Iintlobo ezi-8 eziphambili zeNtuthuko njengoTata owahlukanisa

Kukho mhlawumbi akukho mngeni onzima kunoyise kunokuba azifumene uyise oqhawule umtshato kwaye akasayi kuhlala nezingane. Kufana namava amaninzi njengoko ndiyazi.

Ukuba ngumzali oqhawule umtshato - ukugcina ubudlelwane obuhle kunye nabantwana nangona baqhawule umama wabo - ngumthwalo owongezelelweyo obawo bathwala.

Nangona iimeko zomtshato ngamnye zihlukile kwaye zihluke, ubaba ngakumbi uyazi malunga noko kukulindela, bhetele unokusabela. Abagadi abalawulayo imeko ngokufanelekileyo bayabelana ngemicebo efanayo kwindlela yabo nendlela abazijonga ngayo.

Yintoni ongayenza ukuze ube nempumelelo enkulu kwimeko?

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Iimpembelelo zesehlukaniso kwabantwana kunye nendlela yokujongana nayo

Ngamanye amaxesha emva kwesahlukaniso somtshato (ngaba kukho na uhlobo oluthile?) Utata angaboni kwaye aqonde impembelelo yaloo mcimbi kwizingane. Kungonakalisa ngokwenene umntwana ukuba aphumelele umtshato kwaye uzame ukujamelana nokuphila kwentsapho yakhe. Khangela kwiingcali ezimele ulindele njengoko abantwana bakho behlengahlengisa le nyaniso kunye nokungaqhelekanga ebomini babo.

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Hlala kufuphi neKhaya emva koqhawulo

Ukuba nolwalamano oluhle kunye nezingane emva komtshato kufuneka ukuba uchithe ixesha elifunekayo. Kwaye kufuna ukuba uhlale kufuphi nekhaya. Ngamanye amaxesha imisebenzi okanye ezinye iimeko zingenza ukuba kube nzima ukuhlala kufuphi nabantwana, kodwa umbingelelo wokuhlala ufuphi ufanelekile ekuzinzileyo nasekuxhumeni abantwana abafuna. Funda indlela kunye nesizathu sokuba uhlale kufuphi nawe kunye nabantwana bakho.

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Oko Kufuneka Ukwazi Ngokuphathelele Inkxaso Yomntwana

Ukuba ungumzali ongekho mva emva kokuqhawula umtshato, mhlawumbi unesikhonkco sokuxhasa abantwana. Imigaqo yokuxhasa abantwana isoloko ilukhuni kwaye ingozi yokungagcinwanga ingaba nemali enkulu neminye imiphumo. Kwaye ngokuqhelekileyo ootata banzima ukwenza ezi ntlawulo, ingakumbi xa iimeko zengqesho okanye ezinye iimeko zitshintsha. Fumana into yokuba ubaba ufuna ukwazi malunga nenkxaso yabantwana - ukuba ibalwa kanjani, igxininiswe kwaye ilawulwe.

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Ukwenza umsebenzi wokuBambisana ngokuBambisana

Ukuba unenhlanhla ngokwaneleyo ukuba unikezelwe ukugcinwa ngokubambisana nezingane zakho zangaphambili, kufuneka ukwazi izihluthulelo zokulawula olu buhlobo obalulekileyo. Nangona xa umama nobaba behlala bemihlali kunye nobungane emva kokuqhawula umtshato, iinkcukacha zokugcinwa ngokubambisana ziyakwazi ukuqhuba ii-wedges kunye nokudala ubunzima. Fumana indlela abanye ootata abenze ngayo le meko yokugcinwa ngokufanelekileyo kubo bonke abachaphazelekayo.

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Ukuhlala uxhulumene nezingane ezivela kude

Xa kufuneka uphile kude nezingane - mhlawumbi umkhosi okanye isabelo somsebenzi - ubudlelwane buya kuba nzima. Ukungabi nalutho akusoloko kwenza intliziyo ikhule; ngamanye amaxesha kunokuvelisa iimvakalelo ezimbi. Funda iindlela zokuhlala usondele nakwixa uhlukaniswe ngamamayela.

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Ukwenza Uninzi Lokutyelela

Xa unabantwana ngeveki okanye ubusuku bonke, yintoni omele uyenze ukuze ukwandise impembelelo enhle yaloo mava? Ngaba unokufumana amava amahle ngaphandle kokuba ube ngu "Disneyland Dad" okanye udale iingxaki ezinkulu kubantwana xa bebuyela kuMama? Eli nqaku likukunceda ukuba ucinge kwaye uhlele phambili kwixesha lakho lokutyelela.

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Ukuthandana kwaBantu abaSahlukanisiweyo

Kuba ubaba oqhawule umtshato, unokufika ixesha apho uya kufuna ukubuyela kwindawo yokuthandana. Inokutshatyalaza kwisebe elaliqhawule umtshato, kwaye nangakumbi ukuxakisa izingane - ngamanye amaxesha zithemba ngethemba lokuba uMama noTata baya kubuya kunye. Fumana indlela yokuphumelela kwakhona ukungena kwinkundla yokuthandana, kunye nendlela onokukunceda ngayo abantwana ukuba balungele kule nqanaba elitsha yobomi bakho.

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Yonke into uYise ayifuna ukuyiqonda malunga neziCwangciso zabazali

Ukuba nesicwangciso esihle somzali kubalulekile kubaba oqhawule umtshato ababelana ngolondolozo kunye nonina wabo. Izicwangciso zabazali zinceda ukucacisa uxanduva kunye nolwalamano kunye nokwenza isakhelo esihle kakhulu esinokuthi siphephe ukuxabana kamva. Funda okufunekayo ukuba ube kwisicwangciso sobuzali kunye nokokho obawo kufuneka bakwazi ngaphambi kokuba bavumelane nesicwangciso sozali.

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