emva kokufumana inamba ethile, mnike ukuphathwa okuncinci.
- I-Bedwetting ixhaphake kakhulu kwiminyaka yokufundela. Kungakhathaliseki ukuba kubangelwe uxinzelelo okanye nje ukuba i-school schooler yakho ingacacanga indlela yokuhlala eyomileyo ebusuku, yinto yokuziphatha okufanele ikhule ngayo. Okwangoku, limisela umntwana wakho ukusela esinye ihora ngaphambi kokulala kwaye uqinisekise ukuba uya kwindlu yokuhlambela ngaphambi kokulala. Ukuba uyalala ngokulula, mvusa ukuba abuyele ngaphambi kokulala. Okubaluleke kakhulu, qiniseka ukuba uyazi ukuba ukungahlali omile ebusuku akusiyo iphoso lakhe kunye nento ayayiyiqonda xa ekhula.
Ibhonasi Iingcebiso Zokunceda Umntwana Wakho Ufumane Ubusuku Buhle Buthongo
- Yiba nomonde, kodwa uqine. Nje ngezinye iindlela zokuziphatha, le nto iya kudlula. Inqakrazo ukuma umhlaba wakho xa ufika kwingcambu yomcimbi.
- Cinga ngezinto ezenzekayo ebomini bakho bomntwana obangela ukuba afune ukulala. Ingaba uqale ukuqala esikolweni kwaye mhlawumbi ufumana ukunyanzeliswa kokufunda esikolweni? Ngaba kukho enye into eyayingabangela ukunyamezela? Esikhundleni sokubukeka njengengxaki yobuthongo, cinga ukuba kunokubakho imbangela yokudlala-ngakumbi ukuba umntwana wakho wayelele ebuthongweni obuhle ngaphambili.
- Zama logic. Abafundi besikolo bahlakaniphile kwaye banqwenela ulwazi olutsha. Thetha nomncinane wakho. Mbuze isizathu sokuba afune ukuya kulala kwaye mhlawumbi wabelane ibali lexesha owayeka ukutshitshisa amakhishithi. Chaza ukuba kutheni ukubuthwa kubaluleke kakhulu- "Ndifuna ukuba ufumane ukuphumla okwaneleyo ngoko kusasa uya kuba namandla okwaneleyo kuwo wonke umdlalo esiwucebileyo."
- Ngaphambi kokuba wenze i-"end final" yakho, qiniseka ukuba umntwana wakho unakho konke anokuzifuna ukuze abe nobusuku obuhle- isilwanyana esithandayo, iingubo ezaneleyo, isiselo samanzi kunye nesabelo sakhe esilungileyo sokubamba kunye nokuwanga.
- Qinisekisa ukuba igumbi lakho elincinci lilele kulo lilungele ukulala. Qiniseka ukuba bumnyama (okanye ukukhanya) ngokwaneleyo. Ngaba kuthule? Mhlawumbi uthanda umculo. Ukubonisa ukuba yintoni indawo yokulala ebhetele kumntwana wakho kwaye uyinike yona.