Ukugcina Umtshato Wakho Emva kokuba namawele okanye amaninzi
NguSuzie Chafin
"Akukho nto elula ngokukhulisa abantwana, ingakumbi ngelo xesha.Akunanto elula ngokutshata, ndicinga ukuba mna nomyeni wam sinamathela ngokomgaqo. - LPARKS_7
Namhlanje ndikunika imvume yokuyeka ukukhangela i-Intanethi ngamanqaku malunga nendlela yokugcina amawele akho amancinane ekubambeni , okanye indlela yokuphumelela ukuqeqesha amathathu kathathu.
Namhlanje ndifuna ukuba ucinge ngeqabane lakho.
Owu, ukhumbule loo mntu. Nguye lowo oye wangena ngaphakathi kwindlela yokulala njengoko utshintshisa iintsontsho zeentsana ebusuku. Nguloo mfazi okhuphayo ozama ukuthatha umntwana wakho omdala kumdlalo webhola lebhola, ukutya amawele kwaye ngandlela-thile uhlamba yonke loo nto. Uliphi ixesha lokugqibela owawukwazi ukugxila kuphela wena kunye nomlingane wakho ngaphandle kokubhala ngaphezulu? Kungenzeka ukuba iiveki okanye iinyanga ukusuka ucinga ukuba wenza njalo. Namhlanje ndifuna ukukukhuthaza ukuba uphefumle kwaye ukhumbule indlela owayezivakala ngayo ukubamba isandla somyeni wakho okanye ukumangalela umfazi wakho ngokukhawuleza. Ahh, kwakumnandi, akunjalo?
Xa ulethe iincwadana zakho ezintle zokuzonwabisa ekhaya , ulungiselele ikhaya lakho. Wathengela iliso lomntwana, i-cribs ezimbini, kunye ne-diapers (amaninzi kunye neeninzi ze-diapers!) Ngokuqinisekileyo wafunda iincwadi malunga nendlela yokunyamekela iintsana nendlela yokulawula ukuphindaphinda. Ngelixa uqeqeshelwa into enokuqiniseka ukuba yinto ephakamileyo kwimimandla yobomi bakho, akukho mntu wakufundise ukuqeqesha ukukhuseleka okungenakukuphepha kwabo bonke abancinci babeza kufaka umtshato wakho.
Ngokuhamba kwexesha, ukuba uvumela loo mqobo ukuba uphikelele kwaye ukhule, umtshato wakho uya kuba neengxaki kwaye usenokuba yingozi.
Ndiyazi ukuba "BUSY." "Ulindele ntoni?" Unokufuna. Cela ukuba umtshato wakho ube yinto ephambili. Ngaphandle kokuba umtshato wakho ube ngowona kuqala, uMama uya kuhlupheka, uTata uya kubandezeleka kwaye ngenxa yoko, yonke intsapho iya kuhlupheka.
Nangona kunzima, kuyafaneleka. Intsapho yakho iya kuba bhetele kuyo kwaye iyona nto ingcono kuyo yonke into oyakuyithanda ukuyenza!
Uqala njani? Elula. Okokuqala, makhe sijonge iimfuno zomama kunye nobaba njengunyunithi.
Ufuna omnye: Amaxesha ndawonye (Yodwa)
Yenza uludwe lwabantwana abangabasebenzisa, kwaye uqokelele iinombolo zabo zeefowuni okanye iinkcukacha zoqhagamshelwano. Ukuba sele sele unamalungiselelo okunakekela abantwana, ngaba kukho iindlela zokusebenzisa iiyure ezongezelelweyo ngokuhlwa okanye ngeveki? Cinga ngabanye abanokukunceda: abazali bakho, abahlobo, abamelwane, abaselula (unokudinga ezinye ezimbalwa kwezi kanye), abancedisi becawa okanye ukunakekelwa kwamasango bonke abantu abakhulu ukubeka olu luhlu. Qinisekisa ukuba ubani ofuna ukuhlawula okanye onokuyithengisa ngayo ukuba ufumane iiyure ezixabisekileyo zokufumana abantwana.
Shedula umntanki ubuncinane kabini ngenyanga . Ukwenza oku kufuneka ucebe phambili. Umfazi wakho uya kufumana ukuba nomhla wokujonga phambili kunye nethuba lokunandipha inkampani yakho ngaphandle koonyana. Umyeni wakho uya kuba noloneliseko lokwenza umfazi wakhe ujabule (ungayithinteli eli gunya!) Ngemihla yakho, yenza izinto ezithandwayo ozifunayo ngaphambi kokuphindaphinda. Yiya kwibhayisikobho, udle isidlo sakusihlwa ngaphandle, okanye uzonwabe. Jabulela inkampani kunye nomlingane wakho ukuba uyakhangeleka (ngamanye amagama, kungekhona abantwana).
Ufuna ezimbini: Mxhaphaza Ngomnye Ngomusa
Sonke siyazi ukuba abantwana bayakwazi ukufikelela kwiimbilini zethu. Amantombazana aseFussy kunye nabantwana abancinci bangenza nantoni na ekhulile. Ukulala ebusuku , izidingo ezingapheliyo, kunye nokukhathazeka kwansuku zonke kusenza sikhathazeke ngamanye amaxesha. Nangona kunjalo, musa ukuvumela umlingane wakho ukuba athwale ukukhathazeka kwakho kwansuku zonke.
Ukuba uthanda indlela uTata ephethe ngayo umqhubi waza wathatha bonke abantwana ngokuhamba ngaphandle kokucelwa ukuba, Mxelele. Ukuba uthanda indlela uMama obonwe ngayo imifanekiso kunye neentathu, XELA. Ndiyabonga, nidumisane, khuthazanani yaye ncedisane.
Wonke umntu uthanda ukudunyiswa. Siyakhawuleza ukudumisa abantwana bethu, kodwa ngokukhawuleza sidumise iqabane lethu. Musa ukuphazamisa ukuxabisa kwakho. Se benzisa rhoqo.
Ufuna ezintathu: Vumela Izinto Ezincinci Zidlule
Xa ubona ezo ntlanzi ezingcolileyo ubaba eshiye phantsi, melana nomnqweno wokumbamba ngamagama akho. Xa umama engenawo ixesha lokwenza ibhedi namhlanje, khangela enye indlela. Musa ukugxekisa kwaye ungabhidli phantsi. Londoloza amagama akho ngamaxesha apho efunekayo ngokwenene, kungekhona ukukhathazeka okuncinci ebomini.
Ngoku, makhe sijonge kwezinye zezidingo zikaTata kunye neemfuno zikaMama.
Makhe sibone ezinye zezo zidingo zikaTata. Mamela abafazi; kufuneka sikhumbule iimfuno zikaTata!
Ufuna omnye: Ukwabelana ngesondo
Ewe, wayesazi ukuba kuza. Thina basetyhini asinakuqonda ukuba indoda isaphila ngesondo emva kokuba ukhawulelwe ngamaxesha alishumi ngosuku. Ladies, yiqonda oku: indoda idinga ngokwesondo njengoko umfazi kufuneka azive engathandanga ngaphandle kwesondo.
Yimfuneko enkulu yeqabane lakho. Musa ukuzibamba kuye. Ndiyazi ukuba ukhathele; Ndiyazi ngamanye amaxesha ungeke ukwazi ukucinga ukuba unamandla okulala ngesondo. Xa ulala embhedeni kwaye uziva ukuba iingalo zakhe zizungezile-kwaye uyazi ukuba akufanele "ukukhwela" - phumula nje. Jabulela ukusondelana kunye nolwalamano olusondelene luya kuzisa umtshato wakho. Ungavumeli ixesha elidlulileyo ngaphandle kokudibana nalo mfuneko ebalulekileyo yindoda yakho.
Ufuna ezimbini: Uziva unesidingo
Unakho ukukholelwa ukuba ungumama omtsha weemillennium. Unokwenza konke - uthathe loo ntsana esitolo , usebenze, usebenze iimpawu, ube ngumama webhola. Mhlawumbi unako ukwenza konke, wedwa wedwa xa kufuneka, kodwa awukwazi. Unomncedi kwaye ngumyeni wakho. Mxelele ukuba uyimfuneko kangakanani. Indoda kufuneka iziva ibalulekile kwaye iyimfuneko. Mxelele ukuba uyimfuneko kangakanani kwaye uyamxabisa kangakanani.
Ufuna ezintathu: Umfazi onomdla kuye
Iinkcukacha ezixakekileyo zobomi bemihla ziyeka ixesha elincinane ekupheleni kosuku ukufumana oko kwenzekayo kunye neqabane lakho.
Yintoni eyenzekayo eofisini, okanye kunye nomlingane wakhe we-tenisi? Uvakalelwa njani? Ungalibali ukubuza. Mbize ngemini nje ukuba nitsho nje, ukufumana ukuba usuku lwakhe luhamba njani. Ungavumeli omnye umfazi azalise le mfuno ebomini bakhe. Kufuneka ube nomdla kuye kwaye ungubani.
Kulungile, Madoda, yithuba lakho lokuthatha amanqaku.
Makhe sijonge iimfuno zomfazi wakho.
Ufuna omnye: Ukuziva Uthandiwe kwaye Uyakwazisa
Andiyazi umfazi-ingakumbi umama-ongafuni ukuvakalelwa. Ngokuqhelekileyo, thina ngabokuqala siphapheme kwaye sihlala esilalini. Ngokuqhelekileyo, sibingelela ubomi bethu kunye nemisebenzi yabantwana bethu kwaye sifuna ukuzivakalelwa ngathi umntu uphawule. Madoda, ngumsebenzi wakho ukuqaphela! Tshela umfazi wakho ukuba uyayixabisa kangakanani into ayenzela yona intsapho.
Tshela umfazi wakho ukuba uyamthanda kangakanani kwaye nethamsanqa ngayo abantwana bakho ukuba babe nomama. Ungavumeli ukuba amagama akho abe nalutho - umbonise indlela oziva ngayo ngekhadi apha naphaya okanye unothushu okhethekileyo xa unemihla embi. Umkakho uya kukuthanda ngenxa yalo.
Ufuna ezimbini: Ukuthinteka (ngaphandle kwezesondo).
Abafazi bathanda ukukhwela. Abafazi bathanda ukubanjwa. Abafazi bathanda ukubamba izandla. Bafuna ukuqonda amandla akho omntu, uzive zakho iingalo zomntu zizungezwe. Ukuhlalela embhedeni ngaphandle kokulindela ngesondo emva koko. Okanye, mnike i-massage eyoyikisayo kwaye uyiphephe ngokubamba kwaye "Ndiyakuthanda" kwaye akukho nto. Ukuthintana ngokomzimba kubalulekile. Umfazi wakho uya kuziva ukuba uyathandwa - kwaye unokufumana inhlanhla ngaphandle kokulindela!
Ufuna ezintathu: Ukuthetha kunye nokuphulaphulwa
Thina bafazi bathanda ukuthetha. Nina madoda nifuna umgca. Sifuna ukuhlawulela ngamanye amaxesha kungekho nantoni na. Nina madoda nifuna nje iphuzu kunye nenqaku lodwa.
Yenza umfazi wakho kwingxoxo. Musa ukuchitha onke amagama akho eofisi ngaphambi kokuba ufike ekhaya. Gcina ixesha lakho ukuthetha naye. Mthumelele umyalezo omnandi emini. Okanye, thabatha ifowuni uze umbize ngaphandle kwesinye isizathu kodwa ukuva ilizwi lakhe kwaye uve ukuba njani usuku lwakhe.
Phakathi kwentsuku yokugaya, kulula ukucinga ukuba siya kuba nexesha lomnye nomnye - kunye nomtshato wethu - kamva. Kungekudala angeze ifike ukuba ungabandakanyeki ekuthandeni ubuhlobo bakho bomtshato namhlanje. Nquma namhlanje ukuba umtshato wakho unelungelo lomzamo kwaye uza kuyenza eyona nto ibalulekileyo ebomini bakho. Awukwazi ukuthatha umtshato wakho okanye umlingane wakho. Vumela ixesha elixakeke kakhulu lobomi bakho ukukusondeza kunye kwaye ungaqhubeki. Ukuvumela iimfuno eziqhubekayo zokukhulisa iziphindaphindwa zibe ziphambili kunokuba umtshato wakho uzakukuhlukanisa ixesha elide kwaye zikunqamle kwiqabane lakho. Musa ukuthatha ingqondo yokuba iqabane lakho lilahlwa; awukwazi ukumrhweba kuye entsha (kungakhathaliseki ukuba ungaphi na amaxesha amaninzi). Khumbula iimfuno zomlingane wakho kunye nomtshato wakho. Awuyi kuvuyela kuphela ukuhlangabezana nale mifuno, kodwa kamva umtshato wakho kunye nabantwana bakho baya kuqhubeka bevuna imivuzo yakho.