Ukutshintshela umntwana wakho udla ngokukhokelela ekuhlekeleni, kodwa kukho iingcamango ezithandekayo malunga nalo. Ingaba kukho inyaniso kwiingcamango zokuthi umtsalane wakho onobungozi uyingozi?
Impendulo ephosakeleyo
Nangona abazali abaninzi beye bakhankanya umntwana ngenye ngenye indlela, kuba nje umntwana ehleka impendulo akuthethi ukuba uyayonwabela i-tickling.
Abantu bahleka xa sitshitshiswa njengendlela yokuphendula ngokuzenzekelayo, kufana nokutyhawula.
Ukupakisha kwakusetyenzisiwe njengendlela yoqobo yokuhlanjululwa kuwo wonke umlando, ngokokuba ngabazali, kubalulekile ukuqonda ukuba ukuhleka komntwana akuthethi ukuba uyayithanda okanye ufuna ukukhatyathwa.
Impembelelo yokuThengisa kwi-Autonomy yeQumrhu
Ngaphandle kwento yokuba umntwana wakho onganakho ukuthetha ukuba ngaba bayakuvuyela ukukhawulwa, ukunyanzelisa umntwana ukuba akuvumele ukukrazula nabo bangathumela umyalezo oyingozi malunga nokuzimela komzimba. Ngaloo ndlela, ukusuka kumbono wengane, kuqinisa ingcamango yokuba umntu omdala unelungelo lokwenza into afuna ukuyenza emzimbeni wakho, nokuba ucela ukuba bangabikho.
Ingcamango eyoyikisayo, kodwa njengokuba kunzima ukucinga ngako kwaye mna kunye nathi ufuna ukubhala ingcamango "njengento engacetywanga," kubalulekile ukuba sicinge ukuba njengabazali, sinembopheleleko yokufundisa abantwana bethu ukususela kwiminyaka emininzi kakhulu yokuba bona-kwaye kuphela bona-balawula imizimba yabo.
Oku kufundisa ukuzimela komzimba, ingcinga yokuba akukho mntu unelungelo lokuzichaphazela ngaphandle kwemvume. Kwaye kuthetha ukuba bayabahlonela xa bengathandi ukuchukumiseka kwizinga elilula, ukwenzela ukuba xa behlala bexhatshazwayo, banokuqonda ukuba into eyenziwa ngumdala imbi kakhulu.
Ukufundisa Abantwana Ukuzimela
Nangona kungabandakanyekanga ngqo nokuzimela komzimba, isifundo kwi- Journal of Child and Family Studies sifike ukuba ukufundisa abancinci ukususela ekuqaleni ukuba benze izigqibo kubomi bokubaluleka obalulekileyo. Olu pho nonongo lujonge indlela abancinane abafunda ngayo ukujongana neengxaki kunye nokwenza izigqibo.
Iziphumo zophando ziphakanyisile ukuba xa abazali bethatha indlela ekhululekile kwaye bavumele abantwana babo ukuba baholele kwaye bafunde oko bafuna ukukwenza, abantwana abaselula bakwazi ukuphuhlisa umsebenzi osebenzayo wengqondo. Ngamanye amagama, ukuvumela abantwana ukuba bathathe inxaxheba ethe xaxa ekwenzeni izigqibo kunceda ubulumko babo bahlakulele ubuchule nezakhono abaya kuzifuna kuzo zonke ubomi.
Kwaye xa uvumela umntwana wakho ukuba enze isigqibo malunga nokuba ngaba afuna ukukhwabanisa mhlawumbi akuzange kube yinto yeso sifundo, kusengumzekelo wendawo apho sifanele sivumele abantwana bethu baveze iimvo zabo kwaye mhlawumbi nangakumbi Kubalulekile, sifunde ukuba kuphela kuphela ekulawuleni imizimba yabo.
Khetha ezinye iindlela zokudibanisa ngokomzimba
Uxhumano lomzimba, njengokuba luyakuthintela, phakathi komzali nomntwana, kubaluleke kakhulu. Abantu bafuna ukuthinteka ngokwenyama ukuze baphile kwaye baphumelele, kodwa zikho ezinye iindlela zokukhuthaza ukubophelelana komzimba phakathi komzali nomntwana, ngaphandle kwe-tickling.
Kufunda ndawonye. Buza umntwana wakho ukuba ufuna ukuhlala ekhayeni lakho ukufunda ibali, okanye ukuba umntwana wakho akufunde ibali.
Ukuhlawula . Abanye abantwana banokuzuza ngokuqhagamshelana nokudibanisa. Ukuzihlalisa kwiintsana kuye kwaxhunyaniswa neentombazana ezinqabisayo, ukwandisa inzuzo, kunye nokulawula ubushushu bawo. Uyakwazi ukulandela iindlela ezifanayo zokusasaza umncinci , usebenzisa i-lotion elula okanye i-oil kunye nehla enye yeoli oyithandayo. Qiniseka ukuba uhlolisise nodokotela wakho wezilwanyana ngaphambi kokuba usebenzise ioli efunekayo kwesikhumba somntwana wakho, njengokuba abanye abantwana banokuba neentlonelo ngakumbi kunabanye okanye baneemeko zonyango ezinokubangela ukuba iioli ezithile ezibalulekileyo zibe yingozi.
Umdlalo osekelwe emzimbeni. Ukuba umgomo wakho ukuzonwabisa ngokunyakaza, zama ezinye iindlela zokudlala ezisemzimbeni, ezifana nokudlala "i-horsey," i-ring-around-rosy, okanye unomncintiswano wokukhupha. Isibalulekileyo kukuqinisekisa ukuba umntwana wakho omncinane nguye olawula umdlalo kunye nendlela umzimba wakhe uthinteka ngayo.
> Imithombo:
> Matte-Gagné, C., et al. Ukuzinzileyo kwiNkxaso yokuBoniswa koMama kunye neNtsebenzo yoLawulo lwaBantwana. J Child Child Stud. 2015.