Ukususela kumntwana kumntwana oselula
Uninzi lwabantu abadala bayazi ukuba ngubani 'umfana'. Kodwa, ukuba kube yiminyaka embalwa ukususela ekubeni ubekho, unokube ulibala zonke ezo zinto ezihamba kunye nale minyaka.
Iminyaka elishumi elivisayo lixesha lokutshintsha, ukufunda, kunye nokulinga. Kwaye iteknoloji yanamhlanje ithetha ukuba intsha iyazivakalisa kwaye ixoxisana ngezindlela ezahlukeneyo kunezizukulwana ezidlulileyo.
Yintoni Intsha?
Intsha okanye intsha iyigama elibanzi elisetyenziselwa ukuchaza iqela leminyaka phakathi kobuntwana kunye nabantu abadala. Ngokuqhelekileyo, iminyaka eyamkelekileyo kwiminyaka elishumi okanye yeshumi elivisayo ineminyaka engama-13 ukuya kwe-19 ubudala.
Ubuntwaba lixesha lokuguquka ekubeni ngumntwana oxhomekeke kumntu omdala omele. Ngeli nqanaba lophuhliso lwengqondo lwengqondo kunye nolwasemzimbeni, abatsha bathambekele ekufuneni ukuzimela kwaye bazama ukuziphatha kwabantu abadala.
IQumrhu Elikhulu
Iintsholongwane ziphuhliswa ngokukhawuleza ngokwenyama. Utshintsho olubonakalayo phakathi kweminyaka yobudala eli-12 nelineminyaka eli-19 luyinguqu engaqinisekanga. Phakathi kokukhula okukhulayo kunye nokukhulelwa, intsha iqala ukujonga njengabantu abadala kunabantwana.
Olu tshintsho lunokuba luvuyo kwaye lubangele abantwana. Baya kunandipha bembona bekhulile kodwa banokuziva bengakhululeki ngexesha elifanayo. Oku kunjalo ngokukodwa kubaselula abahlakulelayo kunokuba bahlobo babo.
Bangavakalelwa ngamanye amaxesha kwaye baya kufuna uncedo kubazali babo, zombini ngokomoya nangenkcazo yeenguqu zenyama.
Ingqondo Yengqondo Nomoya
Abazali abaselula abasoloko behlekisa ngeentlobo zabo zentshukumo zabo ezintsha. Ixesha eliyinkimbinkimbi yabaselula kuba bajamelana neengcinezelo zontanga, utshintsho lwama-hormone kunye nomnqweno wokuzimela.
Abaselula kunye nabazali babo banokuphikisana nokulwa nezifundo ezingathandekiyo.
Baya kuba nemihlali eninzi xa umntwana ekhulayo eba ngumntu omdala kwaye unandipha incoko kunye namava avuthiweyo.
Iminyaka eyiminyaka yeveki yilexesha apho iingxaki ezininzi zokuziphatha zibonakala. Intsha engxaki ikwazi ukwenza izinto ezinzulu kwaye ingozi okanye abanye. Kubalulekile ukufuna uncedo kwiimpawu zokuqala zokuziphatha okungengozi okanye iingxaki zempilo yengqondo .
U xanduva lo kufunda
Iminyaka eyishumi elivisayo lixesha elibalulekileyo kubantu abatsha ukuba bazenzele izigqibo ngokwabo kwaye banikwe uxanduva oluninzi. Eyona mfanelo ebenokuyithatha ngoku, bangaphantsi baya kulwa ngexesha lokutshintshela abantu abadala.
Iimbopheleleko ezifundwa njengabaselula ziquka:
- Gcwalisa imisebenzi ngokufanelekileyo nangokuchanekileyo ekhaya, kwisikolo nakumsebenzi.
- Ukunyamekela ukucoceka kwabo kunye nezinto zabo.
- Bonisa imfesane kwabanye abantu.
- Ukuba noxanduva loluntwini kwimpilo yabo yemihla kunye ne-intanethi.
- Ukulawula iimvakalelo zabo kunye nokusebenzisana ngokufanelekileyo nabantu.
- Qonda ukuba umsebenzi wesondo ungakhokelela kwimiphumo.
- Indlela yokujongana neengcinezelo zontanga ezifana nokusela, ukutshaya nokusebenzisa iziyobisi.
- Amalungelo omdala afana nokuqhuba imoto okanye ne-akhawunti yasebhanki.
- Ubambe umsebenzi kwaye usebenze kakuhle nabanye kwiqela.
- Ukukwazi ukufumana nokuchitha imali ngokuhlakanipha.
Ukuqwalasela Ikusasa
Iminyaka elivisayo nayo yithuba lokuhlola. Le yithuba elidala lomntu omdala lokuloba ikusasa labo kwaye banqume oko bafuna ukukwenza emva kwesikolo.
Kuyinto enomdla ukucinga ngamathuba kwaye unethemba kunye namaphupha malunga nomsebenzi, intsapho, kunye nobomi kude nekhaya.
Ihlabathi livulelekile kwintsholongwane yaye lingaba lunzima ngamanye amaxesha. Abazali bafanele baqaphele ngokubeka ingcinezelo emininzi okanye encinci ekwenzeni oko bacinga ukuba 'izigqibo' zabo kwikamva labo.