Ngaba Iintsapho Zilala Ngokufanelekileyo Kwintsapho Yakho?
Ukulala ngokulala, okanye ukwabelana ngendawo yokulala yentsapho, unokuba ngumxholo opikisanayo kwiibonda zomzali. Abaxhasi baxela ukuba ukulala nosana ngumkhuba ohloniphekileyo, owenziwe kwezinye iikholeji ngeenkulungwane, kwaye zifuna iinzuzo ezininzi, kubandakanya ukuzithemba ngokuzimeleyo kubantwana abalala nabazali babo njengeintsana. Bakhuthaza ukuba kukhuthaza ukuncelisa, ngokunika oomama ukufikelela lula kwiintsana zabo zokutya okubusuku, kunye nokwenza kube lula kuye ukuba aphumle phakathi kokutya.
Nangona kunjalo, abazali baya kufumana iingxabano ezikholisayo ngokubhekiselele ekusebenzisaneni kokulala, kubandakanywa ne-American Academy of Pediatricians (AAP).
Kuthiwani malunga nokulala ngokuphindaphindiweyo? Ingaba umbhede wentsapho uqhele kakhulu xa unamawele? Okanye ngaba ulala kunye nesisombululo esifihlakeleyo ekufumaneni i-eye-shut-eye ngeli xesha lonyaka okhuphayo ngokuphindaphindiweyo? Njengemiba eninzi yomzali, akukho mpendulo ecacileyo. Isigqibo esisisigxina somntu ngamnye intsapho iya kufuneka yenzele yona.
Uphuhliso olutshanje
Ngo-Oktobha 2005, i-American Academy yabantwana bezilwanyana baphinde bahlaziya iingcebiso zabo ngokulala, bekhuthaza abazali ukuba balele abantwana babo ukuba balele kwisikhumba sokunciphisa ingozi ye- SIDS (i-Sudden Infant Death Syndrome) . Nangona kunjalo, ngasekupheleni kuka-2005, iincwadana ezithethwa ngumbono oholelekileyo wobomi bokulala ubuthintele ukuchasana nokulala phakathi kwincwadi entsha (eyakhishwe ngo-Matshi 2006) yabangela ukuphikisana.
Abazali bavalelwa ukuba uDkt. Richard Ferber uchaze indlela yakhe yokulala ekungekho impilo.
Imvelaphi
Ngokomlando, ukulala kunye neentsana kwakumkhuba wesiko. Abazali babelana ngesitya kunye nabantwana abancinci, kwaye njengoko abantwana bekhula, balala kunye nabantwana babo. Kodwa kumaxesha anamhlanje, izinto eziphambili zabazali beNtshona Koloni zigxininiswe indlela yokuzimela yokuzilala.
Kodwa, umkhwa wokufikelela kwi- Attachment Parenting wabangela ukubuyela kwindlala yasekhaya. Nangona kunjalo, ezinye iingcali zezokwelapha kunye nabazali beziqhelanisa nomsebenzi, zikhankanya njengengozi kwi-SIDS kwaye zifuna ukuba zingabangela iingxaki zokulala kubantwana njengoko zikhula.
Imiyalezo edibeneyo yashiya abazali kwi-conundrum: ingxaki yokulala okanye inobungozi? Umba wawunzima nakakhulu kubazali bamawele kunye nokuphindaphinda. Nangona isidalwa sazo singabakhokelela ekubhekiseleleni kwimbono yokulala, ukugcinwa kwezinto ezininzi kunokukwenza kube nzima. Ukulala ngokukhawuleza kubangele abazali abaphelelwe yinkathalo, befuna naziphi na izicwangciso zokufumana ixesha elithile lokulala okuxabisekileyo. Nangona kunjalo, ngamawele amaninzi, ama-triple kunye nezinye iziphindaphindiwe sele zisengozini ye-SIDS, ngaba ukulala ngokubambisana kubakho ingozi?
Izizathu zokungaboni
Iingcali zicebisa ngokuchasana ngokulala kunye nezizathu ezininzi, kubandakanywa:
- Umngcipheko okhulayo we-SIDS : I-American Association of Pediatrics ithi inqabileyo yokulala ebantwaneni isemva kwabo kwindawo yokuloba. Abazali beeninzi, ezinabantwana abasesichengeni sengozi kwi-SIDS, banokufuna ukuthatha amanyathelo okulondoloza ngokulandela eli khokelo.
- Ukuphazamiseka kokulala : Kubantu abangalali kakuhle xa "batyelele," ukulala ngokulala kungabhubhisa iipatheni zabo zokulala.
- Ukungabikho kobudlelwane phakathi kwabazali : Ibhedi yentsapho ayikhuthazi ubudlelwane bomtshato. Abazali abakhangela ukuba baphinde benze umsebenzi wabo wesondo emva kokukhulelwa abayi kuwufumana umbhede kwindawo ebonisa uthando xa abantwana babo belapho.
- Iingxaki zokulala zexesha elizayo : Akukho uphando oluthile lwezesayensi ukuxhasa le ngqungquthela, kodwa kukho ubungqina obuninzi bobazali abangenakufumana abantwana babo ukuba balele xa bekhulile. Emva kokusekwa, ukulala ngokubambisana kunokukwazi ukuzibophelela kwiminyaka emininzi ukuba abantwana bayanqika ukuguqulwa kwindlala yabazali babo.
Izinzuzo zokuBambisana ngokuBambisana
Abaxhasi bebango lokulala bafumana ezininzi iinzuzo:
- Ukukhuthaza Ukunxiliswa : Ukuncelisa ukutya kuvelisa amaninzi amaninzi kunye noomama kunye neentsana. Oomama abaninzi banokufumanisa kunzima ukuba bancelise amawele ngaphezu komntwana ongenamzali, ngoko ke nayiphi na inzuzo eyenza le nkqubo ilula. Ukulala ngokulala kwenza oomama bakwazi ukufikelela kwiintsana zabo zokutya ngokuhlwa.
- Intsingiselo yoKhuseleko : Ukulala kufuphi nomntu omdala unikeza abantwana intsingiselo yokhuseleko, okucingelwa ukuba kukhuthazwe ukuqonda. UGqirha uSears ubone iqela elongezelelweyo lokukhula kwizigulane zakhe ezalala kunye nabazali babo, bathi "zikhula zize zikwazi ukukwazi, ngokomzimba, ngokwenyama nangengqondo."
- Ukulala ngakumbi Abazali : Ukuvuswa kobusuku kunikwa xa unabantwana, ngokukodwa ukuphindaphinda. Kodwa ngenxa yokuba akudingeki ukuba baphakame kwaye malunga nobusuku, abazali abalala ngokulala banakho ukulala ngokukhawuleza ngokuphazamiseka kokulala okumbalwa.
- Ukulala ngakumbi kubantwana : Ubungqina bubonisa ukuba iintsana ezilala kunye nabazali bazo ziguquka ngokuthe gqolo kwiindawo zokulala ebusuku, mhlawumbi ziqinisekiswa ngokuba khona kwabazali babo. Bachitha ixesha elincinane ukukhala, kwaye bafaka amandla amaninzi ekukhuleni nasekuphuhliseni, ngokutsho kukaDkt. James McKenna, onguchwepheshe wengqondo yokulala.
- Intsapho Yokubambisana : Abazali banokuziva ngakumbi kwaye abantwana baziva bekhuliswe xa bebelana ngesitya. Kubazali beeninzi, ithuba elongezelelweyo lokuxhamla intsapho lunokuba yintsikelelo. Abazali abasebenzayo abangabantwana babo kwimini banokufumanisa ukuba ukulala ngokubambisana kunika ithuba lokubambisana.
Apho ibeka khona
Ekugqibeleni, isigqibo esifanelekileyo sisebenza kakuhle kwintsapho yakho. Nazi ezinye iingcinga zokukunceda ukukhokela sakho isigqibo.
- Bobabini abazali kufuneka bavumelane ngokucwangciswa; xubusha umcimbi kunye nomlingane wakho ngaphambi kokuba umntwana azalwe.
- Ababhemayo akufanele badibene nabantwana.
- Ukuba wena okanye lakho iqabane likhulu kakhulu, akufanele ucinge ngokulala.
- Ezinye iingcali zidikiba abazali ukuba balala kunye neentsana zabo xa bephelile. Oko kunokulawula abaninzi abazali abaphindaphindiweyo!
- Xoxa ngale ngxaki kunye nodokotela wezilwanyana okanye ochwepheshe bezonyango oxhasa imbono yakho yomzali.
- Vula kwaye uguquke - musa ukwenza ingqondo yakho esekelwe kumbandela, kodwa yenza okusemandleni kwaye uvakalelwa kakuhle kwintsapho yakho.
- Ekugqibeleni, njengenye indlela, qwa lasela i-bassinette yokulala. Izixhobo ezifikelela kwi-Co-Sleeper® Bassinet zibonelela ngezona zimbini zehlabathi-indawo ekhuselekileyo kubantwana abasondeleyo kwimeko yokulala yabazali.
Iingcebiso zokulala ezikhuselekileyo
Yakha indawo ekhuselekileyo yokulala ngoku:
- Ukususa naluphi na umkhuhlane ophezulu okanye obunzima bokulala.
- Ukuphepha ukusetyenziswa kweembotyi zombane.
- Ungalokothi ulale ngokulala kumbhede wamanzi, isepha okanye kwisihlalo.
- Ukubeka umbhede ukunciphisa nayiphi na into yokuba iintsana ziya kufakwa phakathi kombhede nodonga okanye enye ifenitshala.
- Ungavumeli abantwana okanye izilwane ezifuywayo ebhedini.
- Ungalokothi ulale ngokulala xa usebenzise iziyobisi okanye utywala.
- Ukwenza ukulala ngokubambisana nomsebenzi wakho, kungekhona isiganeko esithile. Uninzi lweengozi zenzeka xa abazali kunye neentsana abaqhelekanga ukulala kunye.