Xa ukuqeqeshwa kwamathambo kuhamba kakuhle, njengokuba abantwana bebancinci baqhubela iincindi zabo, abazali banokubamba kwizinto ezininzi zokubuyisela abantwana babo kwindlela. Thatha umama okhononda ukuba intombi yakhe eneminyaka emithathu ubudala ibengumqeqeshi wamathambo ukususela kwiinyanga ezili-18 kunye neenkqubela kunye nokunyanzeliswa . Umama wabhala:
"Usebenza kakuhle ekunakekeleni kweso ngosuku kungekho zengozi kodwa unengxaki ekhaya.
Ngokukhawuleza ukuba ndiyiphakamise ukususela ekunakekelwa kwamasango , uya kukhwela emotweni endleleni eya ekhaya. Ingxaki yethu enkulu, nangona kunjalo, kukuba uyenqaba ukutshintshwa ngaphandle kokulungelelanisa . Uyakhala kum ngelixa etafileni eshintshayo kwaye ixhamla lonke ixesha. "
Isixazululo
Umzali kule meko unokuqinisekisa ukuba intombazana ihamba emanzini emini ngaphambi kokuyilayisha emotweni. Ngokukhawuleza xa umzali efika esikolweni, kufuneka ahambise intombi yakhe ngothando aze amkhuphe ekuhlaleni. Umama kufuneka athathe ixesha elininzi njengoko kuyimfuneko aze anike intombi yakhe ngasese ukuba uyayifuna. Oku kusenokuthi ukufumana enye indlu yokuhlambela kwisakhiwo ukususela kumabhinqa amancinci ahlala egcwele umsebenzi.
Le ndlela ifanele ibe yaneleyo ekupheliseni izingozi zemihla ngemihla kunye nokulwa nomntwana omncinci xa efuna ukuhlambuluka aze aguqulwe. Kwiminyaka emithathu ubudala, mhlawumbi uqokelele ngokwaneleyo ukuphatha ukucoca.
Umzali kufuneka aqiniseke ukuba angenzi wonke umsebenzi kodwa umncedise nje xa ephethe izingozi. Kwakhona kubalulekile ukuba umama agcine isimo sakhe sengqondo malunga nesiganeko esitshekweni, ngoko intombazana ayiziveki ngathi ezi ngozi ziyinto engekho enye inxalenye yobomi. Abazali abalisa ingqumbo okanye iimvakalelo ezimbi xa abantwana banezengozi kunokukhokelela abantwana ukuba baphendule ngokwabo.
UMthetho oNqabileyo kunye nokuSebenzisa ukuLawula
Ukuba umzali ugcina uzinzo kunye nokuphatha izingozi ngokukhawuleza kodwa umntwana uqhubeka ephosa ukulungelelanisa, ukusetyenzwa kwexesha kungabalulekile. Unina unokumxwayisa intombi yakhe ukuba xa engabambisani kwaye avumele ukuba atshintshwe, uya kuhamba ngokukhawuleza. Umama kufuneka alandele ukuba umntwana uyaqhubeka ukwenza izinto zibe nzima. Xa ixesha liphela, umzali umele amnike ithuba lokubuya kwakhona emsebenzini. Akudingeki ukuba ahlambuluke ngokugqibeleleyo okanye enonwabo (Ngubani othanda ukuhlambulula i-poop, emva kwayo yonke into?), Kodwa kufuneka akwenze.
Ukuqhawula phezulu
Kule meko, abazali kufuneka bavumele abantwana ukuba banakekele ubuninzi bomsebenzi kunokwenzeka. Abazali bafanele bagweme ukubeka abancinci kwietafile eziguqukayo kuba le nto ivakalelwa kakhulu njengenguqu yentshukumo yentsana kunokuba ilungise ixesha lokuncinci. Kunoko, bafanele bazame ukunceda abantwana benze oko abakwaziyo ekuhlambeleni ngenkathi bemisa. Abazali banokunika umyalelo, uncedo kwaye, ngokubaluleke kakhulu, indumiso nokukhuthazwa.