Ingaba intsapho yakho iya kwindawo yonqulo rhoqo, okanye awuzange usungula nayiphi na indlela ecacileyo yokomoya, wakho umntwana uya kufuna ukuzama ukholo olutsha. Mhlawumbi uvile abanye abahlobo bethetha ngeqela elitsha lentsha abaya kuyo. Okanye, mhlawumbi, ufunde ngezinye iindlela zokomoya kwaye ufuna ukwazi kabanzi malunga nalo.
Ukuhlolisisa iinkolelo ezintsha, iindlela zokomoya, kunye neentlobo ezahlukahlukeneyo kwiinkqubo zentsholongwane. Ukuhlolisisa izinto ezintsha nokufumana ukuzimela kuyinxalenye yokuba ngumntu omdala, intsha eninzi inomdla ekufundeni abanye abantu bakholelwa ngendalo yonke, amandla aphezulu okanye intsingiselo yobomi.
Uphuhliso olutsha lwezempilo luquka ukuphendula umbuzo othi ' Ndingubani na ?' kwaye ngokubanzi zibandakanya iinkolelo zabo zokomoya. Intombazana inokubuza ukuba ngubani yena ngokwemigangatho enkulu yendalo yonke.
Isicelo sokuya esontweni elitsha okanye ukujoyina inhlangano yonqulo kubangela ukuba abazali abaninzi banelungelo lokungabikho kakuhle. Kodwa endaweni yokungathi akukho lungelo-eliya kukukholelwa ukuba unqulo lwakho luvaliwe-uhlale phantsi ukuze uthethe intetho enokuthi uncede ukhulise ukholo lwakhe, nokuba lakho.
Thetha Ngaphandle
Lo mnqweno wokuzama unqulo olutsha okanye ukuziphatha ngokomoya kwavela kwindawo ethile. Buza ngaye-ngaba omnye umhlobo wakhe uthetha ngale ndlela yokomoya? Ingaba unyana wakho wafumanisa ntoni emva kokuba enze uphando ngokwakhe? Yintoni evakalayo ekhangayo ngayo?
Buza umntwana wakho ukuba xa kukho into enokwenyama yentsapho engayithandiyo-mhlawumbi icawa yakho inokuziva ixinzezelekile , imveli okanye iyayithanda. Mhlawumbi ukhangele indlela yokudibanisa kunye neenkolelo zakhe ngokucace ngakumbi, okanye ngendlela engakwazi ukuziqonda ngayo ngokubhetele kangcono kwimpilo yemihla ngemihla.
Zikulungele ukuphulaphula, ngaphandle kokugweba. Ukwazi ukuba unomdla kwindlela yakhe yokujonga ingabakhuthaza kakhulu kumntwana osemva oziva eqinisekile ngezinto. Ukuthetha ngezinto ngokunceda kukuqonda iinkolelo zomntu kunye noko kukuziva kubalulekile ngokomoya njengabantu ngabanye.
Hlola Iingxaki Zakho
Kubalulekile ukuhlola iingxaki ozifumanayo ngokuvumela umntwana wakho ukuba ahlolisise ukholo olutsha. Ngaba ukhathazekile ukuba unokushiya zonke iinkolelo ozame ukuzenza kuye? Ngaba ucinga ukuba umnqweno wakhe uvela kwizizathu eziphosakeleyo (njengokuba udibene nentombazana ehamba kwicawa ethile)?
Okanye ngaba yinto enzulu ngakumbi? Mhlawumbi inkolo umntwana wakho ofuna ukuyihlolisisa ithatha iinkolelo ezithile okanye ikhuthaza iindlela ezithile ezichasene ngqo nento okholelwayo.
Ngokucacileyo, ukuba enye inkolo iphikisana nemilinganiselo yakho, kufuneka uxoxe nentombazana yakho malunga neenkxalabo zakho. Kwaye kufuneka ubeke imida malunga noko uvumela umntwana wakho ukuba akwenze. Kubalulekile ukubonisa umntwana wakho ukuba iimpawu zakho zibalulekile ngokwaneleyo ukuba ufuna ukuhlala ngokuvumelana nabo.
Ukuba awukwazi okuninzi ngemisebenzi yokomoya yakho intombazana ebonisa intshisekelo kuyo, vula ukuba ufunde ngakumbi. Unokufumana ukuba ezinye zezinto ozicingayo ziyi nyaniso okanye ezinye zezinto ozivileyo, azichanekanga.
Cinga ngeqela loLutsha
Iicawa ezininzi kunye nemibutho yokomoya inamaqela olutsha ekujoliswe ekusebenziseni ngokomoya izinto ezithandekayo kulutsha. Ukuba indawo yakho yonqulo inomdla wolutsha, mhlawumbi umntwazana wakho uya kukulungele ukuzama ukuba uyamnceda ukuba ahlolisise ukholo lwakhe ngokucace ngakumbi.
Okanye mhlawumbi umhlobo esikolweni wamemela kwintlanganiso yeqela lentsha kwelinye icawa. Buza umngane wakho umntwana ukuba uyintoni into enomdla ngeqela (ukuba umntwana wakho uvulekele ingcamango), okanye ubize inkokheli yolutsha ukuba ufumane ulwazi oluthe xaxa malunga neqela ukuba unenkxalabo malunga nalo.
Kwiimeko ezininzi, amaqela olutsha anika iforamu evulelekileyo yabantwana ukuba baxoxe ngezinto ezichaphazelayo, kwakunye nendlela yokujongana nale micimbi ngendlela efanelekileyo. Nangona abatsha abangabonakali nxamnye nenkolo okanye ngokomoya banokuvuyela indawo evulekileyo, engeyiyo yokugweba iqela lentsha, ngoko kuya kuba luncedo kumntwana wakho, ngakumbi ukuba sele esazi abanye ukuba baye kwiindawo zokuzonwabisa kunye nokuzonwabisa.
Amaqela amancinci amaninzi athatha inxaxheba kwimisebenzi eyahlukeneyo yoluntu kunye nemicimbi yolutsha. Ukuvumela umntwana wakho ukuba athathe inxaxheba, nangona ungazibandakanyeki kunye neenkolelo ezifanayo, usenokuba nakho okulungileyo.
Iinkonzo zonqulo
Ukuya kwenye indawo yonqulo kunokunceda umntwana wakho ukuba aqonde ngakumbi iinkolelo zakhe. Ukuba omnye wabahlobo bakhe obaziyo uyammema kwinkonzo, ingaba yithuba elihle ukuba umntwana wakho athathwe ngamava ngaphandle kokuziva ehluke ngokupheleleyo.
Ukuba uvakalelwa ngethuba elibi, bizela abazali bomhlobo kwaye ubabuze malunga noko kukulindela; Oku kunokukunceda ukuba ufumane ingqondo engcono yento abayakholelwayo nokuba uyaziva ukhululekile kunye neengcinga.
Ukuba awuqinisekanga malunga naloo nto, qwalasela ukuya kwinkonzo kunye nentombazana yakho, uze uhambe nge-brunch okanye isidlo sasemini ukuxubusha indlela ovakalelwa ngayo malunga nantoni na. Kwakhona nethuba elihle lokuxoxa ngezinto ezonandiphayo okanye eziphakanyisayo, ezaziziva ziqhelekileyo kwaye zahluke ngokupheleleyo kunokuba zintsapho ziqhelekileyo.
Inkxaso yakho yesifiso somntwana wakho ukuhlola ingokomoya iya kumbonisa ukuba uyayihlonela imbono yakhe kwaye uqonda ukubaluleka kokukhangela xa kuvela elukholweni. Ukunyanzela iinkolelo zentsapho kwintsholongwane kunokumxosha, kodwa inkxaso kunye nokuvuleka ekufuneni kwakhe kuya kumnceda ukuba athole "umphefumlo" ukutya afuna-nokuba ufumanisa ukuba impendulo ilungile phambi kwakhe, yonke imihla.