Ihlabathi elininzi namhlanje lenza kube nzima ngamanye amaxesha ukuphepha ukunika umntwana wakho izinto ezininzi. Uninzi lwezindlu zineziqhamo ezigqithisayo kwaye zigqithise izifuba zokudlala ezizaliswe ngamakhulu-ukuba kungabikho amawaka-e-dollar '.
Kufika isiqendu apho abazali abaninzi banquma ngokwaneleyo okwaneleyo. Kodwa ukudibanisa kunye nokusika kwakhona akusoloko kulula.
Kodwa ukunika abantwana izinto ezininzi kakhulu.
Enyanisweni, abantwana abadlulayo banokufumana imiphumo engapheliyo .
Kwaye akubona nje amathoyizi axabisekileyo abangela abantwana ukuba baphucule. Uninzi lwabantu abancinci banamhlanje lugqityiweyo kwaye luqhutywe. Banexesha lokuqhuba i-basketball kunye nezifundo zepiyano kodwa azinzi imisebenzi.
Izifundo ziye zafumanisa ukuba abantwana abathanda izinto ezibonakalayo bahlala bebadala bezinto eziphathekayo. Kwaye oko kunokuba nemiphumo emibi. Ukuthanda izinto ezibonakalayo kuye kwaxutywa kukungonwabi ngexesha lomdala.
Iinkolelo ezikhokela abantwana ukuba babe yizinto eziphathekayo
Uphononongo luka-2015 olupapashwe kwiNcwadi yoPhando lwaBathengi kwafumanisa ukuba abantwana ababa zizinto eziphathekayo bezinto eziphathekayo bathemba iinkolelo ezimbini ezibalulekileyo
- Impumelelo ichazwe ngumgangatho kunye nenani lezinto ezilungileyo ezizezakho
- Ukufumana iimveliso ezithile kwenza abantu bakhangeleke
Enyanisweni, abaninzi abazali abafaki iikholeji kubantwana ngenjongo. Kunoko, abantwana bahlakulela ezo nkolelo ezisekelwe kwindlela yokubeletha yabazali kunye neendlela zokuziphatha, kunye nento eye yaba yinto ehlanjululwayo ekhaya.
Izenzo zoBzali ezikhuthaza ukuthanda izinto eziphathekayo
Abaphandi baye bafumanisa ukuba iinkqubo ezintathu zokuqala zabazali ezibangela inkolelo yokuthanda izinto ezibonakalayo kubantwana:
- Abantwana abanomvuzo ngokufezekisa kwabo. Ukuhlawula umntwana wakho kumabakala amahle okanye ukumthembisa i-smartphone entsha ukuba wenza kakuhle kwibhola angamfundisa ukuba impahla yezinto eziphathekayo yinjongo enkulu.
- Ukupha izipho njengendlela yokubonisa uthando. Ukutshiza umntwana wakho ngezipho njengoko uphawu lwakho uthando lungamfundisa ukuba ukuthandwa kuthetha ukufumana izipho.
- Ukugweba abantwana ngokuthatha izinto zabo. Ukuthumela isigidimi esahlukaniswa nezinto zakho isilathiso esinokufundisa abantwana ukuba bafune izinto zabo eziphathekayo ukuba bazive kakuhle.
Ubudlelwane bomzali / wabantwana
Uphando lwafumanisa ukuba abazali abafudumele nabanothando babedla ngokubangela ukuba babe neengcinga eziphathekayo. Kodwa, abantwana abakhulela emakhaya apho babeziva benqatshelwe khona nabo banokuthanda izinto eziphathekayo.
Umntwana oziva ukuba abazali bakhe badidekile kuye, umzekelo, unokufuna induduzo kwimpahla yakhe. Okanye, umntwana ongachithelanga ixesha kunye nabazali bakhe unokujamelana nokulondeka ngokusebenzisa iidysys and electronics.
Indlela yokunciphisa ukuthanda izinto eziphathekayo
Iindaba ezilungileyo kukuba, akudingeki ukuba umthinte umntwana wakho ukuze umthinte ukuba abe nezinto eziphathekayo. Kucacile, kunempilo ukunika izipho zomntwana wakho ngesizathu.
Kwakhona ingcinga efanelekileyo yokuthatha amalungelo . Kwaye ngamanye amaxesha, umphumo osengqiqweni kunokuba uthetha ukuthatha izinto ezixabisekileyo zomntwana wakho, njenge-smartphone okanye ibhayisekile. Kodwa kubalulekile ukuqinisekisa ukuba akuyena umphumo ongeyena kuphela oye wanyanzelisa.
Kodwa, kukho amanyathelo ambalwa onokuyithatha ukuze ulungele umgangatho wehlabathi namhlanje:
- U mbulelo. Ukufundisa umntwana wakho ukuba ambulele into enokumthintela ekucingeni ukuba akanakuvuyiswa ngaphandle kokuba eninzi.
- Gxila kwixesha elifanelekileyo. Kunokuba unike izipho zomntwana, nxaxheba kwimisebenzi elula kunye. Thatha uhambo, udlala epakini, okanye udlala imidlalo yebhodi yebhodi kunye.
- Umzekelo wokunika umzekelo. Umntwana wakho uya kufunda ezininzi kwizenzo zakho, kunokuba akho amazwi. Bonisa umntwana wakho ukuba unomusa kwaye unike umntu oxabisa abantu ngezinto.
Kuthatha umzamo oqingqiweyo wokufaka imilinganiselo enempilo kumntwana wakho.
Qinisekisa ukuba unikeza umntwana wakho imilayezo enempilweni eya kumnceda ukuba akhule abe ngumntu okhutheleyo, onoyolo.
Iingxelo
I-Burroughs, JE, & Rindfleisch, A. (2002). Ukuthanda izinto eziphathekayo kunye nokuPhila kakuhle: Imilinganiselo engqubanayo. Umbhalo woPhando lwaBathengi , 29 (3), 348-370.
Richins, ML, & Chaplin, LN. (2015). Ubuzali Bokuba ngumzali: Indlela Ukusetyenziswa Kwezinto Eziphathekayo Ekuzaleni Abazali Kukhuthaza Ukuthanda Izinto Eziphathekayo kwiSizukulwana Esilandelayo. Umbhalo woPhando lwaBathengi , 41 (6), 1333-1357.